What complaints do you have about the 10k parties?

Not enough cocktail shrimp.

I used to not like them at all, but now I really don’t mind them. I’ve asked a few of the questions when someone hit 10k. It’s nice to read all the nice comments people leave and when someone has a 10k question roll around, I try to leave a comment for them too. As for the “in crowd” thing, I disagree. I’ve seen 10k questions for people I’ve not really had any correspondence with, and I’ve seen 10k questions for people I talk to nearly every day. So they can’t all be in the same “crowd.” (I hate using terms like that. Who cares anyway?) If people don’t like the 10k celebrations then maybe they should treat them like any other question they don’t like and just move on.
In my opinion there are worse questions that “take up space.”

@Allie: I completely agree with you, but I’ve heard enough complaints that I thought maybe some of the users who feel this way would like a place to air their grievances without being attacked. The only complaint I have is that usually by the time I get there, there are already a huge number of responses and I’m too lazy to read them all. :P

What IS a 10k party anyway? Still learning my way around here.

@Coloma: It’s when one of our number gets 10,000 lurve. Someone then asks a question to essentially let everyone know that this user has reached 10,000 lurve and a lot of other users come and answer the “question” by congratulating the user.

I like them generally; I think they contribute to the community feel around here. I think most people who are newbies soon catch on or ask and then join in the fun. Sometimes a lot come up at once; but that’s just the luck of the draw.

They account for about 0.00117861 of the total questions asked here. I would rather have a 10K question over a “Do they like me?” question.

And what allie said.

@johnpowell Been meaning to ask; do you like me?

@janbb :: Why wouldn’t I? My short term memory is shit. You might have pissed me off in the past but I probably forgot about it after a few hours.

It takes a lot for me to remember my hatred.

I hate all o’ youse.

@dpworkin And the feeling is mutual, as you well know.

@johnpowell I was just joking; were you?

˙˙˙ǝɹoɯʎuɐ ǝɹns ʇou ɯ,ı :: qquɐɾ@

I don’t comment at a party unless I have noticed the person, but I do generally read through the thread. What I enjoy about a 10k party is that I sometimes get to see people share sweet comments with a person that I have also seen them have ’words’ with.

I have noticed that parties and certain questions highlight the positive of all those in attendance. There have been a few parties that, because I saw positive regard for the guest of honor, my view of the person changed. It has also been a great way for this newbie to notice that even the mostly curmudgeonly and cantankerous of people can be kind.

This positivity leaves me remembering that I am engaging with people, not just words and opinions on a screen. It helps me want to be careful about how I approach conflict and treat others.

It would be nice if the person asking the question included the username in the title. There have been a couple that I’ve missed because I had no idea the question was a 10k party.

I haven’t seen “in-crowd” complaints, @KatawaGrey, so I don’t have anybody in mind. That is amazing to me because as far as I can tell (especially now that we have the community feed), everybody who crosses that threshold is greeted by a party.

If somebody who has, say, 700 lurve points is complaining that somebody with 10,000 is in the “in” crowd, I guess I’d just say, “Stick around.”

I’ve never been in any group, real or virtual, in which somebody didn’t think there was an in crowd. In most cases there is a core, usually of people who do the hard work, and also of those who are the most active participants. The perception of cozy exclusivity never comes from them but only from those who put themselves on the outside and then waste their energy complaining instead of doing whatever the core group is doing. In reality the core group is usually very fluid and welcomes others who want to be more involved. That’s all it takes.

So I wouldn’t worry about such accusations. I’d just say it’s a pity if somebody feels that way. I bet those folks take that feeling with them wherever they go.

@Jeruba: Admittedly, I only saw one complaint to that nature and I can’t remember who said it or what thread it was on but it made me wonder if other people had the same issue.

@liminal: That was an amazing answer! I hadn’t actually thought of it that until my own 10k party where a few users with whom I had not been getting along congratulated me.

@all: Thanks for answering. I was hoping for a few more new-ish users to answer but I am always happy to see the input of our vet users. :)

In crowd? I didn’t know there was an in crowd. That probably means I’m not in the in crowd… Anyway, I have 0 problems with the 10k parties. In fact, I like the challenge of finding new ways to congratulate people on their achievement.

We actually had a jelly quit over 10K parties, because she felt they were all about the ‘in crowd’. I tried my damnedest to explain to her that, in fact, the opposite is true. So many new 10Kers come along precisely because there is no ‘in crowd’. If there were an exclusive club, there wouldn’t be any new 10K members at all! And of course, newcomers jump into those congratulatory threads and party with the old-timers all the time – which is great! What better way to meet and mingle? I truly didn’t understand where she got this idea, but what can you do?

