I answered this question on @ucme‘s version of it. I said: “It works both ways. I think depressed people are attracted because it is a way to meet people without leaving their homes.” You can read the rest here.
So I wonder about regular people and what they do. Do they have lives that keep them from being lonely or feeling bad about themselves in other ways? Maybe they are more social and things are easier for them. Maybe they are less sensitive, so the slings and arrows of daily life don’t bother them.
Clearly virtual interaction is not as good as real interaction, but it is also better than no interaction. I have made a lot of virtual friends, but then, I’ve also lost them. On the internet, easy come, easy go is much easier. It’s also harder to imagine that anything really matters because it’s all virtual and you never actually see a real person.
Which, I think, does end up being really frustrating. And depressing. Here are all these wonderful people and I can’t get my hands on them (so to speak) and make them real. Then I think it encourages unstable behavior. For example, sometimes I would disappear, because the unreality of the place made me feel unreal, and wonder whether I made any difference to anyone in the virtual world. All the while, I’m wishing it would translate into real world…. reality?
I’m sitting here, staring at my computer screen. It contains words other people have written, and the words that I’m writing are appearing as I type them. They come from nothing and appear in a kind of reality—the reality of electrons—which is an invisible kind of reality.
I am writing, really, to explore my own thoughts. But I use other people’s questions as a starting point. I choose the questions that help me explore the issues I’m thinking about at the time. So, in a way, I’m here all by myself, and everyone out there only exists in my imagination. That’s a pretty depressing thought.