Would you ever date a woman that doesnt know how to cook?

Um. That seems really… outdated. My husband does 90% of the cooking in our house, and we’re no spring chickens!

My wife burned water, when we first married. she made homemade biscuits one night that could have been used for sinkers, while fishing. those biscuits defied gravity. drop one on your toe and its broken. i had to make a move for her sake and mine, so i ask her to please go to my mothers house and watch her prepare one Christmas dinner. also, to ask her mother for good cooking ideas. this worked. my wife now makes the meanest cornbread in the south and her homemade banana pudding is a blue ribbon winner. it just takes time and patience.

@augustlan oh you’d be suprised just how many men care if women can cook.

Sounds like you don’t want to do the cooking. Is she willing to learn? Or, does she refuse to cook? Learning to cook together can be a lot of fun, if she is willing this could be a great thing to do together. Maybe you could share the job if you become more serious.

If your expectation for your wife is that she will do all the cooking, and your girlfriend is sure she doesn’t want to cook, then I think you should break up.

No, but I don’t think I’d date a woman who did know how to cook either.

If food is that important, a guy should learn how to cook. As for me, I’m looking for a guy who can clear land and build a homestead.

That is sexist.
And you’ll teach her if you have to??

I love cooking, and I do most of the cooking in my relationships. In two of the three relationships I’ve had they weren’t good at cooking at all. I would like it more if they can fix a car. I hate cars. I suspect that they are planning something.

@john65pennington As long as she wants to cook.

@JLeslie i just said that i didnt CARE if she doesnt cook. how does it sound like i dont wanna cook..iim willing to cook for her..i love doing things for her. and she wants to learn too. im just askin others opinion.

@oratio Ha… I’m the handyperson in our house! I even have my own tools. :)

@Violet sexist or not, men do it at times.

@bigboss If you don’t care, why do you ask the question? It should be a non-issue then.

The ex love of my life could only cook pasta, microwavable stuff, and take out…..

@JLeslie becuase when i clicked on “START A DISCUSSION” i had the funny wierd idea that i might be STARTING A DISCUSSION.

Why does she need to know how to cook? If you want homemade food- then cook it yourself. It saddens me how some people (not just men and not you in particular) expect women to automatically learn domestic arts simply because they are in a relationship with someone who demands that they do.

I’ve never heard of women sending their husbands/SO’s over to their Dads to learn about car mechanics because they should know, the poor dears.

and with that I shall bow out gracefully from this conversation as I’m quite sure I’d become a bit heated in a few moments. better to leave with a smile, yes?

@JLeslie I agree!
@bigboss you act like being sexist is acceptable

@gemiwing HAHAHA i love this answeer and i know not aa thing about cars.

is it necessary, no. is it more attractive, yes.

@Violet no i dont think its acceptable. i just said it happens. murders and rapes happen as well, stating it doesnt mean i find it acceptable. i think sexism is wrong.

@bigboss please don’t talk about rape so casually

i will speak of whatever i want anyway i want, godbless this country.

I know a good bit about cars and basic repair/upkeep…. My dad saw to that….

just sayin…

I’ll surprise everyone:
I actually love to cook and I inherited it from my father who was an excellent chef among other things. So as long as she doesn’t burn toast it’s all good…

my girlfriend makes me toasted english muffins and ham and cheeze sandwiches…to me she’s the greatest chef in the world. i love the little midget so much.

A woman asks you to not speak about rape so casually, and you respond egotistically…

@bigboss AND you said you would teach her if you have to. Implying that you want her to learn. If you just want to see what others think, that’s fine. But, the way you worded your question made me think it mattered to you, even though now, during the honeymoon stage of your relationship (assuming you have just been dating for a short time) you were ok with it.

@bigboss You my not realize this, but the wording and premise of your question along with your additional comments make you sound sexist, and that’s not ok. It’s as though you’re graciously accepting some flaw– a woman who can’t cook…

Not only would I—I did, several times before getting married. For a few years, I did all the cooking in our house which I enjoyed greatly. More recently, my wife has taken an interest in cooking and is doing a fabulous job. The grill remains my exclusive domain, however…

@Violet Chill babe. No one here thinks it’s a light subject, i assure you.

@JLeslie well i would teach her if she asked me. i mean she doesnt HAAAVE to know how to cook,but it would be nice to have something made for me. its like a gift. i think its thoughtful becuase it takes care and time to cook, so it means a lot to have a meal made for me. this is regardless of gender. i heard on the radio this guy saying its a shame if a woman doesnt know how to cook, though it was funny i dont think a woman HAS to know how to cook, i wanted to know just how many men cared if a woman can cook or not.

I get it, no problem. Like I said I was working off of how I interpreted your question. By the way I hold no judgement on whether a woman you date should cook or not. I am not calling you sexist, I think if that is something you want in your girlfriend or wife, your prerogative. Cooking is a big deal, you eat every day. That is why I said if you think you want your wife to cook, then be sure and think ahead. My father felt like you, that cooking was a loving caring thing to do, but he took it to an extreme and even when my mother was exhausted from working all day he wanted her to still come home and make a meal, and it couldn’t be a quick sandwich or salad, every night he wanted a cooked dinner. I am not in any way assuming you are like my father, I am just again saying if it is very important don’t ignore it, be realistic.

It sounds like you have lots of women discussing this with you! I like cooking- it soothes me to make a pot of soup. I taught my kids to cook for themselves, and DIY stuff as often as we could. I also like tools, can get lost in the hardware department. I’d like to do carpentry! And, yes, every man should know how to change a tire and every woman too, it could save your life.

