Should I send this guy a message on facebook?

No! You’re only in seventh grade; you’re much to young to make an impact on this much older guy, nor do you have the authority to do so. Sending this creep guy a message on Facebook will only make this situation worse. You need to talk to this girl’s parents or bring this up to a trusted adult.

I agree with @Spinel – tell an adult. Don’t think this is coming from an adult – I’m 13.

Don’t send him a message of any sort. He is older than you and your friends and should be hanging out with older students anyway, so what seventh graders think of him does not matter. However, you might try to talk to a responsible adult about your friend before she gets into really big trouble.

You have no reason to be involved, and it’s utter teenage stupidity to put yourself into this situation – or create a bigger one.

Walk the hell away.

And I’d be seriously suspicious of a 16–17 year old who was interested in 12–13 year olds, which maybe your friend is hoping for, maybe she’s lying, or maybe he really is/was hanging out with her.
Seems like your friend is just building up an interesting story for attention and the fact that she likes stoners seems to point that way. He’s ‘interesting’ debatable, older, in a different grade, and seemingly a rebel.

He’s also probably not worth your time or hers.
Tell your mom or dad, ask them to be discreet, and wash your hands of it.

And this is coming from a 23 year old chick.

Don’t talk to an adult (as the first thing) until you know something isin’t right. Ratting your friend out is really just a douchebag thing to do when your a kid. It will embarass her. No need to rat out the girl, just tell her hwhy it’s wierd first.

Don’t talk to the sophmore. When you are in highschool one day you will learn the reason why sophmores don’t date 7th graders, and the ones that do are wierd….. If you’re curious, turn on “To Catch a Predator” on NBC and you will see why.

Question: Is he an “emo” or “art kid?” If so, that will explain why.

@FlutherMe: hahaha. Too true of a question.

Ya definitely so not talk to this kid. He prolly does not even remember you girls haha. Trust me, he’ll be more into his weed than either of you especially at your age.

No ignore him completely. He’s a sophomore, way more older than you and he does… BAD things. he’s a bad boy, leave him alone

Quit bringing him up if it makes your friend angry. Ignore him. You are not entitled to know everything, unless your friend wants to tell it. Are you her friend, or a gossip? If you’re her friend, change the subject.

No.
This guy probably thinks of your friend as the middle school crazy girl and if you get involved he’ll probably think the same as you, as well as wonder what’s lacking in your life that you need this kind of drama.

Did your friend and him have any kind of relationship or is it just a nonreciprocating crush?

Stay your distance away and forget the facebook text. this is not your affair and you are too young to even think about becoming “involved”. smoking pot was the red flag for me for you. leave it alone.

@FlutherMe: I have a problem with the idea that an emo kid or artsy kid would be an indicator of what age group he would associate with. Stereotypes and assumptions are bad, mmkay?

7th grade. Aye??