Ever had a day where you weren't interested in small talk, but, normally, you're pretty chipper and social?

It’s natural to go through cycles in all capacities, socially, physically, etc.

Take the space, no questions asked and be honest with others.

I always will tell friends that I am just ‘lying low, doing my own thing ’ and it’s nothing personal.

Listen to your body and inner voice, it knows best.

I’ve been in a quiet cycle for 3 weeks now. lol
Was on an out of the country vacation and still feeling rather worn out and in a hermit mode.

I notice I tend towards a 50/50 balance…if I have X amount of activity and lots of socializing I ‘balance’ out best with equal amounts or near so, of quiet and solitude.

I think its just some days where someone want to just sit alone and have some alone time….When it happens to me everyone thinks I am anoyed because I really talk alot and I am a person who is always happy;)

I think it is stress, or a bad biorhythm day.

Yep. I usually find that a nice long walk outside can help. By getting outside and taking some time for yourself, you can just let your mind wander, and when you come back from the walk you’re usually in a better place.

I certainly have days when “I vant to be alone.” Luckily, there is generally enough space in my life now that I can take them. I think identifying and accepting one’s natural rhythms is one of the secrets to contentment.

Stimulation overload. Sometimes, I think we have to draw on all our resources to process whatever might being going on in our lives at that moment. Every morning I wake up in a cloudy fog. It takes a while for that fog to lift, usually after a little coffee…lol, but until that fog lifts and I am able to process outside stimulus, I tend to get frustrated if pressed to process. Maybe some days you just need more of your internal resources to deal with your day and can’t handle any outside stimulus in addition to that. There’s nothing wrong with taking a time out for yourself occasionally. You can’t be chipper and upbeat 100% of the time.

I don’t know if I’m classified as usually chipper and social, but I do know I have moments and passages of time when I do not want to hear or particpate in any sort of verbal communication. Sometimes I like to be in my own little world where I can reflect and feel without having to offer my attention elsewhere. It could be stress. It could be because I’m moody. It could be because I’m human—the need for solitude goes along famously with other “normal” human needs. I think it only becomes an issue when the need turns into a dangerous form of isolation or depression or anti-social behavior.

I love to talk but I also love to hermit. I think it’s just normal for lots of people to want both, even without stress.

Usually there are other things I am stressed about that dull my mood. Other times I’m just having a completely off day.

It’s the other way around.

Some days I just am not home to anybody.

I need to retreat at times and recharge the battery, and during those times, I can’t handle chit-chat and whatnot. So I’ll send my regrets and stay in. It’s that 49–51% introvert poking through.

@aprilsimnel

Haha..yep, thats what I say about myself, half social butterfly & half hermit.
It’s a good balance! lol

PMS?

That’s me everyday.

It’s because I’m antisocial.

Some days, it takes 10 minutes just to get out of the car.

Stress or a deep disappointment get me focused on not fumbling immediate tasks at hand, all else gets shoved to the periphery.

@PandoraBoxx
Lolololol…...funny…I know…seems every time I come home I have a bunch of ‘stuff’ to bring in.

WHY is that?

Sometimes I just sit in my car in the garage for a few extra minutes gathering my momentum to unload. hahaha

Sure

Sure, only every day.

I usually only don’t wanna talk when i’m pissed or exhausted.

I’ve had this before. I just need some hermit time. It usually isn’t that long a time because I ‘m a pretty social person. But when I’m stressed, or really tired I usually don’t want to socialize. But getting out of the hermit mode isn’t too hard for me… it just depends when.

Always had trouble with that. I used to always been stuck in one or two modes of humor, but now I have so many faces I get confused? as to the best one. It’s different than deception these faces, I can’t explain. Maybe it’s an unsaid thing.

i am not into small talk anyhow…...I’m into depth and wit. I’m not feelin well and tend to be a hermit, but love the times i’m out and dancing. or when there is company. But we talk real….and not the small, inane.

This is pretty universal, dear. There’s nothing wrong with needing alone time some days and being a social butterfly on others. Yes, stress can affect it. So can triggers that are uniquely yours, or a situation that you didn’t expect but got dumped in your lap, or any number of things. If you can identify your triggers (time of day, toxic people, bill paying time, for instance), it’s likely that you’ll be a big step closer toward more even moods. Unless these moods are hinting that they may be more than normal, I accept it and answer what I’m desiring at the time.

Today.

Unless I am sick, stayed up all night, dog died, etc. I am pretty much the same every day.

Oh, yes. This can happen from time to time. Nothing to worry about. It’ll usually pass.

Yeah. Wanna make something of it?

I love to talk with strangers, but I don’t care for chit-chat. I enjoy quiet mornings with coffee, little talking. Would much rather have a hug.

Nothing runs full speed all the time. I find that people who talk incessantly, don’t have much to say. And, an elder here likes to offer this: “You can hear a lot more with your mouth closed.”