How do I control my emotions around my guy friend?

no just express your emotions

we don’t know how the future is going to be. plus we don’t know how a relationship is going to end. You to need to be honest with yourself and Alen. Some emotions just aren’t meant to be keep under control.

Some people are worth knowing. Take a chance:)

ask yourself why you have the emotions. sometimes we create ideals about people that are not realistic. are you seeing him as the imperfect booger picker that he is, or as some pedestal-standing, glowing golden child? Eventually, the rose colored glasses come off…so before you start declaring some gushy love for someone…find out from people who have been in successful relationships, what love really is. Pouring your heart onto someone who doesn’t know it’s coming can put pressure on them that isnt fair. Especially if you are prone to be an emotional person. Take a step back and think of how you got to this point, and where you would like it to go and then ask yourself if your impulsive actions will get you there.

My mom says that he was brought into my life now for a reason, but I don’t think she is right. Maybe it’s just a likely coincidence.

@Bronny I don’t want a relationship to happen.

don’t rush things ducky. especially in whimsical impulse. the best love is built on a firm foundation, and that foundation is a tried and true friendship where you both have NATURALLY learned about each other, earned trust, and seen the parts of each other that are not so attractive…even little things. that friendship is what love really is. not the exciting flutters you feel thinking about the future. Those butterflies in your tummy around this person are self-created, because you have the potential to love him perhaps. but it takes two. let things develop naturally and with realistic expectations. if you go in thinking about meant to be’s etc, you are setting it up for failure…even if it is meant to be.

OH…what do you want to happen? I’m sorry for jumping the gun on that one.

Maybe it’s not significant that Alen was brought into your life, but that you are brought into his.

It doesn’t have to be a romance, you know.

@Bronny It’s okay… I need to control my emotions in front of him.

I see…

@Bronny I know, that’s why I need to learn how to control them. Everything I feel is caused by my own thinking… not one person can make me feel. The question is how do I stop seeming so happy and flirty around him? He’s not worth my time like all guys.

you guys could be great friends. regardless if you let him into your life, he will be hurt by whatever hurts you. because that’s part of being friends. I know you want to prevent that…maybe you should be honest with him…and tell him your sick etc. You should definitely be honest. It might be nice to have a new friend, and it might not go in the direction you expect. Maybe you should give him the chance to make his own choice…tell him whats up and put the ball in his court. You can do that without explaining that you lost a friend and it hurt. You can say you are just going thru a lot and don’t want to drag another person thru that.

Hang out with the guy. Be up front with him about your health and emotional problems. He would probably love to be there for you. Don’t hide anything. You can take things slowly, but don’t omit information. You could turn out to be great friends or lovers.

@Bronny I already knew him before we met at the gym. I knew him when he was in 6th grade. I just don’t think he should be a part of my life anymore. I mean we haven’t seen each other in 3 years. So, we shouldn’t know each other now. :(

@ducky_dnl, People fall in and out of people’s lives all the time. And thankfully, we all grow out of how we were in middle school.

Life can be like a revolving door. One of my new friends at work, her brother went to day care with my daughter. Just because she’s old enough to be my child, doesn’t mean she’s too young to be my friend.

@PandoraBoxx Both of us have changed quite a bit. He has matured both physically and mentally. Same goes with me.

“I know two people can never care for one other without it being doomed. I mean one of the two will eventually hurt the other.”

The thing about relationships is that you are prepared to endure the hardships, because the benefits are so great. Maybe there will be some pain, but it is worth it to be with that person.

just see what happens the next time you see him. see what he does. don’t go on what your mom said based on how things looked from afar. she’s speculating just as much as you are. i think you can’t really figure out whether he will be hurt in your friendship when he has not officially pushed you to hang out with him yet. just be nice and be yourself and just the chips fall where they may. i think you might be thinking too far ahead. you are allowed to just enjoy the casual conversation and company of other people too, without it having some crazy meaning.

@Bronny Thanks! :) Thanks to everyone else as well.

Despite the fact that you’ve obviously been through a lot, you guys are just kids (and I mean that in the best way). Try not to place too many expectations on it and if you want to- see where it might lead. Have fun and dont feel guilty about experiencing positive emotions- you deserve to have them. If you don’t want to share everything in your life with this person that is fine too- it’s your life and it’s your business. Interact on the level that you want to interact.

Check in the mirror for an expiry date on your forehead. If you do not see one, live your life everyday like you expect to be alive 5, 10, or 20 years from now. Every day is a gift. Live each one to the fullest. Be honest with people about your feelings and your fears about the future. If you find someone you care about, do not avoid your feelings for fear of the future you can not predict.

If the other person knows your fighting cancer, they can decide if they can face caring deeply about you. If they don’t fear it, then don’t you worry about it.

Have a great life every day!

Just be a friend to him, as I am sure he wants to be a friend to you.

You never know he may be a great support for you. Good luck

I personally feel life is a moment by moment thing. We can all know for example we will live to a 100, but a lot of plans and dreams can actually never materialize. Life is a process of daily joys and sometimes happiness. If we skip over those we are not living. I know you wont like my answer but I just feel you should live in the moment. Joy is a precious gift, so is caring and love. Don’t pass them up for reasoning.

I agree with Just Justine – Go for it!

Get to know him more! You never know..maybe you guys will become best friends! Do what makes you happy and take a chance.:)