Do you like to make friends on Fluther?
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March 5th, 2010
So many times, will make a nice comment about a member’s question or answer and never hear back from them. Some members just don’t want friends. Thought about this, maybe, some people just don’t make friends on the internet. Can understand that!!!
My fellow Fluther members, how do you see it?
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I’m not really good at making friends on the internet. There are people I talk to a lot on the internet, but for me personally, it’s difficult to turn purely online relationships into what I’d call friendships.
I have a feeling though, that when people don’t reply to nice comments, they’re busy or lazy, and they forget about it. It’s not that they don’t want friends, but you have to be selective about the people with whom you start a conversation, and sometimes the context isn’t suitable either.
@iphigeneia got’cha…you are probably right…guess, i’ve been guilty of not replying back also. Thank you for the answer!
I love to make jelly friends! It’s much easier for me than in real life, being plagued by Aspergers Syndrome. My Fluther friends saved my life during the hellish three months following my wifes death. I would have ended it if not for the encouragement from you wonderful folks.
I thought we were already friends….. sniff sniff scuffing foot
I’ve also said nice things to people via private comments without receiving any sort of reply or acknowledgment. A good analogy is fishing: you cast that line out there and sometimes you get a bite immediately, while other times you catch nothing.
I just like making new friends, period.
Thanks to Fluther I get the chance to meet many wonderful people that I normally wouldn’t have the opportunity to meet in real life. I love making friends here. I can imagine having coffee, a few beers, going fishing, camping, hiking, or having a fun game night with many of my fellow jellies. :D
@pearls well, we have been friends for a longtime. Back when AB was something.
I have made friends on Fluther. It takes time.
@marinelife understood…had so many close friends on AB and most of them that joined here, have gone elsewhere. Thank you for the answer.
@BoBo1946 See, now I went an looked at your profile. I’m getting to know you.
@BoBo1946 We certainly have and I hope it will continue.
@BoBo1946 Thank you, but it’s too early in the morning for me to have a drink..
I’ve made several friends on Fluther and yes, I’ve enjoyed the experience of interacting with them. There are many fine Jellies in this interesting pond.
Yes, I do like making friends and striking up conversations with fellow jellies.
Absolutely! I’m friendly with a lot of jellies on this site, and would even consider a few of them to be good friends. Like @jonsblond said, I would love to have a coffee, beer, etc. with quite a few jellies.
Just as long as @jonsblond is buying. :)
@BoBo1946 When you say “make a nice comment,” do you mean in the thread or using a pm or via the thank you link? When you say nice things, do you say “nice job” or do you go into more detail?
I expect that if you say “nice job” then half the people wouldn’t respond because it’s rather impersonal. You show nothing of yourself. It’s not something that requires response, really. If you reach out and explain why the answer or question was meaningful to you, that would require a response, I think.
I’m wondering about these details because your assumptions could be quite different from others. If you’re from the South, you might make more of less just to be polite and friendly. If you’re from NYC, you might ignore anything that didn’t suggest a very good connection might be possible. If I had to make a generalization, I’d say that most people here aren’t interested in polite chit chat. I could be wrong, of course.
@wundayatta You show nothing of yourself. ummm..did not know that!
Well taken..thank you for “tuning me up!” Need that ever once in a while!
friendly and polite, I’m…my mother insisted; no, demanded! Btw, at age 87, she still does….and belief me, don’t want to mess with that wonderful lady! lol
@BoBo1946 Just my opinion. Others may get more out of “Nice day, isn’t it?” Or “nice comment.” I feel like that’s just being nice, and most of the time I might say, “thank you.” However sometimes life gets in the way, and I never get back to it. However, in either case, I would never guess that someone was trying for friendship. For me, friendship is a serious thing, and requires much disclosure. It takes a long time to build, and I need to believe the other person actually is interested in me. It takes a lot for me to catch on to that. I’m kind of oblivious, and my default assumption is that people are being nice, not interested in anything else.
@wundayatta cool…but, i know who i’m! I’m a friendly person despite what you think. Think you should read some of my answer. Think they speak for themself.
Got to run..great day to “hit the golf ball!”
“I’m nice! Dammit, I saw Drum the other day at the Piggly Wiggly and I smiled at the son of a bitch!”
(Aunt Weeza)
@Trillian lmao….good one!
i’m nice too, apparently no one knows it!
excuse me, my answers…loll..don’t want to offend anyone!
@BoBo1946 I feel like I’ve made a few connections. It’s difficult to get to know someone online, and a few times I’ve been surprised by answers that people have made that kind of differed from the mental image I had pictured, but for the most part I’ve hoped that me having a different opinion than them would not lead to them deciding that they didn’t like me or want to continue getting to know each other.
@wundayatta you just taught me about the thank you tab…. somehow I have missed its existence! It helps me better understand a few PMs I’ve gotten.
I can see building friendships with a few people on fluther.
@wundayatta think i misread your comments. Would like to apologize if my comments were somewhat terse! After reading your comments again, totally agree. Thank you!
@Trillian totally agree….thank you for your answer!
I love making friends on fluther – or anywhere else for that matter!
It costs nothing to be friendly, and although we don’t really know each other, we can get a better idea of a person’s personality by being verbal.
Glad you out on the golf course again.
Tell us one of your ‘one liners’ please BoBo LOLL
@partyparty remember the little candy hearts that we use to give to our g/f…well, they probably still do..but, it said, “be my friend!” Awww…not said, but written on the heart! We must be politically here!!!! loll
Yes I certainly do remember them. You can still buy them now at:
www.lovehearts.com….. I’ve just sent one to you my friend LOLL
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