(Sort of NSFW) Would you want your current partner to of been your only partner?

don’t really care… important thing is the current and future relationship that the couple makes.

They always are. :-)

But then again, ignorance can be bliss. If you are both the first. Only direction is up.

No. I have no hangups about having a one and only. I don’t see any reason that a one and only is desirable. I don’t see any problem with having had multiple partners. They all help make you who you are. It’s all experience; something to learn from.

She is.

We met when we were sixteen (me) and seventeen (her). Been together ever since.
Hasn’t been a problem thus far.

Very few animals are actually naturally monogamous. Essentially, we are expected and ‘supposed’ to have multiple partners at some point in our lives. Monogamy annoys me and it annoys me when people think sleeping around is immoral.

yes undoubtedly…..don t get me wrong i love my children but i would have prefered t ohave them with my current partner.

My current partner is the first serious relationship I have had. I had “school relationships” that last a few months at the most but as soon as I met my SO I knew that this was the real thing. I’m glad he is my first (and hopefully only). I never feel like I want to experiment with other people (I’m not just talking sexually here) because I don’t feel like anyone could compare to him.

@Leanne1986 That is so cute. I wondered if I would of felt like that if he was my first. But I think because I was never actually ‘in’ love with the others, then that is why I felt like it. I know now that I am content.

I envy people that married their high school sweetheart.

@ChazMaz yep….me too! Mine broke my heart…..happened during basketball season, for three games, was in the ozone layer! beep beep come in World…got some good ass chewing from my coach!

@Dibley I feel exactly like you on this. Good question.

@plethora Thank you.

Nope. The sex wouldn’t be as good, and there would be a power differential unless I were also a virgin. I prefer equal footing AND good sex.

It’s a great question. I married the first guy I slept with. In a way I would have preferred it to have remained that way (looking back). That I only knew him, had only been with him. It might sound odd, but I had so many “adventures” in various ways with people, both male and female, also was more exposed to other ideas, fetishes, porn, that I have almost become impervious to “regular” routine sex. However there is no point in looking back. So I have to find the good parts of my life experience. Not focus on the tainted over exposure I now feel.

GQ. There’s nothing I do with my partner now and want to do that I wasn’t aware of before becoming sexually active so on my end I don’t think there’d be any loss. There’s nothing my partner has run past me I wasn’t aware of before becoming sexually active so on his end I think he’d be a safe gamble to still be as engaging, open and positive if he’d come to me a virgin.

@Just_Justine “I have almost become impervious to “regular” routine sex.”
Ummmmm….yeah, that happens. Know what you mean. Have thought about that, but have never expressed it. Thanks. Great Answer.

NO experience is a great teacher

I don’t put value on my first time so it doesn’t matter all the experience I’ve had.

Meeting the first and staying with that person is good for some people that are not adventurous but I like getting some experience and finding what I like and what makes me satisfied. Then when I met the wife I knew what I wanted and she knew what she wanted too- and then handed me her leash…

@phil196662 Staying with the first person doesn’t necessarily make a person unadventurous.

Mine is my first and only, and I like it that way. I actually have conflicting feelings. On one hand, I would have loved to still be a virgin right now and have waited until I was married as I planned. And on the other hand, I kind of want to know how it feels to be with other people. And on the other other hand, I wouldn’t trust any other man to be as loving and considerate as mine is…

I’m a long way from being able to make that claim! I never bought into the whole “girls are whores if they sleep with more than one man” crap. I did as I pleased, when the mood hit. I’m glad I had those experiences. It made me super knowlegeable about what men like, what’s normal and what’s not, created clear ideas on how I expect to be treated in bed (or wherever), and so forth. I LIKE knowing those things, and my husband is never complaining when he’s privvy to that knowlege.

Yes @Leanne1986 your correct as well, depends on the relationship…

I confess, I have a tough time focusing on the questions because I am such a grammar nut.

No. I’d like for him to have had some experience. We don’t need two people not knowing what to do!~

@phil196662 I agree, I know of some people that stay with their partners more because of the fear of being alone than because they actually really love that person. In that sense I know what you mean by unadventurous.

Exactly- Unless your one of our couple friends that met in elementary 5th grade and dated immediately all the way through high school and went to the same college and bought a house three blocks from there parents house with a giant unfinished basement.

Adventurous is when they both have been going to bondage clubs for ten years and asked us to help finish the basement, talk about lack of non-adventure!