I need advice about finding my uncles relatives?

or from USA

Ask your Grandparents, your other Aunts and Uncles, and other people who might know about him. Ask him for some names, date and places, then search the public records in those places.

the problem is, hes not really blood related. my mom took him in.

Doesn’t he know? Surely he can tell you about his family?

Maybe it’s me, but I feel like I’ve been dropped into the middle of a conversation in your head. Let me see if I can understand this: You have a person that has been in your life who is like an uncle, but is not a blood relative. He’s told you stories about his life and family, and one of them involves a brother who lives in Italy, who’s rich, because he’s living off your “uncle’s” income from the Vietnam war? Is that true, or are you fantasizing that because of something you’ve read on Yahoo about someone else finding family members?

There are several things in there that don’t make sense. First of all, if you’re uncle is getting any sort of treatment, support, etc. from the Veteran’s Administration, he’s not dead in the system. In order to get any sort of survivor benefits, you have to be declared dead. Second of all, siblings don’t get survivor benefits. Thirdly, in order to get money from an insurance policy, you have to be declared dead. Fourthly, no one made any money by being a Vietnam veteran.

Why exactly are you looking for brothers in Italy? Why are you not looking in the US for the ex-wife and children, or his parents?

I am very confused…

Phone book.

Oops sorry, his bro lives here. and he is rich, with a nice big house, cars… etc.

i’m looking because i feel bad about him. he’s lonely.
the only true family he has is us, and that’s it.

You should try getting a birth certificate for him, that should list his parents details and where he was born. From there you might be able to do a google name search of surnames and towns, loads of people are online with facebook etc and you could send a generic email ‘looking for relatives of the xxxx family, just wanting to get in touch’. Or with him having been in the services he would have been part of a platoon, regiment etc and would have his own ID number so perhaps you may be able to track down old friends of his that he served with. OR if you know the date and place he was married/divorced it might be possible to search for the decree nisi/absolute which should have his ex-wife’s last known address (she might not have moved) and perhaps she could pass on details to their children. Not everyone moves around, unusual surnames are pretty easy to trace these days. But if all that is proving hard to do or to find family, what about getting him some proper support so that he can start to develop interests or meet other people with whom he can make friends or at least get out of the house?

good luck

If he was in the U.S. military when he was in the Vietnam war, all you need is his social security number to ask the VA about his family.

The movie, The War at Home with Kathy Bates, Martin Sheen and Emilio Estevez gives a good understanding about the impact of the Vietnam War on families. It’s really hard to understand the dynamics in hindsight. Even graduating from high school three years after the draft stopped, the impact on my life was minimized.

Does he have any contact with relatives at all?

Oh, there are a lot of sites, that can give you information about your friend. You just need to choose which one you prefer and I think they will require some payments. But as far as I know, if you don’t find the needed information they will give your money back.
Here are some choices:
1. You can search your friends phone number history here: reverse phone lookup
2. Do email address search here: email search
3. Find your friend’s address history here: people search

Or you can just simply type the name in Google, and see if he has profiles in different social networks, like Facebook.

Good luck