Now that I’ve had mine, I object!

I kinda skipped my 10K party. I pretty much did the same with my 20K. I hope it doesn’t happen again. I don’t know these events coincided with some bad episodes of my life. I’m liable to get superstitious about it.

@augustlan: I know of which user you speak and now that you’ve said that, you’ve reminded me that it was in fact her of whom I was thinking.

Geeze @daloon, I got laid at your parties.

@dpworkin How about we exchange identities for the next one?

That sounds… dirty.

No problems here. Only that the food is virtual, hehe.

@RedPowerLady Nicely played… don’t wanna ruffle any feathers when you’re this close ;)

Someone quit? Why? All you have to do is join in! I think that was lame.

I loved my 10k party! One day out of my life that I got to feel like a rockstar!

@RedPowerLady And for you, my dear, we’ll be sure to have real food! New mothers need to eat!

@ubersiren hehe… you noticed that did you?
@janbb oh heck ya! can it be chocolate only? lol

I love them! I had the privilege of Asking @Shilolo’s 10k Q. Mine was a special experience since a couple of people had already told me they wanted to be the one to ask it and it turned out i had more than one for a few minutes. It’s a lovely milestone and in my opinion something to be celebrated when given the chance.

I was so moved by mine that I actually took the time to thank each and every person who contributed to the thread. It shows how the community embraces all it’s members and how we are all able to recognize each other even when we don’t always see eye to eye.

I say keep ‘em around.

I just think there aren’t enough 10k questions about me. I’ve only had two. That’s not fair. I deserve at least 3 per month.

I lurve them. Every opportunity to share a milestone with other Jellies is a cause for celebration.

Party on dudes!

I think 10K parties are great.
I do have a complain thought! I have noticed many of the people who get 10K party questions, don’t thank everyone who congratulated them.
also, I do think there is an “in” crowd

@Violet I would like to be in the in crowd, please. Can you tell me where to apply?

I don’t have complaints about 10k parties, but I do dislike it when I see someone post as much as possible in a 10k thread. I’m sure people see right through that and ignore giving Lurve to that user, but every GA is one too many. Some users even spread out a single answer across multiple quips (you know who you are :p).

Ooh, yeah. I have to agree with @markyy. Although, that’s not a problem I have with the parties themselves, but more the folks who respond that way. Yeesh. Lurve whores…

@markyy It actually doesn’t matter. Very little of the lurve exchanged at 10K parties actually counts, because of the site’s limiting algorithm. Those GAs are just a way of being polite and carrying on a tradition.

@dpworkin It does matter, because only the first 5 GA’s count (if those came from users who haven’t maxed out on your already). By posting more than 1 quip in a 10k thread you are (in my opinion) gaming the lurve system, because every one of those quips has the potential to earn you a maximum of 25 lurve (as far as I understand the algorithm).

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you can’t post more than one answer in a 10k thread (I’ve done it myself), but your intentions become painfully clear when you start spreading out single answer across multiple quips

Oh, I see. Well, then it must matter very, very much. I think this is an outrage! People have gamed the Lurve System? Perhaps a strongly worded letter to the Sunday Times of London is in order.

@dpworkin Haha, ok maybe that was a bit too strong worded, but you get my point. Gaming is a bit of an overreaction and using it would make me sound like a hypocrite. Maybe I’m just jealous of all the potent men on Fluther who flaunt their lurve score at me, while I’m stick with this itty bitty small number of lurve :p

@markyy Most of the posters in the 10k party threads have maxed out on the 100 points we can award to one member so even if there are multiple posts, points won’t accrue. But I know to what you are referring. I also have a beef with people who don’t wait until the 10k are actually achieved before starting the party. You’re right @dpworkin – questions should be raised in the House!

@markyy “itty bitty small number of lurve”. But you are oh so close to 5K! Here, have some GA.

@jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities Thanks! Now I don’t have to get that Porsche to compensate for my small number of lurve (which I couldn’t afford anyway).

@markyy Mazel Tov™ on 5K!

Hey hey @markyy got to 5k!!!!! way to go my brother from another (and decidedly more dutch) mother!

@dpworkin oh I’m not in the “in” crowd, I just know it exists
@markyy- HA HA! Congratulations on reaching 5K!! (No lurve please!)

Oh man, I have never been to a 10K party. My life is flashing before my eyes! Was there cake… * puts head in hands * oh please tell me there wasn’t cake!!

@Rachienz There was definitely cake. Everytime. I ate all your pieces in addition to my own. :p

@Rachienz That’s what you get from livin’ down there with the sheep. You miss all the parties! (We’;ll save you a piece next time.)