Should I wait because otherwise I might lose her, or go for it because otherwise I might lose her?

Gotta go for it…if she says she is not interested…so what! At least you tried and if she say’s cool you have at least a couple of months to make a good go of it. One thing in life is things change and is also too short to not play the cards you have in your hand.

Why not take a chance and see what happens? Something really good could come out of it. If it turns out that it doesn’t go any further after you’ve talked to her, you’re no worse off than when you started out.

Stop over thinking it and ask her out!Just do it!...or else!

Dammit, this is why it’s so tricky to date a co-star. Acting churns up some stuff you never saw coming, and you never know if you or that someone has feelings because they’re in character, in a sense, at all times, or if their feelings are their own.

Well. I guess if you feel that strongly, you ought to ask her out.

Well that’s the thing – I also fear that if I ask her out and she says no, it could make working together impossibly hard.

And as you said, I really can’t know whether she feels the same way.

Do it! Otherwise the possibility of what could have happened might haunt you for a very long time!

What kind of signals are you getting from her?

Wait until after the play… either answer could completely mess up your performance esp if you have to work closely with her… So what if it’s 2 months, if you two feel strongly for eachother, you will find a way to make it work, even if she goes off to med school, she could be considering more than one, and one may be in the area. you don’t need to be close to be in love.

edit: wait until after the play but definitely say something.

i personally hate it when im reminded of girls i would crush over, because if i where to run into them now i wouldnt have to worry about ” what if ” im pretty much the same person just alot more happy with me which makes it easier to say, “hey can i be honest with you for a second, i have feelings for you that go beyond being freinds, if your not interested thats cool i just want to make sure that were both not missing out on something special”.

Hey niki =] Sorry I keep dropping off the face of the earth (or Fluther rather, but it’s the same thing really).

Well, the problem is that I don’t know what to interpret as a signal. She’s a generally affectionate person, so when she acts that way towards me I’m not sure how to read it. Plus, as odali said, our in-character relationship muddies the waters.

Pitying pat on the head, here.

Why wait? The timing could not be worse, but that is life. What do you gain be waiting? Noting. What do you gain by not waiting? Possibly more time with a new girlfriend.

Just ask her out, you’ll never know otherwise.

If she treats you the same way she treats everyone else, well, that’s a signal.

Does she go out of her way to talk to you? Does she laugh at your jokes even when they’re not that funny? Does she make lots of eye contact? Play with her hair when she talks to you? Find excuses to touch you? Lean in just a fraction of an inch closer than friend-distance when she talks to you?

Since you have some apprehension about pursuing her, I say trust your instincts. Try to suss out a little better how she’s feeling. And if you’re not getting a clear “no” then go for it. Ask her out. Worst case, it’ll be a learning experience.

Ask her out! If she says no don’t make the situation uncomfortable.

You can’t always be sure how someone feels about you, regardless of signals. Even if you’re not getting any signals at all, she may have feelings for you. Don’t squander the chance you’ve got. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “I had such a crush on you in high school (or wherever)” from someone I definitely would have gone out with… if only they’d asked! Go ahead and let her know you’re interested. Take a chance and live a little!

PS: Good to see you again!

Thanks everyone. I think I’ll wait a little bit to suss things out and find a good moment, but I’ll tell her.

Let us know how it turns out. Good luck!

Time isn’t on your side, so unless you get lucky soon, it’s best to act now.

How does she react to you in your scenes together?

You are better off keeping it friendly and platonic until the run of the play starts. Get through rehearsals, and get the characters set. Until then, spend as much platonic time together as you can, so she can get to know what a great guy you are, and you can get to know her. Channel your emotions into the dynamics between the characters, and spend as much time running lines with her as you can.

Go for it.

I found my self in a VERY similar situation, i asked her out and got rejected.
i stopped talking to her for a while until i realized i was missing out on a good person in my life, so i was honest and said that i liked her, but i was more focused on us being friends. she quickly accepted and were buddies now…but i’m secretly in love with her…