(NSFW) Books about how to give a woman oral sex?

Why read a book? Just get in there and go to work. You will be pleasing her soon enough, with her help.
When she screams out “OHMIGAWD!!!” three or four times, and she digs her fingernails deeply into your arm or side, or claws your back bloody; then your work is done. She will be your slave for three or four hours after that.

Just ask her, every women is different. Plus the rest is common sense.

Violet, you’re a good communicator; just communicate.

books? books?!!! you learn from experience!!!! if you or your bf/gf dont know how…PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE =)

i think girls could probably tell you what they like. i like nibbling, chewing, lots of tongue flicking on the clit, for variety, finger me while doing any of the above, and there’s nothing like a good ass-licking. as a recipient and not a giver, i am not positive, but i would think if you just go there and start working it should be fine.

I’m sure you could find something at the bookstore.I would just tell him what you want or show him.or fire him,but that’s just me

The Pussy Alphabet by O.R.Gasm.Has all the others licked.

Read Chiltons’68 Camaro manual for all you need to know…oral will never be the same.

I think it’s time to find a new partner, if all you do is ask questions online about how to fix their “inadequacies”.

I gave you the title to Nancy Friday’s first book, The Secret Garden. That one’s good, but the second one is amazing. Women on Top, Simon and Schuster published it. It’s even got a section on “More Oral Please”. It is by far the best book I have ever come across(minor chuckle). It addresses all kinds of issues from a woman’s point of view, including the pyschology of sex. Read it with your guy, it will be well worth it.

I agree with @Adirondackwannabe about Nancy Friday’s book. Communication with your partner is more important though. Some diagrams and text may be helpful in the process, but only in basic anatomical information. The mutual learning experience is half the fun,IMHO.

If niether of you have much knowledge or experience, the book is a good starting point. I was fortunate to have a partner who knew what she wanted and gently showed me how to give it to her.

@casheroo I think that @Violet is asking this as an “educational question”

If you must have a book, check out Satisfaction by Kim Cattrall (Sex and the City star) and Mark Levinson. Illustrated.

If there isn’t a great book already out there, I should write one. Having practiced the art on a number of women, I can tell you that there is no single formula for what works. The art is in knowing your partner and what she likes. What prefects that art is knowing the fabulous response you get from a job well done, and finding that response so incredibly sexy that you can’t wait to get it again.

@ETpro i totally agree..out of every partner i’ve had, even though sumtimes similar in their wants, NOT ONE wanted the same thing that another wanted. it was always a learning process. =) maaaaan do i love learning.

It’s not even the same thing with any one woman at the same time, or me either. Some times I want a firm touch, other times a light touch. Here’s a salute to higher education. Like the school motto in Animal House: Knowledge Is Good. Correct me if I got that wrong.

Have him talk to a few lesbians. He can pm me if he likes.

That is one of the best suggestions ever. I wish I had come across this site twenty years ago.

The Kama Sutra is a joke, IMO. The sex positions they describe are relatively tame by today’s standards.

The Joy of Sex is marginally better, but they fail to describe many of the more extreme positions, (like the various face-sitting and mouth-f——-g positions I mentioned in a different answer).

I dare say, you might look to lesbian sex books and videos for ideas on cunnilingus. I don’t have any particular books in mind, But when I was a randy teen, I could spend HOURS in the “Sexual Health” aisle of Borders whilst my mum was in Sears or Macys :-p

The best thing to do, IMO, is to use your imagination to invent positions that turn you on. Seriously!

LOL @ucme and GA for the pun.

@CyanoticWasp Normally I despise wasps but for you i’ll make an exception.Cheers!

I’m with @ETpro (for a change). Nothing beat original research in the field.

@CyanoticWasp I knew there would be a day when we could get our heads together. :-)

@ETpro… figuratively, anyway. LOL

@casheroo I like to ask these kinds of questions. I am the first woman my boyfriend has given oral to. I am not a good teacher, because I am also new at receiving. So I don’t know what I want. So you think because he’s not experienced at giving oral sex, I should find a new boyfriend? Your answer was not helpful, but it was rude: “I think it’s time to find a new partner,if all you do is ask questions online about how to fix their “inadequacies”.”

Dare I suggest….read some Hungry Guy stories… :-p

@Violet I had no idea; I had the idea that you were quite a bit… um… if not “older”, then “more experienced”.

If you’re young and flexible enough, then just keep trying new positions from time to time. (Not “all the time”; when you find something you like you should definitely go back to it from time to time. I like chicken parmesan—a lot—but I like to try Indian and Thai food, too, as well as sushi, etc.)

You’ll be a better teacher when you have a better idea of what you like, and the directions you want to go—and not go—and you’ll have a better idea of those things when you try new things and new variations of the things you already know.

@Violet Sorry, call it as I see it. All your questions are about sex. Obviously if you continuously have questions, and aren’t getting satisfied at home, and by the information given to you, then maybe move on to a sex forum.

@casheroo – and what’s wrong with asking questions about sex? That’s what the NSFW tag is for…

Maybe I’m offended by questions about Model Railroading, and questions about Model Railroading need a MR tag…

Oral sex is great, nothing wrong with asking how to improve somthing, practice, and try new things, just let him no what makes you feel good.

@HungryGuy hungry guy stories?! Do tell!! (also, I agree with you about those 2 books)
@casheroo I would go to a sex forum, but not all of my questions are about sex. Not all the questions I answer are about sex either.
@CyanoticWasp lol, I am older. My boyfriend is too. I don’t know how he got away with not giving oral for so long. Also, I was afraid of receiving for a very very long time. I am at pro at giving oral to men though
@Adirondackwannabe you actually inspired me to ask this question, when you mentioned that book.

@BluRhino I don’t think I could buy a book by Kim Cattrall.. but thank you for the suggestion.
@davidbetterman @Just_Justine @thriftymaid I am the first women he has given oral to. I also new at receiving, so I am a bad teacher, and I don’t know what I want.

@Violet For one thing, you are approaching the whole thing like a sport with athletes who need a better coach. Try not to do that. Maybe if you considered all of this very personal and something precious between the two of you that’s not to be shared with the world, it would work itself out. You are building an attitude of entitlement and probably making him feel inadequate which is a horrible thing to do to someone you supposedly love.

@thriftymaid What I discuss on fluther is not what I discuss with him. I use the advice I am given. Look, I really like you and I don’t want to argue with you about this.

@casheroo The questions that @Violet asks are always tasteful and well written.The answers resulting are interesting and informative. IMHO they are a great addition to Fluther.

@stranger_in_a_strange_land thanks hun. I actually haven’t asked a NSFW in over a month