Can a woman really be attracted to her husband's uncle?

Sure, why not? What should she do about it? I don’t know what you mean by “attracted to”, but in general I say she should ignore it, and stop herself anytime she finds herself thinking about it and push it out of her head. If she values her marriage, that is.

…...As long as you’re not attracted to your own uncle.

As long as you’re not attracted to a monkey’s uncle.

@cheebdragon But isn’t it kind of the same thing, being attracted to your uncle vs. your spouse’s?

@nicobanks

Attraction doesn’t just have to be physical, attraction, it can be through admiration of someone’s ability to do things! ;-/
Ermm to delegate for example, reasoning even personal hygiene, if he looks after himself, we all find different things to be attracted to, I know I do & I find them in some very surprising places! :-/
It doesn’t mean I’m going to pursue them for it, maybe just peruse them a bit! ;-) from a safe distance……Lol..

You can be attracted to anyone, really.

It does not bode well for her marriage. She needs to focus on her primary relationship. She needs to not see or be around her husband’s uncle. She should consider marital counseling.

Attraction to anybody is vague concept. A woman may be attracted to Brad Pitt but that doesn’t mean a relationship could exist between them. and the same holds true for men as well, IMHO….

If the woman seriously thinks that she cannot be without that uncle_in-law, then she definitely has some srious issues . ..

Is it possible? Yes, of course.

Is it wise? Not at all.

The uncle is a man. Any woman may theoretically be attracted to any man. A married woman in a monogamous relationship should be keeping her mind on her own husband. The point is not that he’s anyone’s uncle. The point is that he isn’t her spouse. She should deal with the attraction in the context of her married state and seek help with that if necessary.

Of course, she can be attracted to anyone at all, just because we marry doesn’t mean we don’t feel attracted to other people, its what you do with it that counts.

I don’t see why not. Attraction isn’t a thing you can really help – as my old, very married grandma used to say, “When you stop looking, you’re dead.” (She stopped looking in 2000.) I’m married, and I find lots of people attractive.

Acting on it, though, that’s where the decision comes in. And the trouble.

Yes she can absolutely be attracted to her uncle and it can both mean there is dissatisfaction with the marriage or she is just attracted to him – if it’s the former, then the issues in the marriage should be addressed, if it’s the latter and she is monogamous, I suppose she should suppress these thoughts – a solution I never liked but then again I’m not monogamous.

I don’t see why she couldn’t be

Dunno, depends, is the husbands uncle hot?

Sure. My hubby’s uncle Randy is smokin’ hot.

He’s also kind of a dipshit, who has a bad habit of marrying really pretty, really stupid women (he’s on wife #4), but that doesn’t change the fact that he’s nice to look at.

My answer would be yes. You or anyone can be attracted to someone else, regardless of the current situation or how much you “love” someone else… But that typically means that you have no fulfillment inside. In other words, you look to others to fulfill you. If you were complete with your significant other and in all other aspects of your life, then you would not have the need for additional fulfillment to fill in the holes. It is not so much a matter of being complete, but rather one of the need to feel complete with “something” and you are seeking it where you know best… My thoughts.

Don’t listen to them! It is philosophically impossible for a woman to be attracted to her husband’s uncle. Now her husband’s aunt….. well…. that’s another story. But we won’t go into that here. Suffice it to say that, according to the principles of Kantian Buddhism, if a woman even thinks about her husband’s uncle, she disappears in a puff of quantum soup.

Can soup puff? Maybe I should ask that. No. It would be sent to chat, and I can’t go to chat because I shut everyone up. So. Where was I? Oh yes. It’s not nice to send your wife into the quantum soup, puffing or not. So generally, in such cases where meditation has been prescribed, uncles are quietly moved out of the picture so as to avoid unfortunate accidents.

My advice is that you cease and desist forthwith, and get the moderators to remove this question, because you are greatly tempting fate….. And this is yet one more reason why fathers don’t want their girls to marry!

Of course.

Well yes but she could just be attracted to her husband’s uncle’s penis. Of course I’m imagining it’s attached to him.

Fact from diction, truth from fiction. I would say if any married person man or woman is having attraction to another person be it an in-law or not is shows some dissatisfaction in the marriage, that being the catalyst to her feeling for another. I would tell her to examine why she is willing to risk her marriage with those feeling for another.

@Hypocrisy_Central (and everyone else saying this) – Attraction doesn’t always equal action. Like I said, I’m very happily married, quite satisfied, etc., but can easily find other people attractive. When I say this, it’s in the sense that I can look at Orlando Bloom as Legolas and think he’s totally hot, and appreciate his looks much like I would a perfect rose. (Substitute anyone you like for Orlando here, point still stands.) It doesn’t mean I’m going to try to find out Orlando’s address so I can sneak in his window and shag him – it just means that I appreciate eye candy when I see it.

There is a biiiiiiiiiggg difference between “being attracted to” and “acting on that attraction.” Big! I don’t even see how you can choose to not be attracted to someone, because it happens as naturally as breathing. Can you risk your marriage by walking down the street with your eyes open? Should married people totally look the other way when some cute star is on the movie screen (or the family reunion for that matter)? That would make life awfully inconvenient.

Before deciding that this is a marriage problem for the OP, we’d need to know more, I think about if this is just the “ooh, he looks nice/smells good/is pleasant company” sort of attraction, or if it’s the “I would do anything to get in his bed, and I’m considering asking him if he’s interested in The Boink.” The Boink is usually out of bounds in most marriages, but I cannot comprehend how “being attracted to” segues right into “chasing the Boink.”

People are attracted to their own uncles. At least her husband’s uncle isn’t blood related. And attraction is harmless, it’s actions that should be worried about.