NSFW (possibly) Romantic holiday expectations .... what is ok?

Yes,of course.

Of course it is reasonable to expect. I expect all the time, being on holiday would just double my expectations.

@lucillelucillelucille… what is a reasonsable response if it doesn’t happen?

hellz yea, you better give your girl or guy, whatever you perfer, at least a kiss. It is considerd intimacy after all.

Hell yeh…. a whole lot more than normal…. & possibly a little more risqué than normal, especially if cocktails are involved.

@TheJoker Do you mean just if your drinking them or something naughty involving one?

Yes, you would reasonably expect some loving on a romantic holiday, if it ain’t happening you may be too invested in the expectation department and need to invest more effort into the romantic part of the holiday to encourage the lovin feelings to grow stronger to light the fire of your romantic holiday!

@Dibley I had just meant if drinking…. but your comments given me a couple of ideas ;)

@Cruiser Ok .. I was assuming that the other things…. the romancing occurred. But good point

@TheJoker Please share?

Yes, my expectations are romantic holidays (V-day), birthdays, New Year’s, etc. will be celebrated with the best of the best which to me is sexual intimacy. In my mind, there’s no feeling I share with my partner greater than that moment of their orgasm when I’m experiencing their energy through me.

@Dibley Well, there’s guess the cocktail by kissing, variaitons on the old shots/stripping game, rubbing a vodka ice cube on certain places…

@TheJoker Ok, forget the pancakes!

@Dibley Hehe, I’ll swap the batter mix for a bottle of Vodka then :) Perhaps some Tequila too!

@TheJoker I don’t need much, so maybe just one pancake!

@Dibley Hah, its a deal.

@sleepdoc-Hmmm…hurt ,sprinkled with alittle anger.My expectations are high for Valentine’s Day as I love it and it is a fun holiday!I would talk to your partner about it.Barring a physical problem,it would make me re-think the relationship.

@lucillelucillelucille… this is hypothetical .. not something I have experienced ;)

@sleepdoc -So what would you do?

@sleepdoc Since this hypothetically speaking…has this committed relationship been consummated or would this romantic holiday then have expectations of this being that perfect moment??

So it seems that you all agree that sex is part of Holiday celebrations?
I personally had never thought of holidays in that way. Except maybe an anniversary or Valentines Day, but none of the others. I guess I’m in the minority. I’m generally focused on preparations for the celebration, like food etc.

What I inteded is for it to be for people have done the “deed” already and are “together”.

@lucillelucillelucille…. I would be upset I think

@sleepdoc Getting upset and perhaps feeling justified about it will depend on a whole host of elements of that holiday and preset even understood dynamics of your relationship. Were you out and about all day and she simply exhausted?? Did you drink too much? Were you attentive during the evening? Is the relationship rock solid? Is she expecting anything else from you she is not getting like a ring? etc.

@sleepdoc-I believe holidays like that should be well planned out in advance.Believe me,most women know when something is just thrown together and if he comes charging at themlike a horny bull moose,will dodge him!or maybe not-lol

Hmm .. interesting. I can see that many “excuses” would exist

@sleepdoc It all comes down to you will reap what you sow…put in the time, effort and level of attention to your woman and you should have all the action you need and expect.

Yea baby!

@Cruiser…. you are an expert huh? Women are soooooo simple

@sleepdoc I am expert at frustrated romantic holidays…may have to try the charging horny bull tactic @lucillelucillelucille suggests.

If you’re getting some regularly, then it doesn’t seem to me that it would matter so much about romantic holidays. However, if it’s few and far between, then having the holiday as an excuse seems helpful.

I do think a lot of women expect a super romantic evening—flowers, chocolates, romantic card, dinner out, warm, massage, sweet smelling oils, candles, gentle kisses, a long, slow development of sexual tension. I think that for some of them, this is such a big fantasy that if they don’t get it all, or at least most of it, the mood is kind of destroyed.

@sleepdoc Women are soooo simple? Do tell.

@Trillian .. that was sarcasm LOL

@sleepdoc Ha. Hahaha. Oh. My ribs.~

It all depends. As we get older the expectation is still there, but sometimes we end up falling asleep on the couch instead.

I guess it depends on how you both are feeling on the holiday. I think it makes for a good holiday when there is lots of intimacy but it doesn’t always have to be like that. I just want to make sure that my sweetheart has a good time regardless if we do anything or not. I think that is the main goal.

I have always said, vacation sex is the best kind of sex.
If you’re not having awesome sex while on vacation/holiday, I feel sorry for you.
When my partner and I go on vacation, one (or both) of us will buy a new toy/bondage equipment.

Expectations are different depending on the level of your relationship. In the first four years of our relationship, my ladys injuries made our sexual activities quite limited.

We didn’t have to go anywhere to have a romantic holiday. My frequent deployments made every homecoming a new honeymoon. As @Violet says, a new toy or bit of equipment can really spice things up.

Romantic holidays are a given for me, as are most of the other holidays. To me, having sex on those days is its own little celebration.

As a female in an exclusive relationship who has sex several times a week, I still have expectations of romantic holidays to be a bit different, sure. Do I expect champagne, flowers, candles, surf & turf dinners, dressing up and eating dessert and hours of sex any other days of the year? Not really, those are the treats of fancy, time planning (we have little free time) and a bit of sacrifice.

I think the most important thing is to have no expectations and go into the season with simply joy and embrace the happiness you can bring one another by simply being able to share the holiday with someone special to you!