@ArtiqueFox, I’ve been walking the same path as you, and my heart breaks for you because you are young and this is obviously affecting you at an inopportune time in your life. I know firsthand how it’s impossible to “unsee” what you see. I struggle with the obsessive thinking on a daily basis (and I’m 36, by the way).
Here’s what perspective I have to offer:
1. This is a cycle of adrenaline based on fear. The doses of fear are stimulating, sort of like how some kids break rules for the thrill of it or act out to get attention, even if it is negative attention. Be observant of this cycle of scaring the shit out of yourself and then going back to the information to get scared again.
2. Recognize that it is very difficult to land on a bedrock of “truth” regarding whatever theory you are researching. As much as there are “secrets” being kept, there is plenty of misinformation (in addition to conventional explanations) to obscure the “truth.” the best one can hope to do in this excavation exercise is learn about all of the possibilities and then decide for oneself what seems most likely. As a smaller aside, sometimes the fear of a great evil is more likely (and more feasible and effective) than the energy required to actually perpetrate that evil.
3. Conspiracy beliefs really are a matter of faith. You believe them as reality as much as Christians believe in Jesus and racists believe that minorities are inferior. How hard is it for you to relate to people who believe things as true and real that you think are silly or baseless? It is difficult to communicate across that chasm. It’s also important to weigh equally your “truth” against the caring you have for your relationships. Your relationships and the good things they provide are every bit as important and real.
4. Does your personality predispose you toward a negative outlook or are you a particularly sensitive person around issues of injustice? Personally, my current interest in conspiracies becomes less threatening when I realize that I have gravitated in the past to stories of social and economic injustice and the unfairness of power imbalances. Long before I imagined conspiracy of any sort, I was moved in similar ways by stories with similar dynamics. I have high sensitivity to this kind of problem, and probably would be better served exploring how that predeliction can be used for good. As my friend once said matter of factly, “So you’re an activist.” I probably am but never really imagined that as something to be. What are you?
5. I think conspiracy belief at its root is about trust (or lack thereof). Lack of trust really is toxic and makes happiness impossible. Conspiracy belief such as you describe puts you right up against entities that you don’t trust and shoves your nose in that distrust every waking moment. “Negative” emotions such as distrust and anger function as warnings to your system that you are wandering off course or that you have some passion around those ideas. A possible response to this problem is to refocus your energy on the (positive and healthy) things you do trust. What is unambiguous and trustworthy?your parents’ love for you? Your talent? Your health?
6. As true as any conspiracy may be, here’s a greater truth every moment in your life is a choice between fear and love. Think about it. When you have a conflict with someone don’t you sometimes dig in and fight them and sometimes give them a break because you know they are dealing with something that has nothing to do with you? What does the world need more of? What do you need more of? What is your choice lately? What if everyone chose love instead of fear? What if just one more person than a second ago chose love instead of fear? What if you choosing love sent a ripple of love choices and you choosing fear sent a ripple of fear choices? What if you were face to face with evil people who wanted to do evil things? Would you be fearful? Or would you take pity on them for their compulsions for power? What would you choose? (Did the Grinch steal Christmas?)
7. Here’s something I thought of today that is in line with therapy techniques I’ve learned and will be giving a try—list all the activities you do that are unhealthy (Web sites, newspapers, brooding, etc.) For every activity pick an opposite activity that is better for you. Instead of reading conspiracy dreck, I’m going to start a garden, or exercise, or whatever. When you become aware of your need to do the bad activity, do the prescribed opposite.
If I kept going, I’m sure I’d start getting (more) rambling. We live in weird times where belief is all over the map. However, it’s unlikely that any other time in history was any more settled in that regard. I mean, once upon a time people were burned for suspicion of believing the wrong things, and once upon a time people believed things that we think are totally dumb today. Belief and reality are weird. The antidote for the weirdness is some wisdom. The antidote for fear is remembering that a loving response is an option, and that if the evil you fear is real, then benevolence is just as real and just as potent. Not only that, but you can also feel isolated or connected. Isolation is a fear response. Opening your heart and spirit to feeling a connection with everything you encounter is altogether different and empowering.
I hope that is helpful.