I think I never really learned how to live. Any shared insights?
I had a tragic childhood which I won’t go into, but suffice to say that most of my childhood was taken up with house cleaning, ironing and being beaten by an older brother.
I got married very young and had my child very young, then spent the next 20 years being a mother. I then looked after my parents for ten years until they both died recently. In betwixt all this I worked like shit to try and earn money to support the three people mentioned. I feel somewhere that I lost the ability to live.
Or, should I say, I have never learned how to? I simply do not know how to enjoy myself. I never give myself things I need or do things I think I’d like to do. I get confused about what I do like to do. I have no partner in life, no lover, I never visit friends any more. On a weekend if the weather is great I just stay indoors. I love the Arts, poetry and writing, but do none as I don’t see it as productive for example.
My question is how do you get out there and live when you do not even know where to begin. I am now 47, but told I look no older than 35 so there is still hope??
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get out of bed, and get out in the world. make yourself known!
Start simple. Get involved in something you like to do. Join a club if you don’t mind socializing at that level.
Or find a good man that will motivate you with new experiences.
@slick44 is right… Get out of the house! Even if it is just to walk around the block a few times.
Make yourself a project. Make discovering what you like to do a plan. Then set up a schedule to get out in the world and do some things.
Take dance lessons.
Take up a sport (start with hiking). Join a group that does the sport.
Make a plan and a schedule and stick to it.
You don’t mention having any friends. Start by making a few of those.
It is not too late for you to live your life and discover yourself. Here is your first assignment: rent the movie Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day and watch it.
OH – @marinelife ‘s so good! I second Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day. Also, Last Chance Harry.
I’m on the run so I just want to say, “It ain’t over ‘til it’s over.” The most surprising things can happen at any point in your life. It sounds to me like you are just starting to wake up and ask questions; that’s a great beginning!
There’s no one way to live. If you aren’t enjoying yourself, you can try to do enjoyable things, but that won’t help if you’re depressed. If your mood is up, then you can enjoy things. Anything. Even starting at the wall.
Of course you won’t stare at walls. You’ll go out for a walk, maybe talk to some people. Have a coffee, probably talk to more people. You’re young, still. Enjoyment comes from within. Not age or ability or anything else. It comes from an attitude of curiosity about life.
But if you’re depressed, it can be damn near impossible to go out and indulge your curiosity. And if it’s a relationship you want, you could do worse that trolling on fluther.
@wundayatta well I am only trolling today as I am awaiting some repair men, so I guess my trolling will whittle down to various remarks at appropriate times! You are right though dear person, even staring at a wall is great if you are not depressed. So OK I got your point! :P
Repairmen can work, too! ;-)
@wundayatta I’m gonna kill him when he finally arrives you realize that?—
Before or after he makes the “repair?” ;-)
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