Advice or support for someone dealing with grief?(Myself) Thanks.

Take a long hot shower everyday. Let the water slowly wash away your sorrows.

I mean if running water can cut the grand canyon, why not, right?

worked for me at least

Don’t isolate yourself. To isolate is to surrender to the grief. You will need the strength of others while you are recovering.

Cry when you need to. Get it out then and there. If you hold it in, it will just build up and become even more painful.

Throw yourself into chores and hobbies. There is something about activity that beats the clinging grief away. Activity forces one’s mind to move on, and not dwell deep in the darkness.

Finally, count your blessings. Don’t ponder for long periods of time on what you have lost. Remembering the positive, and the good in your life will restore your hope and help you to be happy again. :)

Sorry to hear you are going through this. I usually advise people to give yourself time. There will be impatient people around you who will be uncomfortable seeing you so sad, but don’t let them make you feel bad about needing time. Let your friends and family help you. Be around them, let them cook for you, visit with them to occupy your time, and they might share their own stories of loss, which can be helpful, you will feel less alone. If the grief becomes disabling for an extended period, where you are unable to get out of bed for weeks, unable to eat, shaking, and other physical manifestations get medical help. Lastly, people will most likely say some things that piss you off or seem unfeeling, just ignore those things, remembering that everyone is only trying to help, their intentions are good.

Great answers so far. I had a breakdown and I’m sure it wasn’t helped because I did completely isolate myself. I couldn’t bear the pain. Talk, and when you get tired of talking talk some more honey. It really does help. I used to light a candle and talk to my grandmother. My whole life she was my best friend and i missed her so much it did almost kill me. Talking to her helped, it still does. A very wise nurse at my doctors practice told me that I should “fight the battles I can win”. I still follow that advice to this day. Go outside, do something special for yourself everyday, even if its a daft little thing to make yourself smile. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time.
sending you mountains of love and hugs honey, it will get better I promise <hugs>
xx

Go on with life dude, talk about your grief.

Sorry to hear you’re grieving.. it’s difficult, I know. Go easy on yourself, let yourself feel whatever you’re feeling without judgment. Lean on people, talk about things if you can. Try to keep yourself busy, try to not isolate yourself, both things will help keep you from obsessing too much. Allow yourself time to heal, which I think is the hardest thing, because I’m always so impatient for the pain to go away. Know that you’re in a dark tunnel now, but if you keep moving forward, there will be a day when you emerge from the darkness. Volunteering and helping those in need can also be very helpful, it transfers focus from your own struggles to someone else’s; in addition, it gets you around other people and it feels good to help others.

I wish you the best.

Time. Talk about it. Don’t be afraid to ask for medical help. I needed isolation (at least I felt that I did), it may be healthy up to a point (I’m slightly autistic, so my advice here is suspect). I’m at the point now where isolation is no longer doing me any good, if it ever did. I’ve been told to expect pain for a long time, I’m three months into the process. I’m pushing myself back into the world, if for no other reason than I know that my late wife wouldn’t want me to be as I am now. Try to set some kind of goal; I’m going to finish my doctorate in history. I have no idea what I’ll do with it, but that is beyond my current event-horizon. Do just for the sake of doing. I’ve found that vigorous daily exercise (wood chopping or cross-country skiing in my case) can temporarily lift depression. It releases some chemical into your brain (endorphins?). I feel your pain and grieve with you.

Sorry your having to go thru this. It would help me respond if I knew who you lost and where you are in the process. If it hurts too much to go further just let me know.

Defiantly great answers above! Keeping busy, keep yourself around people, and time are defiantly the big ones. I know for myself that keeping yourself isolated really amplifies a lot of problems, especially grief and depression. If you have a significant other, try spending more time with them to keep your mind off of things.

Please take care of yourself. Be gentle with yourself. When you are grieving, your thought processes are scattered. Your body aches.

Don’t listen to anyone who says “You should be over it by now.” There is no timetable.

Surround yourself with understanding people.

I am also sorry that you’re going through this. Like a few other people have said, time is the best, but I’m sure you’re wanting something now. Do whatever feels right to you. You may want isolation one day and that will work for you, but the next day you may want everyone around you, and that will also be right. There will probably not be one thing that works for you day in and day out, but know that it’s normal. It helps me to write down my feelings. Sometimes I go walking out in the country. After my mom died, I bought flowers on my mom’s birthday that year to plant in my garden, and I’ve done that every year since. She had great flower gardens, and it just felt right. I also have things that she’s written-notes, recipes, birthday cards, etc., and sometimes I go through them. And like others before me have said, if it becomes too much, ask for help. You’re not crazy for asking for help. It’s not a bad thing. It’s not wrong.

As a person who is going through the grieving process herself, I can attest to the fact that some days are going to be worse than others.
What they said. Especially don’t isolate yourself. Stay away from anyone who tries to make you feel invalidated, as this tends to create a spiral going downward. It’s counter productive to try to listen to anyone who tells you why you shouldn’t grieve, or that you’ve grieved long enough. If you find yourself non functional, maybe you could talk to someone like a minister, or even a professional.
Just give it time and allow yourself to go through the process.
Good luck. You can always talk to us.

Definitely what @Trillian said about talking to us. We’re not professionals (well, I’m not), but a lot of us have gone through this. Sometimes the best people to talk to are the ones that have been there.

Cry. Write. Treat yourself kindly. Try to always have a warm and tidy atmosphere in your home. Listen to music you love. And all of the wonderful advices above…

We’re here for you whenever you want to talk about it. Reminisce, cry, rant, rave. Whatever gets you through. We understand.

Thank you everyone you really helped me yesterday! :-)))

@princessbuttercup Your very welcome! Jellies are the bomb!

Yes Jellies are great I see. :-))))

@princessbuttercup Do you need to talk some more. I’m available if you need a shoulder.
@stranger_in_a_strange_land I’m kind of surprised it’s been that soon. You’ve handled this better than I did. At three months into the process I was in the hide in the basement so no one would see me crying and asking the heavens why stage.