Does my guy friend like me?
Okay, so me and this guy, lets call him ‘Bob’ have been friends for quite a while and Ive always kinda liked him.
Hes had a few girlfriends and I kinda just was jealous quietly in the background. So anyway, I asked him once “So you dont like me in that way at all, right?” and he said “Yeah maybe I do a bit”. This was a couple days after he broke up with his GF.
We met up the other night with him and one of his friends, he started putting on the moves-he would tease me, and when he thought i was taking him seriously, he put his arm around me, this happened three times, the other two times he rubbed my arm and pulled me in closer and rubbed my back.. He has never done such stuff before.
He also invited me to his house, and payed for my dinner, once again he has never done that. He also kept playing with my hair. At one point he wanted to see if I could stand on his shoulders(just mucking around) so he sat down and I stood up on the bench and the whole time we were agruing about how to do it he was holding my hands :S He hasnt actually said “yes I like you” but his body language seems to betray him.
Also, recently while on the phone he was all quiet, I txted him afterwards asking “are you mad at me?” and he replied “Nah, luv u heepz”. So everything is pointing towards->Yes he likes me.
But was he just showing off to his friend, or does he like me but doesnt want it to look like hes moving on too fast?
I like him alot now and he knows it, but this is really frustrating me!!
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I vote for you researching this (or any) social website, because this question has been asked about every 10 minutes for the past 7 years. It was just asked 10 minutes ago on THIS website! There is no new breaking news on this front. Sorry. Nobody else knows but HIM, especially in a place where nobody knows either of you.
The other question wasnt about an already-male-friend. I just want to know what th odds are. Well, typically anyway….
Last 7 years…....every 10 minutes.
Surely to GOD, someone had a situation similiar to yours. If you don’t want to gather your cajones and just ask him, then you’re stuck doing the research. Good luck!
I have asked him! he said “Yeah maybe I do a bit“a couple days after breaking up with his GF? What am I meantto gather from that?!
It sounds like he likes you a bit.
It sounds like he does, but is hesitant to say so this soon after a breakup to avoid making you feel like a rebound. Just follow it wherever it leads, and enjoy the ride.
Yeah I just found it kinda that all of a sudden he was making moves on me which he has never done before, and Ive never SEEN him do before…...
You might have gotten more sympathetic responses if you had taken more care to use less slang, spell and punctuate your question better.
If there is something specific that makes your situation stand out from the all the other similar questions we see many times a week, your question would have generated more interest.
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I only used slang to quote. slang to quote, gosh. This situation is sort of different though. Just read what I have said, and tell me if it sounds likely or not that he is interested in me?
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Okay, so me and this collective, lets call him“Dr.J” have been friends for quite a while and weve always kinda liked each other. Should we sort of get engaged?
Reading and understanding what you said is not easy. And we don’t need his name, Bob, Fred, or Milo. Learn how to proof-read and edit.
Thats cool, Ignore the name then.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.
There are none so blind as those who will not see.
Any time a guy asks you to stand on his shoulder is a sure sign dead give away he is sweet on you. Now he is waiting for you to ask him to stand on your shoulders after that you are officially an item! Go for it!
okay..that wasn’t sarcastic at all. I said we were just being silly. He tried to balance on his friends shoulder and THEN he asked me.
“Well, it’s Saturday night and I ain’t go nobody…...”
Thanks @Cruiser – now I can go wash my hair happily!
Obviously he likes you, though it seems to me you are really asking how much or something. What are you frustrated about?
Well. I just saw him tonight at church and he basically pretended that I didnt exsist. WHAT THE HELL!?!?!?
From what you’ve stated I would conclude that he either likes you but is uncertain of how to approach the matter or him being aware that you like him is making him attempt, perhaps unsuccessful, to reciprocate the feelings. The only way in which to be certain is to confront him demanding a straight answer. Rationally, the worst case scenarios that could occur as a result of this is either that he declares he isn’t attracted to you and you lose a friend or you do not act, the opportunity gradually becomes less viable and you strongly regret it. You must consider these possibilities, how plausible they are, balance the risks involved and decide upon your plan of action.
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Coming from the world’s worst relationship type person I would say these things:
Yeah, he likes you. And he’s probably doesn’t quite have the courage to straight out tell you, so he’s going to poke and prod (er… forgive the wording) to find out how you feel about him.
Meanwhile, it sounds like you don’t have the confidence to move in for the kill since you know he’s now single (presumably, all men are pigs, etc).
If you like him then get off your butt and and start moving in on him. If he shies away then you’ll really know.
Oooh I certainly think he likes you.
Sounds to me like he’s not sure, be he’s keeping his options open. So, sure, go out with him, but don’t let yourself fall for him (sounds like you may already have) until you’re sure about he feels abot you.
Also, if he just broke up with his last GF, he’s probably on the rebound. If you want this guy, you should probably do the “let’s just be friends” thing for a while, and then put the move on him in a few months…
He might like you but not be sure what he wants with you and be uncomfortable about it. Guys often like many women enough to spend time with, fool around with, sleep with, but not more, and avoid saying so, or even getting clear about it for themselves.
Also some guys try to mess with (or “create attraction in”) women by acting disinterested.
One idea is you could figure out what your own desires and requirements are and then let him know.
Is there something about your reputation or his that would cause this fellow to refuse to acknowledge you in church?
Not really, we always hang out at church together. He doesnt sleep around, hes a good guy. We have always spent time with each other at church, its not a sudden thing.
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