WTF was up with my friend?

She sounds insecure and passive aggressive. Just ignore it and be friendly. Let her contact you next.

I’d confront her and ask what was up.

If a friend of mine acted like that, and I was very sure I had not given offense in some way, I would think either that she was not feeling well or that she was preoccupied with some problem or concern. I guess if it was one certain friend, I might wonder if she were off her meds.

But it does sound a bit like she had something on her mind with respect to you. If she’s really your friend, you should be able to ask if she’s pissed off at you for some reason, so you can make it right, whatever it is.

I’d ask about it but I always try to give them the benefit of the doubt first.

People fight their own battles. They stay essentially the same, with the same basic personality and dispositions, but sometimes feel trapped and try new attitudes and approaches, and aren’t graceful, polite, or successful at it yet because they’re trying something new and haven’t gotten very good at it. Aka, shes going through a phase…growing pains…isn’t totally satisfied with her approach and hasn’t totally given up searching for new approaches. I think the attitude someone has around you, shouldnt be taken personally, because that’s the attitude they are capable of and planned for, regardless of who was listening. When I’m on the border of assuming someone’s message is directed to me personally, I realize that’s how they talk to other people too, apparantly.

Drugs?

You mentioned she was acting “spacey”. As Jeruba mentioned, she may either be off her meds or on some meds.

That behavior definitely qualifies enough to initiate a conversation about it. At first I was thinking she might have been preoccupied, but she actually crossed the line, treating you disrespectfully several times. Of course, you won’t ever really know unless you ask her. Depending on how she responds when you ask to talk, she could blow you off. But at least you’d have your answer. If that happens, you are free to make your own decision regarding the friendship. It’s a two-way street.

If this is the first time it has happened, and because she initiated the get together, I would say she had other things on her mind.
Perhaps you could contact her and ask if she is feeling OK. She may be worried about someting.
Give her the benefit of the doubt.

have you tried having sex with her?

We met up after I went to work (I opened the store at 6am and worked until 4pm, so wasn’t feeling too good) and she went to school.

This is the first time my friend has acted this way toward me. To be honest, she usually makes more effort toward keeping in touch than I do

This tells me that perhaps she was reacting to your behavior. Were you being difficult and in a bad mood and expecting her to do all the work to get you out of it? Maybe she had a so-so day at school and didn’t feel putting up with you.

Don’t excuse your behavior as if working entitles you to be a jerk, and that going to school is not stressful or tiring.

i would ask her, giving her the benefit of the doubt. i wouldn’t end the friendship just because of one incident.

Could drugs be an issue? Either she may be taking something she shouldn’t, or needs to be taking something she isn’t.

Drugs was the first thing that I thought of. You say you want to give her the benefit of a doubt. Simply asking what the problem does not violate this idea. Asking and accusing are two different things.
Saying; “Have I somehow offended you?” is a perfectly acceptable approach. If there is a problem with you, you’re entitled to know what it is so you can have the opportunity to make it right or clear up any misunderstanding.
If it isn’t about you, you’re entitled to an apology for the behaviour, or at least an explanation.

First, until you ask her what was up or if she was OK, I would not be irritated.

Then, why are you wondering aloud on Fluther when the thing to do is ask your friend. Simply recite your experience of the outing as you did here, and then say, “So, I was wondering what was up with you on Tuesday (or whenever it was)?”

Pandorasbox…......i think you hit the nail on the head with your answer. he only gave negative vibes about her and not about himself. there has to be more here than he has told us. if she contacted him and he acted off-center, then she picked up on it and took herself elsewhere. there is a good possibility that she will never contact him again. if there is more to this question, then let us know. john

Sounds just like my first 4 girlfriends.

What you need to do when you hang out with this girl is have a game plan. If you just “hang out” with no plan, she’s going to get bored.

It definitely sounds like she was bored hanging out with you by how easily distracted she was by seeing some dude with a t shirt or a friend at the mall.

Next time, I recommend having a plan of action for your time together. Keep occupied and this sort of boredom becomes a thing of the past.