Why are we so eager to villify people who break up with their SO's because said SO's won't have sex?

You’re right…more so the older you are.

I only think it’s a bad thing when that significant other only said they weren’t ready to have sex yet.

In my experience the “they don’t want to have sex” is often an excuse to disguise a deeper, more tragic reason for the “crash” of the relationship.

However, it does seem a sufficient reason. To not have sex is to display distrust. Or it can mean the reluctant one is hiding something. It an also signify a weak relationship (i.e. the other person is unwilling to draw close from fear or some other reason).

However, I agree with @Chongalicious’ view. @aprilsimnel brings up some key points as well.

you make a good point, and your right…. but the only thing is if you’re partner is not ready yet, don’t force it on them, especially if it is their first time. But being intimate like that will eventually happen, because it is an important part of having a relationship, it’s one way of expressing your love but compared to alot of other aspects of a relationship, it’s not as important and if they don’t want to have sex just yet it shouldn’t be a problem

I think it depends on what you mean by “won’t have sex.”

Two or three dates might not be enough time to develop enough trust to have sex for some people.

If they’ve been seeing each other for a while, like regularly for more than 3 months, and there’s bupkis in the bedroom, then the person who wants it is perfectly free to break it off and just be friends, as far as I’m concerned.

In either case, both people need to talk about what they want, what makes each person comfortable and what each person is willing to accommodate. If one person ideally would like it on the first date, and the partner wants to be married first, the daters need to find that out. I’m exaggerating, but it’s to make a point.

Communication, in my mind, is ultimately more important than the sex, because without communication, there’s just going to be hurt feelings and misplaced expectations on all sides, which won’t lead to good sex at all.

After spending over 20 years with a man who was only interested in sex at his intervals which were approximately every six months. After years and years of trying to make things happen more often and being met with all kinds of excuses, I finally gave up and basically turned my sexuality off. In the end while the lack of sex didn’t directly lead to the demise of my marriage, I do think it was a major contributor. Without sex we lacked intimacy, and without intimacy I think the marriage was doomed to fail.

I see nothing wrong with breaking up with someone who you are not sexually compatible with.
Being in a relationship, you figure things out with the person…the likes and dislikes, personality flaws etc. Once married, I’d say leaving someone because something happened (example, physical issue and can’t have sex, or even emotional issue) then I think that’s pretty petty. People also go through phases of wanting sex, hormones can affect this, not having time because of differing schedules…maybe just too tired and all of a sudden you realize it’s been a month since you had sex. Shit happens.

To me, it’s one thing to not even try. If I were with someone that didn’t want it, I’d want to know why. Is it physical, or mental? Did something traumatic happen? Is it worth it to try and fix the issue…I don’t know if I could just abandon someone I was developing a relationship with, because obviously there’s a friendship basis.

Biologically that’s true. We(human) naturally needs sex in our relationship with other who bond strongly as our partner. You’re dong the right thing as you follow your instinct. Speaking about mammal sexual behavior,sex is the only way to bond strongly(with commitment) with your chosen partner. It’s the natural way stimulate couple to look after for each other. In fact,research has shown that the more you did sex with your partner the more you more you love/feels to own your partner.

I try not to judge any reasons people have for breaking-up. No one else can ever know what occurs between two people.

No one I know is going to do that. I think the people involved are the only ones who can decide if their relationship is working or not. I would have zero interest in knowing the intimate details.

I agree with everything you’ve said.

I suppose it all depends on why they won’t have sex and were they like that right from the start of the realtionship, but, as others have said, I am not in their relationship so would not know all the details of why they broke up, and it isn’t my business anyway.

Anytime sex is diminished to a mere notch on the belt is no time to affix blame for yours or their feelings about who, where or when someone wants to spread their legs. The importance of sex is irrelevant the minute it becomes all about you.

These are some great answers. I would just like to specify that this question has nothing to do with me. I was just watching a show wherein this happened to a character.

If you cannot respect a person’s personal values and what they want to do with their body, then you are doing them a favour by dumping them. Whether or not to have sex with an SO is a personal decision, and not one that should be placed under undue pressure or form the basis of a relationship. It is an important part of a relationship, but if the two parties were compatible in the first place then there would be a mutual understanding of this decision and it would not be a problem worth splitting over IMHO.

If a person is not getting any sex form their partner, I think it is better that they break up, rather than cheat

What @tinyfaery said.

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