I tend to have to much doubt about myself and others, how can I best solve this problem?

Is this about one thing in particular, or many?

You just gotta see that regardless of what the people you’re supposed to believe and trust say, this life is yours. I had the same problem, and only recently got over it, so it’s easy to relate. For me this all happened about a week ago. I saw that my mother and brother may think that know whats best for me, but in the end I wasn’t the one living my life.

Listen to what they say, and take it in stride. If you hear “be cautious”, well don’t go balls to the wall, but if it’s something you still want to do. Then do it.

Only you can lead yourself to your own happiness.

@Shield_of_Achilles Thank you. I am glad to see that their are others out there that can relate to how I feel. I am very happy for your achivement and wish you nothing but happiness.

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@sweethottaco Thanks much. If you wake up every day and force feed yourself confidence, eventually you keep some of it. You’ll see how the world works for you soon, until then, try making more and more decisions for yourself. Some things will hurt, but in the end you’ll be better for having done them….. Except for drugs… Those are pretty much bad news from the get go and there isn’t much to learn from them… Trust me.

@sweethottaco well no wonder, I have enough doubts about myself and abilities w/out letting the curious onlookers add to them as well. First is acceptance, you may be a bum sitting amidst your own filth but is it your choice, people may jeer and judged but it only matters if it suits you. So acceptance of your faults and pride in your victories. I’m many philosophical and religious matters “know thyself” as Socrates said so long ago “the unexamined life is not worth living” Without arrogant mooching, take from others what works for you and discard the rest as BS. I was talking to a US Marine Sargent at the recruiting office across from my old apartment, he said “It’s okay to be scared, but not OK to be nervous.” I took it to mean you can be shaking in your boots, soil yourself but do not become impulsive or compulsive. You aren’t so bad, it may be you have more worth sitting in front of the TV than any titan of capitalism or industry and make no mistake you have worth. We are different from the other animals, our intellect allows us to go beyond our mere bodily needs and mental wants. A dog can be nothing more or less than a dog, humans, endless possibilities. Practical practice, think of that man you want to be, look at a role model too, then start acting like that man, if you change the outside first (which can sometimes be seen as shallow) the rest of your mind and body cannot help to follow our new action, then sets in integrity. Psychological boundaries, are important the easiest way I’ve found is to raise the hand in the universal stop gesture and say “talk to the hand”

I tend assume other people know more about things (whatever we happen to be talking about) than I do. I sometimes have trouble with self confidence. But I always feel more confident if I have double checked my facts. Opinions and views can be argued, but facts are facts.

” I tend to have to much doubt about myself..”
Not with that Avatar!
Seem pretty confident there.

I think learning to trust yourself and letting go of the need to follow other people’s oppinions, is a process. nothing I or anyone else will say now, will help you for any longer than the near few days. you best get help, Life-coaching is a wonderfull way for that, others see a psycoligist, that’s good too. As long as you realise there is no magic help, what you are really asking for is to learn to trust your self, to recognise your own way of doing things and be able to follow it, maybe to be able to stand up to others in your life, these all take time, they dont come overnight..

You are completely in charge of how you choose to feel. If you are dependent on these other people you will usually choose to indulge in feelings of doubt and insecurity. However, when you decide to become self-supporting and independent, you will change your outlook.

@Shield_of_Achilles You know what? Your pretty awesume. I appreicate your advice. I guess every now and then we need to remind ourselves of what we are and what we have. :)