I think what people lose touch with are that there are many many hard working poor people. If they have no degree and few skills, they may work as hotel maids or waitresses or migrant farm workers and just barely get by. Still they might work very hard. I have helped a few people with a “leg up” not a hand out. I ask, what is getting in your way? The car broke down. They have no way to work. They can’t afford the day care. Nobody will watch the kids. Some people work very hard, with their teeth hurting because they can’t afford a dentist, sick because they can’t afford medicine, and then one day the car doesn’t start and they hear “you’re fired” on the phone when they call in to work one time too many.
It isn’t necessarily because they aren’t trying, are lazy. There are many preceding complications in their lives that are hard to correct. Including early and unwanted pregnancies, insufficient job skills, fathers that run off. Probably the one that stands out most is a lack of a supportive extended family. Many people have a supportive family. Grandma is watching the kids while mommy works and uncle Fred fixes the car every time it dies. Such a single mother has a solid support base and might even call family members for rides.
Some people have nobody, no support system. Little problems in life leave them hung out to dry simply because they have nobody. The very hardest cases to solve are people who have made mistakes in their youth, with a record to show it. Society, and employers in particular, don’t seem to want to give them a second chance. Every background check, or job application that asks them if they have prior convictions, dooms them to stay stuck because of some stupid move they made at age 19 or 20.
What have I done? Sometimes I give money. A lot of times though, I spend a day with them and help sort out the daycare and transportation and other obstacles. Sometimes I will pay them to clean my house then tell them to use me as a reference, because they lack references. I help them find resources. Sometimes it is something as little as letting them use my phone number because they don’t have a phone.
I used to live in a poor area. I have moved and lost touch with the glaring poverty I once lived near every day. I have not forgotten their stories, or their plights. There are so many dysfunctions piled on dysfunctions. They usually grow up in dysfunction, have poor coping and interpersonal skills, poor role models and poor education. This is not a simple thing to fix.
There is a big difference between being born in a “good” home, given a “good” start in life, an education, (@iam2smart I bet your mom and dad bought you your first car.) I think some people don’t have any idea what it takes to start with literally nothing and claw your way up.