@JLeslie oh hell no. I MUST have said my question the wrong way. i would never have my gf or wife do anything she didnt want to or couldnt do. if she was exhausted id ask her to relax and I WOULD COOK for her and bring that shit to her bed…IT FEELS so good to see the look on her face when i do things for her. and cooking is no exeption. like i said, its like a gift, i make flan for her and her mom all the time and bring it over. i love doing it for them.

@bigboss Wrong is too harsh of a word. I understand what you were getting at now. And, you are getting some answers to your question; the question you intended.

in defense of men…

a woman that cant cook is like a man who cant write poetry. while you may be open to the idea of dating a man who will never be able to write you a romantic poem chances are you will prefer it if he could.

if a man is crap at poetry, and he writes you a poem. i would imagine you would tell him you like the poem, even if you dont. the reason being, he spent time on it and HE made the poem for YOU. he made it for you and just for you. and while the poem is never going to be published and its value as literature is worthless chances are you will keep it.

a woman that cant cook is not a problem at all, and while most guys will be open to the idea of dating a woman who cant cook chances are we will prefer one who can.

if a woman is crap at cooking, and she cooks me dinner. i would tell her that it tastes good and that i like it. she spent time on it, and SHE made the food just for ME, she made it for me and just for me. and while the meal is never going to appear on a five star restaurants menu and it tastes like it came from a dead tramps rectal cavity, you can bet your ass ill eat it all up.

@poisonedantidote “and SHE made the food just for ME”

and that feels damn good. its actually very flattering.

aye, personally it melts my heart.

EDIT: how does that old saying go, a key to a mans heart…

@Shield_of_Achilles I said “please don’t talk about rape so casually”
and he said “i will speak of whatever i want anyway i want”
So I do think someone here thinks lightly of rape.

@Violet F*** it, give me a bottle of lube and well get this all squared away then…

@Violet OH MY GOD chill out. Jesus. Just because he says the word “rape” doesn’t mean he takes the act of rape casually. He says it himself: “stating it doesnt mean i find it acceptable”.

@poisonedantidote .”...is through his belly!!!”

@Shield_of_Achilles I’m not quite sure what you’re saying, but it sounds sexy
@melanie81 I’m sorry, have you been raped? And then when you said “please don’t talk about rape so casually” someone said back to you “i will speak of whatever i want anyway i want” ??

oooooooh boy heere we go…i think sumone wants attention….if you dont like something then click on to another question or another website

@bigboss I think someone needs to learn how to spell someone. And who am I trying to get attention from? You? You can stop talking to me any time.

@Violet Actually, I have. Houston, 2006. It was one of the reasons I moved away, and yes, it was a terrible experience, but you know what? I must move on with my life. I cannot live each day thinking that people are out to get me.

what the hell does all this have to do with cooking! lol

@bigboss haha seriously!

@bigboss you brought up rape
@melanie81 then of all people, I would think you would be able to be more sensitive about the subject. I said “please don’t talk about rape so casually”, and he said “i will speak of whatever i want anyway i want”
I thought I asked nicely

@Violet you did ask nicely. but you had no need to ask at all becuase i wasnt using it casually. i just typed the word.

should i have typed it like this? -

”@Violet no i dont think its acceptable. i just said it happens. murders and rapes(which is a very serious situation, one that i do not take lightly, support, or find amusing in anyway) happen as well, stating it doesnt mean i find it acceptable. i think sexism is wrong.”

@bigboss do you think sexism really happens, like rape? (I’m not trying to be mean or rude, I honestly want to know the connection)
I think sexism is a state of mind, and rape is an violent action. (I’m not saying you are sexist)

I don’t think you had to say that. I know you don’t think it’s acceptable. I just wanted you to know, that to some women, even hearing the work rape can be difficult. I’m sorry if I flipped out, but the subject hits way too close to home.

@Violet I just wish you would be sensitive to the fact that I did encounter rape on a first-hand basis and not make me feel like I’m not being sensitive enough about the subject.

The fact of the matter is that I never interpreted anything that @bigboss said to think that he takes act of rape casually. He was simply putting it out there; he just typed the word.

(sorry for the delay, all seems to be calmed down now)

[mod says] And let’s keep it that way, shall we?

I currently do :).

@SeventhSense No one likes burnt toast.

@Violet It may just be…. but then again, you would have to involve you to be classified as such

@Shield_of_Achilles I’m sure your “ex love of your life” could cook more than just those things.

I’m not a guy, but I’ll answer anyway. I’m vegetarian, so the things I make often include tofu/soy substitutes. That for some reason, never seems to appeal to the guys that I know, so I refrain from making them food when we hang out.
Plus, guys that cook for ME are pretty great.. so I don’t really mind the assumptions that I can’t cook.
Though, about 90% of what I eat, I make myself/from scratch. It’s just better that way. Fresh fruits and vegetables? Yes, please.

@oratio I prefer to work on cars than cook!

@rangerr You are the perfect woman :)

Of all the features of a woman to worry about, cooking ability is not one I place high on the list.

My husband is a fantastic cook, and I find it very attractive. I have learned most of my cooking skills thanks to my husband, but I wanted to learn. It is a great feeling to hear him say “that was delicious”. just sayin’

I’ve decided that if I ever leave my husband I’m going to find me a nice woman who can cook and settle down with her. Here is my personal add: Happy, humorous woman with a sarcastic bent. Must be a skilled cook and must love dogs. I’ll do all the cleaning and I’m sure I could dig a clam with the best of them. :o) Please no flannel shirts or chain driven wallets need apply.

@rangerr I’m just repeating what she said

I am a bad cook. I can do chops, steaks and chicken. when after I apologised to my husband for yet another burnt, greasy ruined fried rice dish that I was trying to make, he said, ‘I didn’t marry you for your cooking”

I’m that woman, at least I’m not a very good cook and I don’t enjoy cooking. My boyfriend hasn’t left yet!