Guys: Why would you stand up a girl?

generally there are two reasons…you are either forgetful, or a jerk. i’d say you just need to figure out which he is, and act accordingly!

good luck!

The fact that he wants to “Make up” indicates that he knows damn well he’s messed up. The fact that he has not apologized does not bode well for any future dealings with him. It is, in fact, a strong indication that he would have trouble in the future ever admitting to wrongdoing, and signs right now point to lots of future wrongdoing.
Drop him like a bag of dirt.

Could be that his buddies that didn’t have dates wanted to do something else. And he agreed to join them. Either way, forget about him and look for some else that is not a selfish dick.

I wouldn’t because that’s mean, rude, insensitive, and thoughtless. If I didn’t want to go out with someone, I wouldn’t make the effort to go through the motions of asking them out to just turn around and neglect them outright. That’s just wrong.

As for your current situation, he doesn’t sound deserving of another chance and you may well be better off finding someone better than him. No apologies and a lackluster excuse for treating you like that? Wrong answer on his part, all the way around.

Women are evil bitches….

What you need to do is tell him to fuck off :)

He’s a teenage boy.
If you want to let him make it up to you, you could try to make it safe for him to tell you exactly what his experience was.

I don’t know what it was, but my imagination and memory of what it’s like to be a teenage boy says it might be something like this, maybe (or maybe not): He had a lot of anticipation about it, was excited about it, but when it came time, he got scared (“deer in the headlights”) and consciously or not, failed to go when he needed to, got embarrassed/upset, and hid.

If you make it safe for him to share whatever his experience was with you, then it can make a big difference for him being able to grow through that phase. It’s appropriate for his age, and love relationships are for helping each other through such things.

Or you can tell him to fuck off, as lucille suggested. That’s age appropriate teenage girl behavior. ;-)

That sucks, sorry. He didn’t even apologize? That’s weak, forget him.

It is fairly unlikely that the guy forgot. He may have changed his mind about going or about going with you. He clearly lacked the guts or the manners to tell you to your face that he would prefer not to go.

If this guy is really important to you, you can press him for an honest answer. If he gives one and takes responsibility, you may give him another chance. Otherwise, don’t waste any more time on him.

@Dr_Lawrence: I think he should give an honest answer and an apology. No 2nd chance though.

@cheebdragon – I personally haven’t done anything to merit the title “evil bitch”, I’m not sure of what your experiences with women are, but a generalization like that is both offensive and wrong unless you are using it to specifically describe women you’ve had dealings with.

Cold feet happen, but he still ought to have told you.

Since you asked him to the dance it sounds as he didn’t know how to say no. He must like you enough though to have said yes in the first place. Move on and find a guy who would ask you to a dance.

@dogkittycat – @cheebdragon is a woman. And I don’t think she was calling you an evil bitch.

If i were in your shoes, i wouldn’t even act like it bothers me, i wouldn’t give that person another chance. In my mind it would truly be thier lose not mine. I prefer to deal with rejection like a genteman, which means i would thank you for time then bid you fairwell.

He probably got cold feet when he remembered he doesn’t know how to dance. And he was too embaressed to tell you so he turned his phone off and locked himself in the closet… this guy sounds wierd

I would never in a million years do that. That is cowardly.

@hungryhungryhortence I agree with you but it is not my decision, it is hers!

I hope this doesn’t sound too blunt, but he probably stood you up because it wasn’t important enough to him to keep the date. Sure he likes you or he wouldn’t have said yes right away… but something probably came up, and that was obviously more important or he wouldn’t have “forgotten.”

Anyway, sorry you’re going through this. Men can be jerks… and this one sounds like dead weight. If he asks for a second chance, I say make him beg.

@dogkittycat it’s not a generalization if it’s true, you’re just too young to see us for what we really are.

Sounds like a really weak excuse to me, if he had really been interested in you he would have been there or would have contacted you. If there had been a genuine reason for him not turning up he would have told you. If you pursue this guy there is a strong chance he will continue to mess you around, I would steer well clear if I were you, there are plenty of lovely, considerate men out there, don’t waste your time on him.

If I were you, I would just move on! There are plenty of nice single guys out there. More than you think!

Drop him fast. I am 53 and just had a 53 yr. Old man do this to me. Three times! I made excuses for him for a while then, boiling mad, I confronted him. He said” I have no answer to your question”. I agree with Zaku, arrested development. It is the result of severe lack of self esteem and self-absorption. He is a narcissist. Your feelings don’t matter cause he only thinks about his.( I like her, but I am scared of a relationship, I always get hurt. I don’t want her to think I don’t like her so I will just say nothing.) Cowardly in the extreme. Find a good one, sweetie. I did and I am so glad I did.