(NSFW) Do you categorize rough sex as a fetish?

I think of “rough” sex as sex that is not slow and gentle and more fast paced and vigorous. I don’t think that’s a fetish, because I think it’s fairly normal to want to have “rough” sex….what I would think of as a fetish, though, would be sex that is so rough that it hurts…do people like that? i think so. i don’t. but anyhow, if you want sex so rough that it hurts, then i think that’s where we cross the fetish line.

Look up “fetish” in the dictionary. Sexual intercourse, rough or otherwise is never a fetish.

Tossing your partner on the bed and ripping their panties off: No. Choking or punching your partner: Yes.

Choking and punching aren’t fetishes, either.

@Blackberry Good answer…agreed

I categorize rough sex as necessary. And, you better talk dirty to me. ;-)

I don’t know what you’d call it, frankly. As @dpworkin said, it isn’t really a fetish. A fetish is typically an object or non-genital body part that inspires sexual feelings. In colloquial terms, “fetish” is used to refer to any paraphilia, but then when you look up “paraphilia”, it says a “mental disorder”. So I wouldn’t consider liking rough sex to be a “mental disorder”.

I guess it’s just a “preference”, nothing more.

I definitely have a true fetish, involving a part of the body (not feet). It’s not that I can’t be turned on without this part involved, but it is just such a big part of it for me.

I’m sorry, a fetish is not an activity. A fetish is a form of sexual desire in which gratification depends to an abnormal degree on some object or item of clothing or part of the body.

Shoes can be fetishes. Boobs can be fetishes. Fisting is not a ftish.

@dpworkin Is actually quite correct. And @Blackberry “Choking or punching your partner: Yes.” Just sick man.

Oh wait, hahaha, I mean the latter is the fetish..it’s reversed.

No wait…I did say it right…ah I’m so confused lol.

@davidbetterman I’m not into the choking or punching, it was just an example lol.

@dpworkin is absolutely correct. +GA, dpworkin.

It’s actually a demand, that hurts my back – but I try.

@DrMC – I didn’t realize Pandas liked it rough. I always imagine you to be gentle bears.

To answer the question, I don’t think it’s a fetish. It’s actually quite fun, from time to time.

Sex with choking & punching is abuse. Plain & simple. Nothing sexy about that.

Well, @jbfletcherfan, except upon request. Then it’s fun.

@dpworkin I’ll take your word for it.

No. I categorize it as something I like at times though. Other times I prefer it slow and romantic.

I am sure it could be a fetish though.

Oy @dutchbrossis, what do I have to do to convince you that it has nothing to do with a fetish. Are you just stubborn, or don’t you read?

No not a fetish. But throw on some blaring Zeppelin and toss me around any day. Boys?

@essieness, Sounds irresistible. To bad I’m so superannuated.

Would it matter? Some people call rough sex “happy fun awesome super time”, but they still have bruises in the morning.
Fetishes cover a broad range of sexual appetites. I tend to associate it with bondage, latex, leather & the occasional riding crop or whip.

@dpworkin I have no clue what I did to deserve that uncalled for comment about stubborness and reading. I do read quite well. I didn’t even read your comments, I was just answering the question with my opinion, I believe that some people could have a fetish with it. Not me personally is all I was saying. Please keep your rude comments directed at me to yourself. I am out of here, got to go to work.

It’s rude to ask why you persist in calling something a fetish which is not a fetish? It’s just normal quotidian curiosity, after it was defined for you more than once. Maybe you’re hypersensitive, and I’m not really rude.

@dutchbrossis: It’s helpful to read the previous comments in a question before answering. You may find that someone already said what you were going to say or that someone, like @dpworkin, said something that changes the context of the question.

I’m sticking with what people said above. Rough sex is not a fetish but I know what you mean. I think it can be something that someone desires much more greatly than other kinds of sex. I also think that the degree does matter. I’ve heard of both men and women who have a desire to participate in rape-like sex where everything is very rough, even violent and someone struggles.

