What relationship is this?

It is not even infatuation, which is based on chemical attraction (thus you have to have met the person). basically, it is a fantasy relationship.

A fake one.

Infatuation due to mystery and anticipation. That is all.

I think it would take an awful lot of time chatting on the computer to develop a relationship that was anything other than mostly fantasy. I know that when I don’t have much to go on, I fill in a lot of details about a stranger with what I would like them to be. But all relationships start that way, so maybe that is what you have; the start of a relationship.

A crush.

By definition, the word infatuation involves an element of foolishness or extravagance (which itself involves an element of irrationality). Based only on the facts you provided, I couldn’t say if this is an infatuation or not.

I think it’s certainly possible to develop a meaningful, deep relationship over written correspondence.

But considering the all-the-time-thinking you mentioned, I would say this relationship is in crush mode or “honeymoon” period. Could develop into something meaningful, or it could not—only time will tell.

Whatever it is (I’m guessing infatuation with possibility) be careful. All anyone seems to want anymore from online friendships is sex or money.

I suppose anything is possible. If it’s a long distance relationship, the phone bills could add up. But, as long as your careful, it could work out somehow.

@Adirondackwannabe Good answer, but how could a relationship like that work, especially if it is in 2 completely different countries? It is for a friend of mine I am asking for. I’ll tell her what you said.

It’s probably just a crush. It’s harmless.

It might be a start to something, but pretty shakey. Meeting a person under those circumstances doesn’t really allow you to get to know them well. As others have said, much is fantasy filling in the gaps which can lead to great disappointment.

@Dibley I don’t have the answer to that. It’s probably something I’d have to experience to really now how that would work.

@Adirondackwannabe Suppose you are right, I don’t have any experience on that either, that’s why I can’t help her and why I asked the question on here. I know she likes him a lot.

play more WOW

It could develop into a relationship, but doesn’t qualify as one just yet.

@Dibley If she’s serious about him, she should try to make a connection and play it by ear. If she doesn’t try at all, she’ll never know. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

@RomanRealtors huh to the wha?

Most likely it is a fantasy where most of the connection you feel to the other person is a figment of your imagination and not based on the person’s actual personality or real interactions. It’s a crush and one that is not based much in reality – almost like an imaginary friend, in my opinion.

@RomanRealtors paint two “W’s” on each ass check and bend over.

@Dibley I am trying to think that thru and come up with a better answer, but I guess right now I don’t have it. Give me a little while to think it thru.

@Adirondackwannabe The girl is normally so quiet, she phoned me earlier today and said she has spoken to him, she was really excited. I know she has thought about him in more ways than she cares to tell him! I wasn’t sure she should be speaking to him, I think he lives somewhere in America, so they’ll never meet, but she just seems so happy right now.

@Dibley Kind of sounds like she has made some kind of connection. Even us old dogs like that initial rush. Across continents seems like a stretch, but I’ve heard of people meeting that way and it worked. I have a cousin who met and married a person in Ireland. Let me know how it works.

Sometimes even over a distance you can feel something as you arrive on common ground, It can be a scary thing but perhaps should not be denied. If it involves someone is a different country then you need to make sure there are enough common values to make connection mesh correctly.

Don’t pass it up, stange things like meeting might have happened for a reason!

I could be just wishful thinking, or the beginning of a real relationship. Only time will tell. I have known of several people who have met their current partner through the computer.

it’s called a ‘get a life’ relationship.

I knew a person who found a partner through an online dating service who lived on the other side of the world. She flew over there to meet the guy, and then came back to arrange custody issues for her daughter. The father refused to let the daughter leave the country, so this woman abandoned her daughter to go back overseas, and within a week they were married.

This may be an extreme case, but I don’t think an internet ‘relationship’ is either likely to be successful or sensible to pursue, especially when the other person lives in another country.

It’s fantasy until you meet them. Never ever get carried away until you meet them.

Relationships in a romantic capacity, anyway, as I’d consider them, tend to be in person. It’s very difficult to properly gauge one’s feelings about a person through such a vague medium.

Its all based on fantasy – you can’t ACTUALLY know the person…. Anybody can be Anyone online or over the phone….. It’s a fictional infatuation

@LethalCupcake, there’s no difference between that and real life. people can be liars in normal life and liars in virtual life. they can also be perfect for you in real life and perfect for you in virtual life. The only way to know is to try and see how far it goes.

@ninjacolin It’s a whole lot easier im sure to be a liar in the virtual world. Until you meet a person face to face – there is only so far that the relationship can go

An intuitive one.

@Adirondackwannabe I will let you know how she gets on. What happened with your cousin who married someone from Ireland, how did they get together?

@Dibley I don’t know the details of how they met online. At the time, I thought that was just some rebound relationship because she was coming off a recent divorce, so I didn’t think much about it. Seems to have worked out well for her, they’re still together after ten years. Who knows?

@Adirondackwannabe It seems almost impossible that a relationship can come of such a big distance. I have spoken to my friend again today, she was talking about him again, said they have a song now! She said she thought about him last night, I won’t go into details there!.. I’ll let her know what you said.

@stranger_in_a_strange_land How would they meet though? Could they ever meet?

It sounds like the beginning of what is now an incredible marriage between myself and my husband.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Can you explain?

@Dibley really quickly: we met on a q&a site like this called wis.dm…we were both married to someone else…we found each other’s answers hilarious, said let’s talk on ‘gchat’...our avatars weren’t our own pics so we never saw each other until multiple gchat conversations later…we exchanged pics…then we talked on the phone…within a week or two we knew we were in trouble…we were webcamming too and then we met…after that we divorced our spouses and he moved here to be with me…and now we’re married.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Wow, that’s some journey you both went through. Pleased it is all worked out for you.

@Dibley yeah, I’m pretty sure that’s not common, though

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I can’t imagine it is.

@stranger_in_a_strange_land The logistics wouldn’t be much of a problem. The US and most of Europe have fairly easy travel arrangements. If we could only get them to stop sending people over in combustible underwear.

I know my friend has feelings for this man, I personally think she should forget about him because I can’t see it going anywhere for her. Maybe he is just liking the attention.

@Dibley I guess she should try to figure out where he is coming from.

@Adirondackwannabe What does that mean? I’m going to try to make her see sense and lose all contact with him, she likes him far too much.

@Dibley ; Time for them to determine if the time to meet is approaching so they can move to the next step!

@phil196662 I don’t really want her to meet him, although she really does. They have only been in contact a short time.

@Dibley ; If you have an idea where they are in there communication then give her the guidance that helps her have it be healthy if it does work.