I need advice on how to confront a person I like and how to get their attention?

When your close to her in the group just stop, pause and don’t stare at her. Take a breath and then move toward her and simply say “Hi” to start and see what happens… Being nervous is normal- just relax.

If she had a facebook or a myspace, send her a quick message sayin somethin like. “Hey, I’ve been meaning to ask you for a while, but you always seem busy with other people. Ya wanna go out sometime, maybe catch a movie or something?”

The reason you’re so shy and nervous around her is that you’re putting so much pressure on yourself to ask her out and impress her. Valentines day just puts pressure on people, too. When you have such high expectations for one conversation, it’s a lot more likely that you’ll choke and it won’t go the way you want it to.

If you haven’t talked to her much before and just ask her out of the blue, she’ll probably shoot you down. You should aim for something more attainable, like first saying “hi.” If you have any mutual friends, maybe that person could start a conversation with her. If not, your next step is to have a quick, casual conversation or two with her. If she happens to be standing near you, make a funny observation about something that’s going on, or ask her a question about class. That way she’ll be a little more familiar with you. Don’t just hone in on her- talk to other people and be friendly and engaging. She’ll get a better opinion of you if she sees you having a good time and talking to other people. Get to know her a little bit at a time, and once you feel comfortable around each other, then ask her out.

One last tip: be a nice, engaging person, but don’t go out of your way to do nice things for her at this stage. It’s nice if she drops her book and you pick it up because you’re nearby, but it’s weird if you come up to her and give her an expensive gift. Big gestures from someone you don’t know well can be very off-putting.

When you see her when she is not surrounded by a throng (crowd) look her directly in the eyes and tell her, “My name is _______. I’ve wanted to get to know you better since the beginning of the school year. When would be a could time to go for a cold drink or a coffee? Would you prefer a school day or on a weekend?”

Scary? Yes! Dangerous? No!

Sweet? Yes! Sincere? Yes! Girls like that!

Just do it!

Well, not confront. Approach. Confront, sounds, well, confrontational, and that’s obviously not what you’re looking to do. Be careful how you set this up to yourself in your head, OK, and you’ll worry less about it. Just think of it as making a new friend. Calm yourself and take some deep breaths before you go talk to her. She’s a person, not a goddess. Just like you. Good luck.

(Is this the guy from the other question?)

yes it isss…. yes it is…. well thanks for the thoguhts