I suppose city life is different that your average town…I grew up in a medium sized, small town mind set place so I understand the greet your neighbor, talk to everyone, now the cashier.
But in the middle of a metropolitan you run the risk of inviting attention, and encouraging conversations with people who might not have been raised in the same accepting open minded way.
If you do not understand this, or think it is over paranoid of a late thirties, fit, not unattractive career woman then you obviously have not lived the reality that is city living. Regardless, their are weirdos everywhere, and those are the ones I am asking about.
Also for me, not to be rude, but if you are in line and chatting up the cashier when you have 10 people behind you waiting for you to finish you monologue about your grandmother in the hospital so that they can get home and feed their families after working 8–10 hours…please do your jabbering on a SATURDAY, when it’s realistic to take your time enjoying the hours.
For us here, living 10 miles away means an hour home in traffic. In regards to sharing other peoples air and therefore being obligated to connect to them in other ways because of that, is rather dramatic. It’s nice to hear about all of your warm hearted feelings towards other shoppers. I think that’s great, and I wish more people were like you. Were someone to smile at me in passing in just that genuine, silent, “excuse me” way, I might feel a little more open to going out of my way to do the same.
But unfortunately MY experiences in the grocery store have given off the impression that a lot of men just go there to wonder around and gape at the women, and the women go there to get out of the house, surround themselves with people, and not feel so lonely. It’s comforting to be around other people some times, and I get that.
It’s the extremes that get me. It blows my mind how many down right creepy people actually exist to wander this earth, and how many rude inconsiderate women…typically older, who get some sort of inert pleasure out of cutting off younger women and making a point to disregard them.
Don’t think of me as bitter due to the tone I hold in this thread. Typically, I am the idealist in search of reality to balance out automatic trust I tend to want to give. But SHOPPING, particularly GROCERY shopping…let’s just say I’ve got my padded gloves on, so get hell out of my way.
@Seek_Kolinahr would you pay an additional $75/ $100 a week to have someone do your shopping for you? I wouldn’t. I would rather find ways to deal with it on my own and use that money for things that count. Hence this post and my curiosity at other people’s viewpoints and moods when they are caught in the hustle and bustle.