Is it ok to ask a classmate on a date?
EDIT: Had to change title to make it more descriptive due to fluther mods, so if you replied to this I never got to read them.
Ok there is this cute girl in my class who has my attention. We have class twice a week and class has been going on for about 3 weeks now. We talk, we do our work together, and she seems interested (telling me random details about her life, job, etc and laughs).
Would it be somehow wrong or create a conflict of interest if I asked her out? Something simple like at the end of class:
Hey, whats your plans for tomorrow?
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Ohh, well I’m going to see Legion tomorrow, want to come?
I’m just getting really tired of having women come around me and I feel like there is something situational to why I can’t act on it. Thoughts like, “Ohh we haven’t known each other long enough.” “She’s in my class”, “She’s my friends friend”, “She’s already been claimed”, “Sbe’s too close to my social circle.”, “She chills with frat kids.” I always let women who seem intrested in me at first get uninterested in me due to failure to act. ALWAYS!!
I want to just act on something already. Is this wrong? Is it wierd to ask girls in class out? Will this create a conflict of interest and will there be something “wierd” for the rest of the semester? Is it too soon to act? Am I over thinking this?
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There is absolutely no conflict of interest in asking a girl in your class out. That’s why you have classes – to meet girls! :-) I say go for it; ask her out. Good luck!
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Unless you are the teacher of the class, it is no conflict of interest at all in asking out a girl in your class. How do you think most students meet each other but in class?
Just ask her to do something with you and take it from there.
I’m guessing she would be disappointed if you didn’t ask her.
As long as you are not the teacher, there is no reason not to ask her out! Go for it.
Tell her how you have enjoyed being near her and working on things together in class and and you would like to get to know her better. Look into her eyes when you talk to her and speak softly but distinctly.
Good luck.
Go for it, history and women reward the bold…at least more frequently than the passive.
Ask her out already!!!:))
The only conflict of interest is in you head!! Man up and ask her out already!!
Ok. I just thought it might be wierd that I tried asking her out and she says no then I have the rest of the semester to be there (there is only 9 people in the class, 3 guys).
What if I am misreading things or she has a man already or something?
I’ll try it though.
There’s nothing wrong with asking if she’s already attached. How else would you find out? Espionage?
Even if she has some reason (like another relationship) to decline, she will be flattered that you asked. There is nothing weird about that. What is she says yes and kisses you for asking?
@fundevogel:
Espionage works. Facebook is a crazy thing. Now I don’t have to make an ass out of myself. In a relationship and appears to be very dedicated :(. Fuck it I guess I’ll just focus on someone else there or once again wait some more…. [/women]
She still is useful for getting my class shit done :)
@FlutherMe Ahh, that sucks. Sorry. But don’t shine her on – stay friends. Relationships end all the time, so there’s no saying you won’t get a chance in the future.
I don’t think there is a conflict of interest since she’s a classmate (rather than your student or teacher). If you feel good about her, go for it.. as long as you’re prepared to accept that there is a chance she will turn you down.
Ahh I just read one of the OP’s comments.. I think the best way to find out if she has someone is to ask, even if it’s in an indirect way.
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