hi again, glad to hear she is at least physically ok.
i have no real experience of this kind of thing first hand. but i would say and do this, roughly in this order:
- convince her its not her fault, she was just unlucky.
- tell her she is not worthless, she had no choice, fighting back could have got her hurt.
- tell her your feelings for her have not changed.
- tell her you will help her fight it as much as she wants and talk about it as much as she wants to.
- don’t talk about it if she does not want to at the time.
- put your arm on her back instead of hug her when she cries (unless she goes to hug you) get her a hot drink or something and then come back.
- dont talk about having sex until she does, but let her know that you are doing this and that you still find her attractive and will do it as soon as she wants to
- consider offering to pay for therapy or something, tell her you will come with her if she wants or she can go alone.
- try to put it behind you, talk about it only if she brings it up, if she says just forget it then do so.
and possibly…
depending on who she is and what she is like, at some point (in my unqualified opinion) i would consider possibly saying “stop making such a big deal out of it” this one though, could easy do more damage than good, and i would only use it if this rape thing starts to consume her and ruin her life.