[[NSFW]] Is love and sex the same thing?

i think you are looking in the wrong places for love

edit: i mean, like usually clubs = one night stands

No

Oh man girl…my common sense tells me that a bar is not the place to be looking for your soul mate. It’s a rather famous phenomenon: you go to bar, dance and get drunk, then you find a handsome guy and enjoy a night. Its not a place famous for being loaded with nice family guys who will stay with you for a lifetime.

Your problem is straight and simple: you are looking in the wrong place. Bar and marriage is practically an oxymoron. I’m only a highschooler and I’ve seen this over and over again with others around me. Really, look somewhere else. You might be surprised.

How old are you? Where are you finding these men?

You mention the bar. Is that the only place you meet men? Because I hate to have to break it to you but.. That’s the only reason men go to bars: To get laid. If they want a relationship, they find girls other ways, like at a book store if they’re into reading. At the beach if they’re into surfing. So on and so forth.
Do you really meet up with a sweaty guy in a noisy bar and think he’s going to be “The one” because he got you a drink?

I can tell you as a young man, I certainly am not interested in just sex. Though, I’m not really interested in finding my “soul mate”. I’m looking just for a girl who’s more than a friend.

Wait…I’m confused. On your last question, you stated that you’re only in high school…with a major creep on your trail. It bags the question: what is an underage high school girl doing in bars?

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt because I know what its like to be doubted right off, but this is just really, really off. Can you explain, maybe?

Don’t participate in the dance night and one night in the motel and you won’t have this to complain about. Finding your soul mate in a bar may be possible, but….........

Oh yeah, to answer your question, no.

Sex can be one of many ways of expressing love. But it in no way the same thing.

I just read an article by Roger Scruton wherein he argues that we as a society have become too willing to settle for sex without love. In other words, sex is easy; love is work, and too often people are willing to settle for what is clearly second best. But that’s the only mindset you’re going to find in a bar. Try looking elsewhere.

This is a bait question. She doesn’t have these problems. Just looking for the attention that she never really gets.

/sigh

The grass is always greener on the other side. When you finally do find a relationship, you’re going to wish you could just meet new guys instead.

Here is a very similar question that has many great answers.

For us men, love and sex can, and often are, two very different things. But when we feel romantic, we usually feel horny too. But we men are usually driven strongly by our insatiable sex drives, whereas women are governed mainly by a desire to be cuddled and addressed emotionally first.

Love and lust are two very different things. Love is staying home with a sick child and lust is staying home with a very healthy adult.

I would love to hear a responce to @ArtiqueFox‘s second comment: “Wait…I’m confused. On your last question, you stated that you’re only in high school…with a major creep on your trail. It bags the question: what is an underage high school girl doing in bars? I like to give people the benefit of the doubt because I know what its like to be doubted right off, but this is just really, really off. Can you explain, maybe?”

Fact from fiction truth from diction. Guilty as charged, I am one who care for more than just the sex. However, you must live in the USA the basic thought here is that sex is mostly a commodity. It is either a non committed act for one’s own pleasure or just another thing on the punch list in a relationship. The specialness has been stripped away. It is no longer something to be worked towards with baited anticipation it is more expected. With that no one cares to attach any feelings more than the amount of lust it takes to just go boink for a few hours then move on to the next roller coaster ride. Why commit to anything you can get so freely? Back in the day to get under a gals skirt or in her pants you had to put work for at least 6 months or longer and be vested in the relationship. Sex was not watered down to being just something to chase after for a night and nothing more. Sadly over time women who were pretty much the gate keepers fell short of the duty and made it too easy to take it lightly.

Love involves being emotionally vested in ways other than just physical. It involves commitment and playing attention to detail. You can have love with hardly any sex involved. Love is not selfish it seeks to give more to your partner than you receive and you do it gladly even though you are not getting quit pro quo.

maybe most men go to nightpub or bar for sex…

so u can don’t go

You mean ”Are love and sex the same thing?”.

No,of course not.Sex consumers??now,that’s just funny;)

It is if you both need and love sex.

ew! why and what are you doing with them in a motel?? sheesh theres your answer

~The following answer I’m about to give is going to be written in absolutes based on my personal experience and I am aware that this certainly may not be the case for all men.
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If they are under 35 years of age, 90% will prioritize sex first. Testosterone, is, after all the main sex hormone.
As the age increases (and the hormones level out), then sex becomes lower on the priority list. Not to say that it goes away completely. A [healthy] man’s sex drive is always there, it just isn’t as all encompassing as it once was when they were less than 35 years old.

Stop giving it up so quickly and maybe you will find that intimacy and connection you are missing.

No but you’ll often find interest in sex with the person you choose to be with is a strong affirmation of whatever love there is. As for the age of people you engage, that’s a hit or miss. I’ve seen people between 18–21 have great interest and value in finding a life partner they can love, respect and enjoy comittment with. You never know who will come through for you, don’t let age be deal breaker. You will even meet good people who share your focus in bars, clubs, wherever but a bit of talking first will guide you as to who you’re dealing with. Don’t throw in the towel yet.

@AstroChuck I like those comparisons. As a happily married (and healthy!) father of two little children, I can totally relate! Lol.

So then, don’t hook up with those kind of guys and learn how to turn down the offer when they ask you if you want to spend a romantic night at the EconoLodge. There are other, better men out there. Trust me.

Thats what you get when you visit the local cattle market!

you meet nice men in church or the grocery store not a bar because thats where theyll be when there not around. Drinking their livers to a pulp preying on woman who are out with their girlfriends. There just looking for nice piece of chicken ie * breasts thighs legs!!! girl you gotta let the nice guys come to you. The kind that will let you cut in line when you have an armfull of things when your hair is a ,mess and you r in a rush!!! dont worry youll find him just dont ever settle for anything less than your worth