How do I get rid of this anger for other teen guys alive, after my friend died?

emotionally hurting them I mean. Like making them fall in love with me, then telling them that they are “worthless, dumb, arrogant, ugly, etc.” and leaving them.

Yes, this is wrong.

Sorry about your friend. Would he want you to feel this way? How long do you think he would want you to mourn? Would he want your mourning to turn to anger? What would your friend want for you? Concentrate on that.

Loosing a loved one is difficult. Learn from it so you can help others when they have the same experience.

Hang in there.

How about telling us about your friend. Let us in on it. He sounds like a great guy. Share his spirit and release your own in the process.

What the hell…...? That makes no sense. You are just hurt over your friend and don’t know how to direct your emotions. Why are you worrying about other teen boys, worry about your friends family and friends instead so you guys can support each other.

Dude, seek help. Seek help immediatly.

Tell us about your friend. That will help. That will help a lot.

You guys say this like I would go physically hurt someone? I said I have a fantasy, I wouldn’t do it in real life. I am actually really small in size and nice.. I feel like I have to treat guys the way I have seen guys treat girls… like crud.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Do right and show em how it’s supposed to be.

Confucius said:

“When I come across an honorable man, I make him my equal. When dealing with fools, I learn from them.”

He also told a story about right and wrong.

“For good, I return goodness. For evil, I also return goodness. In this way, all will know goodness”.

I can tell by your words that you have a passionate conscious. Express it, get it out, get past it, and live.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies He was the best person inside and out. He was probably the one “nice guy” I have ever known. He thought everyone had something to offer, thought everyone was perfect and just would build people up when they felt like garbage. I remember him staying up with me ‘til one and two in the morning just because I wanted him to. I don’t remember him even saying one bad thing about anyone. I know he probably disliked people, but he was a gentlemen about it. I have somewhat low self esteem and when I would feel 113% awful he would say things like “I think you’re pretty, funny, weird in a good way.” or “I don’t think you give yourself enough credit.” He was also the cutest guy I have known… well, not cute, but handsome. The only thing that hurts was I liked him and his best friend told me that my friend really liked me, but didn’t want to come off weird or creep me out. That’s what is making it so hard. We would flirt a lot and I really liked him. Knowing that he liked me just makes me think everyday “you stupid idiot why didn’t you say something?”

Good quotes, btw!

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies I also wear his necklace he gave me for my birthday. I literally get upset if someone touches it. lol? :(

What an awesome guy. Sounds like one of a kind. Very rare fellow. Hard to find that type. He really made an impression on you and everyone he met. You miss him deeply don’t you.

It is normal for you to feel sad and maybe even to feel mad against other teen guys but like you said it is nothing personal, don’t let it come in your way and just try to remember the good things about your friend in someone else, I know it sounds hard but try it.

I have to restart my computer. I’ll be right back.

I feel that way with regard to a lot teens. Nothing to do with loss, just with they way they waste their lives and damage other people’s lives. If it was legal I would hunt some of the more violent ones.

So how did you meet your friend?

Ummm first sorry about your friend and dont kill me!!!plz!! in my view it’s kind of wrong because some teen boys really are rather nice and uhhh worth living (huh?). I understand how you would want other boys to be dead and the friend to be alive, but i think you should uh, try to move on in life like “Lovely Bones.”

@DarkScribe yes some of them are just a waste of Oxygen…but some do make use of their lives eh? :)

Therapy…at least you can tell the professional about your problem, and he will direct you down the right avenue

Well, it’s not good to think like that. You should talk to a therapist.
You’ve been through a lot recently.

I don’t think it’s wrong.
I understand it completely.
I was at my best friend’s memorial and all I could think was that I’d feel a bit better if it was one of his asshole friends and not him.

Your friend is very important to you. He sounds lovely.. It’s understandable that you’d want someone else to be in his place instead of him.
And the necklace thing? Don’t even worry if that’s weird.
I’ve hit people for touching my necklace it has his ashes in it.
It’s your special necklace. You’re allowed to be possessive of it.

Perhaps you could try eliminating all other teens on the planet…. then there’d be none to annoy you.

@Cloverfield except me i hope :(

@frigate1985 Well, that goes without saying :)

I agree with @rangerr I think you are entitled to your feelings as long as long as you don’t act on them of course… but that goes without saying I would presume these feelings are only natural…you are angry that your friend has died, what you see as injustice…

I’m sorry about your loss. I wish that I had been killed instead of my wife. She was a superior person to me in every way. All we can do is blunder on ahead with our lives as best we can.

You may need to talk to a professional.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies I actually met him at his job.

@rangerr Thank you for the great comment!

That sounds fun. Better than the bars or a chat room. Tell me the story of how you met him.

@ducky_dnl It seems to be normal to “lash out” at some point in the grieving process. I did that initially on a previous site, and irretrievably lost several friendships. I thien turned my anger inward and came a hairsbreadth for eating a bullet, rescued by a friend who forced me to get medical help and a host of new friend on Fluther offering encouragement.

Hurting others, or yourself, is not the way out. You have to work out your grief issues in a peacefull manner; that doesn’t meanin quietly though. I’ve found that blasting away at targets releases my internal rage; paper targets, chunks of firewood and water filled plastic bottles make excellent agression releases, the louder the better. Feel the recoil and watch that water bottle explode can be very therapeutic, especially if you don’t related to “talking cures” (only Meg could do that for me)’

I also have found that teaching these young ladies safe firearms skills (they’re not allowed to touch handguns in Quebec) is rewarding. Perhaps my role in life is teaching? Not in a conventional classroom setting, but hands-on skills where feedback is immediate. Many of the girls are showing great promise in processing maple and they will come out of this experience with all-around experience and a “certificate of competancy” that will document there skills to future employers. Even Genevive is showing much greater competance in the areas that she had not been introduced to.

Seeing thes ladies empowered is a real ego-stroke for me and a boost in their own self confidence. By helping them, I’m slowly conquering my grief and depression.