Have you ever been drawn to (attracted to) someone for emotional reasons only?

Yes it does and I have been there and it isn’t easy to explain to others why when sometimes you cant figure it out yourself.

All the time. Seriously.

I think so. But what are you really asking? If it is normal or ok?

Constantly. Every damn day.

Yup.

@wundayatta both? And, is it common?

I think it is fine, but I don’t think you should care what I, or anyone else thinks. I think it is fine in the sense that who does it harm? I think it doesn’t matter how common it is.

What is your discomfort with it? Why do you think it is weird?

@wundayatta Is it wrong when you’re in a relationship with someone else?

Ahhhhhh.

Now I see.

So this is a very strong feeling, but non-sexual and with no desire for a long term relationship, yet, because of the strength of the connection, you worry your partner may be threatened?

Why don’t you ask her? The same as you have asked us. Tell her what you worry about, and what this relationship means to you, and that you don’t want her to feel threatened by it and what does she want you to do? Communication, as you well know, is the key to all things relationship.

(oops. I hope I didn’t overstep with my assumption there—but no matter, where worried about a relationship, talk).

Seeing as you appear to be concerned with these feelings affecting your current relationship, I’m curious as to what the difference is between the emotional connection you describe and the feelings you would normally associate with a typical platonic friendship?

Of course, this is possible. It is the basis for all friendship.

Of course – there are many inspiring people that I feel this for…it might feel weird because it can be a strong emotion and you wonder if you’re supposed to have that for other people when in a relationship…but as long as you remain having such emotions for your partner and you are staying true to yourself and the relationship, then it’s not a problem to also feel strongly connected to another being…

of course, I shouldn’t even be answering this as I am supremely biased

@jmah is it possible that the emotion you describe is something that is not being met by your partner?

Yes, for many years now I’ve made some wonderful friendships out of what were initially emotional or charismatic attractions. People are a good gamble for usually having a lot more than meets the eye ;)

Absolutly!

What @hungryhungryhortence said! For sure!

If my S/O had an emotional anything with anyone at this point in our relationship
I would go friggin ballistic.

@JessicaisinLove even if it was with someone they weren’t attracted to? like someone of the sex that they’re not attracted to, even?

I miss that closeness with my SO. I’ve been ill and we haven’t been intimate all that much. I want to be intimate. I miss it very, very much. Even just holding her/being close to her, that’ll make it better. Now that I’m getting over my illness, we’ll be able to see each other more.

As far as being emotionally attracted to someone (else), I find that with this person, we’re both going through similar struggles. We can relate. That is all. Sometimes, I wish that I could reach out and give her a hug and tell her that it’s going to be okay. But, that’s all that it is. No physical (although, she’s attractive) and no wanting to sleep with her/be with her romantically.

No I’m a man.

I think that’s normal. Especially with you guys going through the same stuff. It happens to me all the time. Even back in the days when I was in a relationship. I this part of it is just the newness and everything that makes it exciting and more intense. Nope, I think you’re normal here!

@Simone_De_Beauvoir….right now under the circumstances, the uncalled for distance between us…..................yes anyone. Right now It would really disappoint me since I’m last on his list of people to spend time with.

@JessicaisinLove I understand.