I feel depressed and like nothing matters... what should I do?

Nothing gets us out of our own heads like helping others. Consider some type of volunteer work in your area.

Eat some Apium graveolens and extra crunchy Arachis hypogaea butter. Works for me!

“Everything will be okay in the end. If everything is not okay, then it is not the end.”

I say (and I’m no doctor) to try not worrying about being depressed. It sounds like you’ve got a completely legitimate reason for feeling the way you do. Go ahead and let yourself feel sad. Feel free to cry and let go. You can focus on the good times, but just try and relax and be okay with the present. Hang in there. Life is just poop sometimes.

I went through the same emotions when I lost my best friend.
Honestly, I never got over it. I never stopped thinking about him. I never stopped blaming myself. I guess you could say I still obsess over him. Try not to get sad when you hear the songs and see the pictures. Try to remember the good times you had and how amazing of a person he was. It’s going to be hard, but to keep yourself sane, you kind of have to focus on the good.
As for wanting to die… think about how much you hurt because you lost someone important to you. You’d make so many people feel the same way. It’s just not worth it.
If you’re up to it, I’d love to hear about your friend.

You really can’t count on anyone but yourself one day to the next. Do not invest the blood sweat and tears of your future in anyone but yourself.

Tullamore Dew first. failing that whailing and gnashing of teeth. If that persists for more than a couple few weeks, the seek out help from a pastor or physician.

Go ahead and feel the sad for a while; you had a real loss. Stay close to other friends and your family too. If you don’t start feeling better pretty soon, talk to a counselor.

You are still grieving, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It is a process. Allow yourself to feel and don’t judge yourself.

There has been much research done on the stages of grief. Those stages are
1. denial
2. anger
3. bargaining
4. depression
5. acceptance

The good news is that you are on the next to last step of grief: depression. I wish I knew how to tell you to get to the last stage: acceptance, but I don’t.

Perhaps you could have a little private ceremony in your room to remember your friend and say goodbye and then release him to heaven.

Again, get This Book and find wholeness.

Are you in school?
If so, talk to a school counselor.
I think it’s important to reach out to someone you can talk to. Perhaps someone who knew your friend. Talk about the good times.
Good luck, hun.

“I feel like I lost a huge chunk of my future”

You cannot loose something that hasn’t been made yet.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies That’s sound advice.

@rangerr He was the best person, best guy and my best guy friend. He was my everything. I feel lost when I don’t get some text of a silly smiley face. He was a gentle guy, but was sure of what he wanted. His best friend would always tell me my friend liked me and my friend would show it, but I was too scared to let him know I liked him. He had a smile that could make anyone happy. He was very cute, funny and always listened. We would share things with each other that we couldn’t/ I can’t share with other people. I feel like I lost the only person I could confide in. I just hate everything right now.

@hawaii_jake I don’t think I am anywhere near finished. I don’t want to accept anything. :(

@Vunessuh I graduated early… so I have no one I want to talk to or can talk to.

@ducky_dnl : “I don’t think I am anywhere near finished. I don’t want to accept anything.”

That’s the depression talking. You’re right where you’re supposed to be.

Try talking to a therapist or counsellor.

I’m a depression patient. I’d say, it’s not too late to help yourself now that you realized you had a problem. The best way would be seeking professional advice from a psychiatrist or therapist. It’s not something shameful or you should be scared of. Depression is just a very common type of emotional problem nowadays. The professionals can help. They can show you a way out in the dark. Have faith in yourself.

Go to your local Humane Society and volunteer to be a dog walker. It’s a huge cheer and it really really really needs to be done. Go… go now… your furry friends await you… woof

@Charcoal and @hawaii_jake I talk to a counselor. I hate her… I want her to shut up with that “clinical, your feelings are normal” crap. I’m tired of hearing that. Counselor after counselor. They don’t help. According to my moms insurance company I have used every counselor in my town. Guess what! They don’t and haven’t helped at all.

Go to an animal shelter and volunteer to walk the dogs. DO IT!!! and all your problems will disappear instantly. DO IT… they need you!

and you need them

@ducky_dnl, Sadness is a normal reaction with what you have on your plate, which is why the counseling doesn’t help. There is nothing wrong with you for grieving over the loss of your friend, and your own illness. Finding your way through is difficult, but you’re not alone. Don’t let yourself be alone. Have you attended any group programs?

You might want to get help from a therapist or other professional. While a lot of what you are feeling and thinking is perfectly natural, you don’t want to let it get too far out of control. If you don’t have health insurance or money you can very often find mental health support in your community on a sliding scale. If you really “feel like you want to die”, that is something to take seriously. Good luck. I have lost people I love and I have also lost dreams, like you. And sometimes it almost more than you can bear, it’s not easy, but you don’t have to be all alone in this. Get some help, somewhere. O.K.?

If you do go on an antidepressant regimen, when coupled with counseling, recovery is much faster and more complete. In the meantime, riding out depression is not a picnic. I’ve been fighting depression for almost 20 years. Finding the right meds and, more importantly, the right counselor takes time and patience. You may find you find closure and recovery on your own in the meantime. I can’t count the meds I’ve tried, but lucked into a great psychiatrist at the VA.

i can not give the best advice because i have not been in that situation before
however i did have someone close die before and it is tough but talk it helps (whether it feels like it does or not)

my heart goes out to you and i hope your life will turn around

Be kind to yourself. Losing someone you love is probably the hardest thing you will ever go through. But you can go through it. It is painful and feels unending sometimes, but know that it will end. You just don’t know when.

On a day when you are feeling better, make a list of things you enjoy doing and put on your fridge or other surface where you’ll see it. On days that are hard, try to choose something from that list and do it. Don’t think about it as you could think your way out of it, just do it.

If things get really bad and you are feeling very suicidal, get help. You may want to bookmark this site:

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

The feelings of grief are very deep. They show just how much we care for the people in our lives. But we are meant to go on with our own lives…eventually.

I recently lost my mother, unexpectedly. The grief that bubbles up sometimes is overwhelming. I cope with it by remembering all the strengths she passed on to me, the ones that made me who I am today.

My thoughts are with you.

Sounds like you need to actually talk to someone face to face. Someone positive who will listen to you and hold your hand, hug you, who is close to you. If you don’t have anyone like that – see a therapist. they get paid to agree and sympathize with you. :)

This worked for me…I’ve been through the same feelings….

Jesus loves you,He died on the cross for us and cares about you,me and us ALL. He has a plan for you, a hope and future. I pray for God to speak to you, and you come to know Jesus as your Savior and ALL those lost. We just ask Jesus to forgive our sins,invite Him in our heart, He is Faithful an Just to forgive ALL our sins, more about Jesus at CBN.com
Thanks for your time, God Bless in Yeshua of Israel.Amen. Shalom