@Lightning – Sometimes it sucks being a teenager. This may be one of those days. I’m going to guess that this is an ongoing issue, if mom is to the point of using the dreaded “my roof, my rules” line…right? Guess what, we get frustrated, too. We’re human and some of us can lose it from time-to-time, some more than others.
Your parent(s) set boundaries for a reason. Not to punish you, but to protect you. A curfew, though annoying, is there because they care. Also, it may be a city/town ordinance, as well. Let’s face it, what can a teen really be doing at 2am, 3am?? I was there, once, I know.
When our children leave the house to go out at night, there is a certain amount of worry that sets in, until they return. We have to trust that they will be okay. And when they start driving, wooooooo! That just jumps to a higher level of concern. Things happen, mistakes are made. Bad choices can be made, as well. If there is a pattern of those things, then parents tend to examine what is going on and want to figure out the best way to deal with things. If a teen is a bit more stubborn, well, things can deteriorate and we’re left yelling things that we swore we would never yell at our children. Not all parents, but yes, it happens!
Examine what you are doing. See what you need to do to help the situation. I can promise you that a sullen attitude and unwillingness to bend won’t be well received. If there has been ongoing friction, you may need to cool it and really work on earning their trust.
We set rules and want children to obey them not for fun, but to set boundaries to teach a child to be more responsible. In my house, if you are going to be late, possibly break curfew – use the phone and call me. If it’s a habit of breaking curfew…I cut back curfew for a little while until that trust is earned again. I’ve had to do that once. so far.
Parents are perfect, we make mistakes; however, children (teenagers) aren’t perfect either. Trust is a key factor.