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How should I go about in dating this guy?

Asked by Eap6389 (99points) February 1st, 2010 from iPhone

There is this guy I really like but I’m not sure he feels the same way..we go to school together..well he is a second semester and I’m a first in nursing school so I don’t get to see him much but we also work together. I’m afraid if I try to ask him to hang out or something because he might be opposed to it because we work together. I really like him though and want him to ask me out but I just don’t really know how to make that happen.. What’s a girl to do?!

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Ask him out for coffee or something simple like that.If he says no,poke him with a stick until he changes his mind ;))

mowens's avatar

Keep him talking. About anything that comes to your mind. He will ask you out.

stump's avatar

Ask him to lunch to discuss some nursing thing. Ask him for help, since he is ahead of you in the program. You can feel him out while talking about school. If he is responsive and friendly, suggest you get together in the evening to ‘follow up’.

abrooke's avatar

Occasionally flirt with him, let him know you into him but not too into him.
Make him notice you, talk about work over lunch or something.
Become his friend, start doing the things he likes, but dont get too involved.
Smile and make eye contact
Be cute but dont make any first moves take the time and let him talk to you first sometimes. Be an assertive girl, guys dig that. You are the girl, you have the power. Make him feel special once you know there is an attraction between both of you. Dont be a slob. Oh and most important of all be yourself! Not a cold hard plastic barbie doll:)

Cruiser's avatar

Ask him for help on an assignment. If he likes you in the least, he should jump at an opportunity like that!

Snarp's avatar

I always had a terrible time with dating. I was terrified to ask girls out, and I never could take hints very well. Now that I’m married my wife seems to think she has told me things that she never told me because she dropped an obscure hint. Then the other night in childbirth class (don’t worry, I’m coming back around to the topic in a minute) the teacher said: “ladies, you have to tell your partner what you want, men do not take hints, it’s genetic”. So don’t play games like “asking for help”. Just ask him to lunch. Women should not be afraid to make the first move, or any move for that matter. Most men don’t communicate the way women do. We won’t get the hint. At best we’ll sit around and wonder if it meant something, if we should say something, do something. This is why jerks seem the most successful with women. It’s not that they get the hints, it’s that they don’t care if there’s a hint or not.

The point is, just ask him out.

marinelife's avatar

You can’t make him like you or make him break a rule he has set for himself about not dating a fellow student.

All you can do is clearly express your interest. Which you should do by asking him to go to coffee or to lunch.

Trillian's avatar

I never thought I’d say this, but I agree with @Snarp~
Seriously, they really don’t get it. You have to be direct. So let him know you’re interested, then back off. This will accomplish a couple of things. It will let him know how you feel so he can make a move. This is important to their feelings of masculinity, and it will give him a stroke. Both are important when dealing with this particular species. They need the feeling of “I’m the man, I make the moves.” They also need the occasional push that will give them the confidence they need to make that move. Lastly, it will allow him to run like hell if he’s the type who is threatened by female assertiveness. If he runs, don’t get in his way. He’s a puss.

Scooby's avatar

@Eap6389

Where were all you assertive women when I was growing up!!?? :-/
ASK him out !! He may be a shy boy like I was… so may take some time as has been said for the penny to drop!! Or for him to pluck up enough courage to make the first move, we do need that kick up the backside every now & then!! ;-) the good guys never take anything for granted, so go ahead, give him a nudge! You can still be friends, what ever the outcome!!

Vincentt's avatar

Women should take more initiative :)

i.e. ask him out.

phil196662's avatar

Your both in the same profession so you know how crazy it can get, just ask him- you never know untill you try!

daemonelson's avatar

Ask him, it’s unexpected for a girl to ask a guy.

Adagio's avatar

Invite him out, what’s the absolute worst that could happen?

Vincentt's avatar

@daemonelson In a good way of course :)

Janka's avatar

Just ask him.

Steve_A's avatar

So what happened?

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