Where exactly should you go and try to meet Women without looking like a stalker and Desperate?
Male age 30.
Never had a gf but want to have one and eventually marry.
I’m a bit late, i guess and i’m really lost.
People here and in other places have told me talking to girls in Bus, or in the street talking to stranger girls and trying to befriend them, is not a good idea and that it seems stalkerish.
Well then what? How else do we single guys find female friends that can turn into love?
Oh and keep in mind, i’m a bit disabled , have knee problems so I can’t go to Dance classes. I also hate going to school and taking classes. I dont plan on going to school ever again. i hate it.
Plus if i study something i’m not the kind of guy that talks and chatters, i concentrate and study. so that is most likely not going to work.
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the library?... Video stores?
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Wow, that’s really going to be embarrassing if you’re wrong there Phillis.
Check it out fer yerself!
Who says you shouldn’t talk to women you meet at bus stops and grocery stores? That’s nonsense.
“Trying” too hard to befriend women seems stalkerish and desperate, yeah. So just start conversations and see where that leads.
If you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always got.
You could try breaking out of the existing patterns of your life, try doing something completely beyond your comfort zone… go somewhere you’ve never been before… decide what you are interested in and join with others who have a similar interest ie. Join a club of like-minded people. Whatever you do, do something new… speak to people you meet along the way, there are no hard and fast rules about life and how to meet people, we are all so different… Best of luck to you.
Dunno. Do things that interest you. I don’t know what kind of interests you have, but you ought to go find people that share the same ones. It’s no guarantee that you’ll meet SOMEONE, but hey, it’s a start.
Don’t spend your time “looking” you won’t find her that way. You are you the way you are and can’t change that. There is somebody out there for everybody and the best way to find your soul mate is to be you! Volunteer, join a club, community service and you will rub elbows with like minded suitors/friends. Do the things you love and love just may find you!
don’t be so nebbish. it’s cool but you sound ultra so. Make some eye contact while buying groceries. spend some time in cafes. talk. you won’t seem stalkerish. talk about what interests you and what you know about. have some coffee in a wi-fi place, get a burger in a bar with a beer and talk to people. I met my husband in a bar getting a burger, we started talking about the categorical imperative and mountain climbing. and be open, non- judgemental. good luck I think you sound like a great date
Maybe go where people are actually going to meet ppl. If you go to the gym, or the library, or wherever, girls might be annoyed b/c they are actually there for a specific purpose.
But if you do things like join community groups (a coed sports team) or organizations, lounges, local hang-outs, etc where people are really going to meet others with the same interests I’d guess you’d have better luck.
The only advice I can give is to stay away from bars.
Would you like to cam with me? We could practice making small talk. Maybe I could give you a few hints, or you could get the hang of simple conversation. It couldn’t hurt. I’ve already pmmed you asking if you use any type of messenger but you won’t answer me. You want a woman to talk to. Well, hello! Do you have a cam? That would make it better. We can see each others’ facial expressions and hear each others’ voices. A lot of this is learning to read body language and facial expressions and voice intonation. We could chat and it would be a fun and easy to practice your English and communications skills. I can coach you through the give and take, introducing yourself, taking turns speaking, that sort of thing. You are probably just a little socially awkward and need some practice. What do you say? Would you like to cam with me? I’ll help you learn how to talk to girls.
How about get yourself a chihuahua and dress him up. Find a nice park were people jog. When the ladies see the chihuahua they will certainly melt down. Then, you just do your talk. I know it is a crazy idea and, if it doesn’t work it will at least male you happier.
I agree with some folks; bars are not the place to look for a soul-mate.
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