Is touching a person(who is not your SO)'s breast cheating?

Not if it’s by accident…I can’t imagine anyone that’s not a doctor giving me a clinical examination that involves breast touching, lol.

No one is my SO’s breast.

Really?

I think this is a good question if I understand it right.

This was hard to phrase.

Depends, do you think it’s cheating? Does it stop there? Are you coping a feel and playing with it for a whiiile? Are you exchanging erotic looks and feeling—sexy?
I think it’s hard to answer because it’s another continuum. Mostly it depends on what you think – but also on what your partner things.

So, if your partner thinks it’s cheating, it probably is – because her/his definition affects you. If you think so, it also is. If you both don’t think so – it’s not. At least not for you, and that’s all that matters.

There are as many relationship ‘types’ as there are people.

Say (obviously not in the universe I live in, but anyway) a girl asks if her breasts feel x way compared to other breasts I’ve felt, and I touch her breast and give her my opinion.

yes if it’s not something your SO would be okay with

@phoebusq well obviously if you’re in a relationship that swings or something this is going to be no biggie, but I mean as a general rule. Generalities….generalities…

It’s either that or it’s nursing.lol!

Only if it’s not a SO-SO breast. (And just why would you be touching it if you’re not a doctor?)

I think it depends on context. I am trying to understand what clinical evaluation of a breast woudln’t be done by a doctor. Perhaps if the person is an xray technician giving mammograms they are not a doctor. Or if they create prosthetic bras for women who have had one breast removed and making a fake boob to match, they aren’t a doctor.

But if its just because your sexy neighbor wants to know if her new implants “feel real” it is way way out of line. I can’t just go up to someone’s husband and say, gee I’m worried they are sagging, what do you think? If it is like that, then it is definitely inappropriate. I don’t know if I would call it “cheating” but it is a betrayal and inappropriate , or would feel that way to me anyway.

I love it when a woman walks up to me and tells me to feel her breasts!

@Ltryptophan not necessary. It’s just about what you/(r) partner thinks. No need to label only one relationship type where this is ok. I’m not a swinger, and wouldn’t care if my gf touched a boob, or even felt it right – or took her time with it. Or a guy’s behind for the man’s fatty tissue analogue.

A fly on her breast and I slap it: Not cheating.

My fly on her breast: Cheating.

@phoebusg I didn’t mean to single out swingers, but I don’t think that this is the normal situation where this would be cool in a relationship. I don’t see why not though. Whats the big deal if there is no foreplay going on.

So a person is in a relationship and touches the breasts of a person other than the person they are in this relationship with? This is not a doctor doing a breast exam or any other clinical setting right?

Under these circumstances I think no one has any business feeling up a person who is not their significant other. I pretty sure that if my man rolled up and touched another woman’s breast I would be furious and would probably consider it cheating. Besides, he can cop a feel from me any time he wants to.

Like should it be ok to wipe your hot sauce covered lips on the Hooters girl’s blouse?

To compare to other breasts?? Yeah, that’s cheating.

What if your SO had someone walk up to her and say, “feel my penis and my balls, do they feel like others you’ve touched?” Cheating is what the two of you have defined it. As for me, if I can touch someone’s balls, I guess breast are an even exchange.~

do you mean like doing a play exam? to me this would not be acceptable if i were in a committed relationship.

Would it be ok for your SO to touch some random dudes lolly bag or coin pouch to ” see if they felt the same as others”?

lol, this is even funnier than I thought it would be!

Well, I mean, I think it would be ok…but the breast don’t >particularly< stimulate orgasms, do they…

I think comparing a mans breast would be the correct comparison. In which case I am not personally very worried about it!

It’s ok I’m a doctor.

@SeventhSense I knew a pediatrician once who lost his license because he was feeling the breasts of patients’ mothers to “be sure their milk came in.” He probably used your exact line as he began! lol4rl!

But did he use it twice?

@dpworkin Presumably; once for each breast.

@SuperMouse
Look my lawyer went over all of this already. It wasn’t like that.

This has generated some pretty funny answers. I misunderstood- I thought the breasts were yours- that you were asking this question about the fact that you had asked someone to feel your breast. That seems pretty acceptable if that is the case- you must have a good reason.

Now, I’m not sure if it’s different thinking that you are the one feeling the breasts. Basically, in this situation, if you have a significant other, I think it would be appropriate to politely decline. Unless you really are being asked to diagnose something, in which case, it might be ok if you really are trying to help the person.

Basically- I was wondering whether feeling breasts in a non clinical situation would be considered cheating? That’s actually what I thought you originally meant. (I thought your sub entry about it being clinical was a joke because that seems very unlikely).

If I’m seeing someone the only breasts I’m going to be touching (and trust me, I will be touching them a lot) belong to the woman I am currently involved with. From my perspective it would be disrespectful to do otherwise, no matter the circumstances.

If the guy is arroused, it’s cheating.

Simply, depends on intent and whether or not the trust and understood rules between you and your S/O were broken.

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If boob fondling is included in you and your S/O’s understood no-nos, then yes, you cheated. If both parties are fully informed and accept this conduct, then no, that is not cheating.

Only if you did it for arousal.

Only if it’s followed by pancakes.

it’s certainly not conducive to a lasting relationship with your SO.

Intention doesn’t matter.

Only the hand that touches the breast is cheating.

If it’s a clinical examination done by someone who isnt a doctor, then it’s okay.

Woudl any ladies like their breasts to be examined? I’m available. It’s okay: I’m not a doctor.

