When you fluther folks were teens, did you guys often fall in love?

You need to distinguish between infatuation and love. I have had a thousand infatuations, 5 or 6 serious relationships, two marriages, and have been in love once.

Its always about love. ;-)

Good question. I find that now as an adult. When I have the, lets get past the infatuation and lust, then we will see if it is love, attitude.
No one likes that way of thinking.

How does one distinguish between infatuation and love?

Only the once honey and I still love him with every single bit of my heart. He’s amazing and thats why I married him over 25 years ago and why I’ll never stop loving him. I’ve been blessed and I’m so grateful for it.

you are infatuated with me, but you love your husband, @janbb

@dpworkin And you are infatuated by looking in the mirror, good sir! (Only kidding)

I’ve been in love 5 or 6 times, but only once did I feel love for two women at once, and they were very different feelings, so I don’t think there is only one kind of love.

I fell in love as a teen in 1964,with my friend of 2 years. He remains and I with him. Life is good.

I think I fell in love a lot, but so many of them never worked out. I’m sure people think of that as an infatuation, but I don’t really know what that means. I think most love relationships start with infatuation, and given a chance, can blossom into love. So I wouldn’t dismiss infatuation as unimportant or unreal.

I find that I have strong feelings about a number of people. Sometimes I would go so far as to say I have been in love with two people at once. That is very difficult. Usually one person has a stronger pull on you. Sometimes the pull is equal, but for different reasons. It gets very complicated. It is difficult to manage such situations without hurting someone, so it is best not to get into them.

Crushes,yes.Love,no.

@lucillelucillelucille. You’re fast on the draw this morning. That was what I was going to say too. I had several crushes but not experiences of falling in love.

Only one person at at time here. i did not have much time to fall in and out of love, when i was younger. i was in the music business and that took away a great deal of my teenage years. only had one true love back then and she is still around today. proud to say we have been married to each other for 44 years and are still very happy with each other. i only wish i could spread some of this dedication to teenagers of today, that marry each other way too early.

Falling in love has always been a fairly intense experience and couldn’t imagine having anything left over to be able to fall in love with 2 women simultaneously. One woman will get all my attention once true love factors into the equation.

When I was 14, I was one of those people that cupid aimed a huge cannon bomb at instead of his regular arrow. I’ve only been in love once. I’ve been with him ever since. (22 years.) And he’s sitting right behind me watching TV.

Just a note: The actual romance part began when I was 18,—just to clear that up

I’m 17, going on 18. I’ve almost fallen in love once before..but that did not work for reasons out of my control. But now I am in love and I’m still with him :) I think this one’s gonna last :D Anywho, only once (almost twice) for me. I think it’s because I do know how to distinguish the different feelings of love and lust.

Side note: My Spanish teacher of two years always said “Es facil enamorarse cuando esten jovenes.” Which means It’s easy to fall in love when you’re young :)

As a teenager I was incapable of knowing the full extent of what it is to love. I certainly had my panties get moist over this or that guy, but actual love? There is so much more to love than the physical reaction to a person that my answer is a definitive “no”.
And the real problem with love is that one cannot stop loving a person, so that if one loves a person who is no good for one, the process of leaving the person is excessively painful and being absent from him does not make loving him go away.

I had tons of crushes, but they were all on straight guys except for one. Because of that, I couldn’t ever pursue any of my crushes and I was never in a relationship in high school or middle school. However, one of the boys I had a crush on since middle school did turn out to be gay and after he became my friend, we became boyfriend and boyfriend last summer. And yes, I do love him.

So, I did have a lot of crushes, I but I couldn’t do anything about them. :(

I’m 17 (closer to 18 than 16), and have never had so much as a crush. It’s funny, because I’m a very romantic person, but I’ve never found anyone that I want to be romantic with.

When I was a teen, I only loved one person, and he lived in another state. When I heard that he got married, I was very sad. There were several other people I thought I wanted to go out with, but they usually weren’t interested in me.

I wouldn’t call it love, but when I was a teen I had a couple of “crushes”. It was not until I was in my mid-20s that I really fell in love with the woman that I would eventually marry and bear my children. So to answer your question, as a teen, not really.

@DominicX Judging from your pic as a 14 year-old, you were very cute. I am sure if you took the chance on one of those crushes, you would have gotten a favorable response! ;)

I only fell in love once as a teen, and that guy was my boyfriend for 4 years, from when I was 16–20 years-old.

Looking back I can see that I fancied quite a few people, at the time I would have sworn-blind that it was love, now I know for a fact it wasn’t.