When in a relationship (long term) do you check other people out or find other people attractive?

attractive, yes

appealing or something I want, no

Yes,for I am not dead yet ;)

Yes.

Your appreciation of the passing pretties does not diminish with a relationship.
Do you think people magically put away moments of lustful thoughts just because they have a significant other? People don’t work that way.

Duh? I’m not sterile just because I’m in a relationship. I find it impossible to be attracted to only one person, if one is, they need to get out more or not be so dependent one that one person.

Absolutely! Looking matters not a whit, and is no indicator of fidelity.

@Blackberry: Sterility has nothing to do with libido. Just sayin’. One means you can’t have babies, the other means you kinda don’t wanna get down to make babies.

I’ve been married fro 35 years and have every intention of staying that way as long as I live. I will not cheat. But that doesn’t mean I went blind. Of course I can see when some woman I meet is attractive. I can tell when a lady is flirting with me. I just don’t respond to let it go beyond simply noticing it.

@asmonet Oh yeah oops lol.

There’s nothing wrong with that. Just in case if you broke up with him (you’ll already have your next candidate).

Look, but don’t touch! ;)

Yes I check other people out and I know he does too. In the end we are dedicated to each other for the long haul.

25 years of marriage and yes, I look, so does he, I will even point out the cute women to him. I know where his loyalties lie.

Of course I admire lovely people.

I don’t even look at anyone else, but that is because I know he with the one, so I need to check others out.

No, I don’t even notice other people in that sense because I’m not interested in anyone else. The closest I come to finding ayone else, other than my boyfriend, attractive is the odd crush on female celebrities but, even then, I know that even if Angelina Jolie offered herself on a plate to me I wouldn’t do anything unless my boyfriend could join in too!

Sure I do. Looking never hurt anything.

As i’ve said before it’s okay to window shop if you’re not buying.

No, I don’t. Even when I’m single I don’t “check out” other guys, it’s just not a big interest of mine. Moreso – when in a serious relationship I am quite satisfied with my partner and don’t look at others in that type of way.

Finding other people attractive is done by our unconscious mind. It’s natural. When someone who you find very attractive makes direct eye contact with you, you get a kick. Dopamine is released. It makes you feel good. Enjoy it.

Now your conscious mind can tell you, it would be interesting to know this person better and have a good conversation. We can know many people without pursuing sexual relationships, especially when your existing long-term relationship is stable and makes you happy.

Flirting on Fluther is harmless as well.

Its nature of the beast to do so. It is when one acts apon it that makes it wrong.

Yes. Finding others attractive is not a bad thing at all and in fact, if you did not, it would probably be weirder than if you did.

Check them out, yes. Find them attractive, yes. Pursue relationships with them, no.

Yes….of course! ;)