Where did all the “good” guys go?

Let me state upfront that, I have never had a man “take care” of me. Always paid my own bills, lived alone most of my adult life (by choice), always had a career not a job, fixed my own leaking taps, baked my own cakes, brought a kid up on my own, believed in women’s rights. Now at the age of 47 I ask myself why? What progress did women really make? I have been married and I have been in relationships and mostly of course the bulk of work was left to me ultimately.
I know the 50’s role stereotyping caused a lot of problems in many ways. So I don’t want a huge political answer I know all that, I wrote post feminist assignments at Uni. Plus I spent a while within the gay subculture being a separatist! But suddenly I yearn for those simple role prescriptions Maybe I have taken on too much in life, conquered and won. But am left exhausted and empty.

My question is this; I want a real man like the one they used to make in the old days. Strong, dependable, able to make decisions, can work or earn a living, take the garbage out and kill spiders. I want a man who can protect me.

I am tired of being superwoman. So where is he? Does he still exist? And how do I find him. Most guys I know don’t even know how to put a shelf up. I think he might have lurked around from time to time, but my brass assertiveness chased him away?