Are there any ways I would be able to increase my self esteem and not feel ugly/fat?

Do you exercise?

Try to take care of your body better than you do now– eat well, exercise. While you do this, remember that no one is perfect, and we all have flaws. Good luck :)

Pray to whether you believe in and say, “Help me believe the truth about myself, no matter how beautiful it is.” (I got that from a book called Happiness Now, which changed my life.) Because that’s what you are…. we’ve been conditioned to believe otherwise… and that’s why there’s so much ugliness (of the other sort) in the world. Find some rewarding activities to do, like volunteering, exercising, etc. Find a hobby that you love and make the time to do it, even if you have a busy schedule.

I know how you feel though. For me it was always about feeling like there was something wrong with me mentally, not physically.

If you want to measure your worth by something, it’s the core of your being, not how skinny/fat you are.

<3

hangout with fatter and uglier people ;p

You’ve said in other posts that you were clinically diagnosed with BDD, so I’ll have to take your word for it. BDD is a serious issue- perhaps you should be talking with a therapist about ways to help yourself?

You look very pretty in that picture.. I don’t see why you would think of yourself as ugly.. just focus on your good features and enhance those to make yourself feel better. For example, if you’ve been told you have pretty eyes, enhance them with some eye shadow.. maybe a color that will go well with your skin tone. If you’re a little on the heavier side buy some slimming clothes to make you look taller and thinner but really don’t focus too much on your extra pounds.. you have a pretty face.. combine that with a good personality and you’ll be surprised how many guys will dig you.

If you stop being hateful toward other people you’ll probably start feeling better about yourself.

spend 2 months learning how to plan and execute an ambition or a goal. focus on the theory, take it seriously. study. come to understand how. then, once a goal pops up in that educated version of yourself’s head, you’re going to achieve it simple because you’ll know how to.

@nikipedia GA I didn’t know what to say

Following up on what @nikipedia noted above, once you feel better about yourself, you
could maybe lighten up on other people too. Begin at any point on that spectrum. Forgive, forgive, forgive; accept, accept, accept; appreciate, appreciate, appreciate; cut every human a break, including your tender self, so full of harshness, probably all spiky to keep from getting hurt. Is it working, darlin? No? Then try a little tenderness. It takes guts but
I believe you can survive it.

I don’t suppose that you could delegate judgment on yourself to others?
Just sayin’; I do that with my social cues since I have trouble recognizing the subtler ones

@nikipedia
“Have you stopped beating your wife yet?”~

V-day is coming. Plan a perfect date with and for yourself. Once you learnt how to love and respect youself. You will find your center and be grounded. Everything else will fall into place when you have a solid foundation. I am not saying it is easy but those are the pointers.

Exercise in the morning. Sex in the afternoon. Cocktails in the evening. Sleep at night. And, at all times, appreciate your surroundings.

yawn
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You are the greatest investment you could ever make. You are pricless to this world because there is only one of you. Fat, short, ugly. What ever! None of that matters, What matters is that you don’t robb ” us” of the great person you are and will grow to become.

@Oxymoron You can start by listening to the objective opinions of others. From your picture, you are an extremely attractive young lady. Other than that, you can focus on specific improvements using the objective help of a counselor. Find a counselor who can work with you on this, giving you specific goals. Your image problem is much more in your mind than with your appearance.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Having butted up against BDD I think I know a few things about it even if I don’t understand it all the way. What I have suggested—and some actually helped a little—is you find some one that is deemed attractive and like by the populace that is your size or close to it. You want to try to get their height and weight but if you can’t no sweat, you say people think she is hot and I am the same size as her so logically I have to be hot too. Second you tell yourself no one is perfect but Christ Jesus so even Lady Ga Ga or Eve Langoria-Parker and all the rest ARE NOT PERFECT EITHER. Measure yourself and go on line to see where you stack scientifically by weight to your size, and if you are over, you tell yourself that is just an area that needs polishing but I am still OK. If you start to feel you are ugly remind yourself as you walk through the mall or down the street no one is running away screaming if they notice you at all. That is a least a start.

@tb1570 – Yes, I exercise quite frequently. At least five days a week for an hour or more.

@nikipedia and @faye – There was no need for a rude answer.

@Oxymoron Now you see – you accuse these guys of rudeness. Lighten up. They’re saying these things in response to your hatefulness in previous threads. This is not irrelevant.

@susanc – It’s completely childish to bring those thoughts to a whole new conversation. They were the ones saying I was a troll yet they bring their hate to a new question.

@Oxymoron We get to know each other on Fluther. What you say and how you present yourself definitley stays in peoples’ minds from thread to thread.

@Likeradar – Only if you can’t get over things and feel that people need to believe in your opinion or else they’re “racist” and “iggnorant”.

@Oxymoron If you think what those people say has no bearing in reality, why are you letting it bother you?
And it’s not about other people needing to get over something. You presented views that, in my opinion, painted yourself in an unflattering light. It’s completely natural that someone would relate what you said in other threads to your question about your image of yourself.