I think that desiring sex so rough that it leaves someone with numerous wounds, whether they be bruises or something else, can be a problem. However, I do not think it is automatically a bad thing as long as everyone consents and no one gets permanently hurt.

Wow, googling “Is rough sex a fetish?” was no help at all!

I consider it a great workout…nothing hinky about a good sweat!

@dpworkin I am a masochist. Is that not a fetish? Well, I think since pain has a certain effect even when it is nonsexual, it would be. I’m confused. I’m in therapy. Been trying to find a way to uncondition myself. It’s quite confusing.

No, rough sex is still sex. Fetish isn’t sex.

I would say a fetish does not need to lead to sex.

I don’t consider rough sex with my partner a fetish – if I had rough sex with my blow dryer, that would be a fetish.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir: Ouch.

@KatawaGrey it’s okay, it’s got a a nice nozzle

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Ha

Thanks for all of your answers and corrections. I guess I should have asked if you view rough sex as taboo.

@Facade Oh no, not taboo – neither is sex with the blow dryer taboo, for me. I swear I never did this

“if you view rough sex as taboo.”

Only if a totem pole is used.

@ChazMaz Hell, I’m an atheist, it’s all good, bring it on.

Say that after I I swallow my drink.! lol

@ChazMaz :)

@Simone_De_Beauvoir: Methinks the lady doth protest overmuch. ;)

I call slow sex, making love, and rough fast sex fucking.
It’s not a fetish..
Does the degree of roughness matter? No.

@Violet I concur.

@essieness thank you : )

no, i like being bitten personally, but that was something i discovered by accident, is that a fetish? fetishism is a notoriously slippery category as is the definition of normal and reasonable sexual behaviour.

@mammal yes, biting is a fetish

Bring a feather into the mix. Then you can say, fetish. Or would that be kinky? ;-)

@Violet I’m sporting bite marks from 3 weeks ago…

@essieness ouch! Sometimes, I’ll have marks from bondage tape, or other bondage gear

Fetish Definition :“An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.”

That was one of the parts in the dictionary definition. @dpworkin You are correct about objects. In this definition though I am right as people could very well be fixated or obsessed with rough sex or any kind of sex. I personally am not, but I am sure there are people with fetishes with rough sex out there.

I am not hypersensitive, just take offense when someone says to me that I can’t read or else I am just stubborn. I may be stubborn on some things. This one I just stated an opinion based on the definitions I got from the dictionary. Yes I thought that was an offensive comment from you. I have just as much right to my opinion on this topic as you do.

@KatawaGrey I understand that and I usually do read previous answers. I still have the right to answer the question with my own wording though. My answer had nothing to do with him and I got called stubborn and told otherwise I just can’t read, I felt that was offensive so asked him to leave me alone is all.

Yes. Rough sex can be a fetish, but not in the way people are thinking.

If a person needs tied up in order to get off, and they are essentially getting off from being tied up and not from sex. they have a fetish. It can seem blurry though when then they ask their partner to tie them up so they CAN have sex. But when it is more about the rope than the sex act then you’re crossing into fetish land even though to an outsider it just looks like “rough sex”. Spanking is another example. Spanking during sex play might be part of rough sex. If a person can’t get aroused without a spanking, gets aroused by spanking alone, and incorporates this by asking to be spanked before sex so that they can perform… and they can’t perform otherwise… I think you’re crossing into fetish land. The thing that is easy to misinterpret though is that the person is actually getting off on the rope, the whip, etc instead of the sex itself, even though both are going on at once. If the person is just getting off on the sex and the rest is just spicing it up, just the mustard on the burger, it’s probably not a fetish. I think this is what causes some confusion about it.

And don’t pick on people who decide to define their sexual boundaries for themselves instead of your dictionary or DSM manual.

Sorry. Today I am just not “playing well with others.” @dp I lurve ya so much a fluthered ya, but I am going to disagree with you here and that’s all there is to it. I can’t believe I wrote this. Ha ha ha.