What should I do, my sister and friends turned on me?
My sisters talking to this guy who used to be addicted to drugs, and supposedly broke out of a mental institution. Shes changed a lot since shes talked to him; by the way she acts around me and my friends, shes constantly texting him. Shes said many times before that shes not going to get involved with him and shes going to stop talking to him, but that has yet to happen. I have other friends coming up to me telling me that my closest friends and my sister were talking about me during their biology class. You can only imagine what you feel when you hear that your own sister did nothing to stick up for you. They were talking about how I won’t let my sister date this kid when I’m not stopping her from it. My sister was agreeing with all the rude things my friends were saying.All this boy is, is problems. I just don’t know anymore, what should I do ?
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Is she possibly doing drugs with him?
People who “used to be addicted to drugs” sometimes turn out to be people doing drugs.
No he doesn’t do drugs anymore
i switched the last two words when i read this
How would you know for sure?
@ragingloli Good job sir.
I would suggest stop bawwwing and confront your sister directly about how you feel.
Believe me she wouldn’t do drugs shes anti-drug
Many people have said that.
Can you talk to an adult about it? Just express your concern with your parents and have them talk to her. Unfortunately, all you can do is advice her but you can’t really force her to do anything. Let your parents have a shot at it.
O, well in all honesty I have found the best way to deal with this sort of thing is to man up and tell her that you don’t appreciate it, don’t get violent of course, but be firm and direct.
Be all like:
Sis! Why didn’t you stand up for me in school the other day?
And go from there.
Haha I’m up for anything at this point, thanks
Ermmm sounds like your sister’s doing drugs
Let the drugs go, shes not doing drugs
Sounds like an excellent time to throw a cold hard shoulder and leave the cats to play in their own litter box. I hit some drama in high school and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Reason being, to escape the drama I went to hide in the library instead of hanging out with the losers. While there , I just hit the books and got serious about school. I ended up taking upper level classes and graduating with honors. Breaking away from the crowd I was in was the best thing I ever did.
You aren’t your sisters keeper. You can’t make anybody’s life better but your own. Worry about making your own life better. She might mess hers up or maybe not, but you have to let go and take care of who you are really responsible for… you.
@ragingloli: haha i did the same thing, i didnt understand what she was asking for a good 5 mins.
You have done what you can. If she is going to talk behind your back and not support you, forget about her. Let her live her life and make her own mistakes. Trust me, when it is over with she will come back and apologize to you for hurting you and she will regret dating him. It just takes time, it just sucks in the mean time. There is really nothing you can do if she is stuck on him
Prepare yourself to be disappointed. Look at the signs…see this as it is. Your own sister is breaking her promises to you and befriending a guy who has baggage of his own. It is hard to try and explain the why of something this fragile without much more info. Just do yourself a huge favor and look out for yourself first and foremost. Ignore the drama of your sisters actions and focus on your needs. Don’t get caught up in this!!!
you’re 16. she’s 16. The kid she is dating is most likely still doing drugs. He’s 16 and already experiencing. If he hangs out with other kids who still do drugs, he’s doing them still, maybe just not as often
You are not responsible for her decisions but you know at some point, she’s going to feel she needs you. Despite her failure to stand up for you, you will be faced with a choice to come to her side and help her or let her swing in the wind.
You sound like the one who won’t let her down when she needs you. In the meantime respect yourself and do what you consider the best for you. People will see what you stand for and what you do. Your sister will benefit from your example.
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Wanna a little story? Okay, here we go.
Your sister is a good girl and finds something fascinating about this guy, troubled or not. She’s going to go to bat for him, she’s going to believe so much from him because in her eyes, he’s come through a lot of crap. What’s likely to happen she’s going to come to some point of halt with him and to strike out and hurt him or get his attention and wanted concern or care, she might do drugs. He’ll do one of two things in response but neither will be what she’ll except. He might feel guilty and feel he got her mixed up or messed up, maybe or he’ll look on her with scorn for becoming the things he dislikes about himself and he’ll abandon the friendship.
She’s just in lust – give it some time. I don’t know this guy, but make sure you get to know him and don’t judge him based on his past mistakes. I used to do drugs – I was young and immature – I’m beyond that now and wouldn’t appreciate someone judging me based on my past.
On the other hand, if he really is bad news, all you can do is talk to her about it. Let her know what bothers you and that you are only telling her these things because you care and love her. If you get really worried or you think things are getting out of hand, talk to an adult. If not, let her make her own decisions – she’ll come around.
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