Thanks, I like that term; “Clinical Evaluation”
I will tell my girlfriend to tell her doctor that she’s already had her “Clinical Evaluation.”

Depends on what your S/O thinks, now doesn’t it?

@Zen_Again but do you play one on tv? That might count.

I am curious who, other than a doctor might be doing a clinical evaluation. Every mammogram I’ve had has consisted more of the tech hauling, yanking, and smashing my breasts, never actually touching.

Unless you are an MD practicing your profession or your SO allows that sort of thing I’d certainly consider it bordering on it.

Why would you agree to feel a woman’s breast!? Do you have a medical degree?
I’d be so pissed at my bf id he did that!
Totally cheating.

Touching for how long?

If handling her breast is titillating to you, then you are probably cheating!

If you have to ask, “is [insert action here] considered cheating?”, then for you, it is probably considered cheating.

Yes, I would qualify it as cheating and not be happy if my SO did something similar on her part. I do not, however, agree with @TLRobinson that breasts and scrotum are an even exchange. If so, what equates with vagina?

@tb1570: The urethra. j/k

“clinical evaluation” and you’re not a doctor? Sounds fishy to me – and a bit weird!

Yes, but it’s severity level 3 only (on a scale of 1 to 10)

@TheLoneMonk Lmao…that was really good!

Answering your question: illegal use of the hands, 15 yd penalty!

@candide loll..ditto!

@mattbrowne or, what is the homeland security lowest level?...cannot remember the color.

@BoBo1946: Burnt sienna, Electric ultramarine, or Fashion fuchsia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fuchsia_(color)#Fashion_fuchsia_.28Hollywood_Cerise.29) (had to put as a separate link because the (color) bit in the URL breaks the linking function.)

I believe that “playing doctor” without your SO agreement, that’s cheating.

@Dan_DeColumna ? you lost me!

We could add size to the amount of cheating in this thread… grasping big boobs- perhaps cheating, grasping a B or an A cup- not so much!

Just boob humor!

In our marriage the wife would have to meet her, then I can mess with her comparing only to find it necessary to feed the wearer before a detailed examination…

Any other relationship I would consider it not advisable because your hands technically have a leash to your S/O’s boobs and other body parts!

It’s a step in that direction

Which reminds me of yet another limerick from highschool days, which I will now inflict upon you:

There was a young man named Dean,
who was weaned at the age of sixteen.
“I’ll admit,” said the kid,
“There’s no milk in the tit,
but think of all the fun it has been.”

You must pronounce “been” the British way.

Why would u let someone who’s not a doctor give u an examination…?

Hey here’s a shocker. A question about breasts got lots of responses. Imagine that
must be an anomaly

Wow. This is going in my personal Fluther Hall of Fame…

@BoBo1946: You said you could not recall the color. I was offering suggestions.

@RAWRxRandy: there are people with medical fetishes, who “play doctor” for sexual stimulation (like gyno exams, enemas and stuff like that). that’s an example of someone who’s not a doctor doing an exam.

@SuperMouse I was a stand-in for Doctor Jake Ramoray once. Does that count? Can I mash your breasts now?

@DrasticDreamer I think what you need is for me to give you a clinical evaluation.

@Dan_DeColumna got’cha…Homeland Security Advisory System color chart. In the United States, ... The threat levels Green (low risk) and Blue (general risk) have never been used.

Never did quite understand who decided this..loll

are you cool with her having some guy’s balls in her hand?

@FutureMemory says how I see it. If it’s something I wouldn’t tell my SO about then it’s best not to do it in the first place.

I would be okay with it as long as, you were ok with me fondling men’s junk to compare length and girth…

@sjmc1989 i just got out of a cold pool. lol

@germanmannn Shrinkage?

I don’t know of any clinical evaluations that require touching breasts by anyone other than a doctor, or perhaps an x-ray tech.

@sjmc1989
What’s this about you touching other men’s junk?

@sjmc1989 I think it’s time for your clinical evaluation.

@SeventhSense Its ok I’m a nurse.

@sjmc1989
Oh ya…I like the little white skirt

Plus it never hurts to get a second opinion.

@SeventhSense Why must you always make things dirty…wait I did talk about fondling mens junk first…nevermind you can continue ;)

I have only felt one person’s breasts. (well, two peoples((very technically))) Now I have become curious. Thus the question. Maybe some nice gal will let me have a go, no strings attached, for the sake of life course plotting.

I know, remarkably shallow, but I don’t think you could imagine how this can make you wonder.

@sjmc1989
It’s that Natalie Wood look in those big brown eyes that brings out the best in me. :o)~

@SeventhSense Stop your making me blush :)

@SeventhSense Did you mean the “best” or the “beast”?

@sjmc1989
Which only adds a lovely glow to your cheeks
@janbb
Well some of my best is my beast but I’m more than a one trick pony

I definitely wouldn’t tolerate that in a relationship.

Well my dad once touched a boobs of an woman in the super market(Germany) by accident.
and he wanted to say “sorry” but he said “Danke schön” which means “thank you very much”

Let’s suppose you’re a piercing and tattoo guy. I believe you’d have to handle quite a few breasts to pierce and ink them. If your S.O. likes the money rolling in, she’s not going to complain. If she does, let her become the family breadwinner.

I think so, my boyfriend is a singer and grabbed a girls boob on stage, and I talked to him about it he says its a joke, he said he is sorry but can’t garuntee it won’t happen again.. But he is an extreamly jelous guy if a nother guy so much as says something flirty to me he freaks I fee very hurt and betrayed.