I need advice about a friend possibly getting married.

It’s his life. Let it be.

My husband received a sarcastic comment from a friend when he told him we were getting married (at the age of 21). We’ve been married 18 years now. This “friend” is no longer a friend. :P

Why shouldn’t he get married?

I would sit down and talk with them about it being perhaps to hasty and let them know because you care you want to be sure they understand all that is involved in being married so young. But let him/her know that no matter what their decision is that you plan to support him/her and will respect their decision. Tell them you just need to understand so that you can share in their joy.

@holden Well I never said he shouldnt get married. But I am worried they havent spent enough time together. Shes been away at college for most of their relationship. So they havent spent a ton of time together to find out eachothers quirks and what not.

@Pandora Thats a fantastic answer man. Thanks!

If he asks your opinion, give it.

Be supportive. Even if you think it is a bad idea. He wants to get married and nothing you say will change that. If you give him shit you might lose a friend.

If it goes bad it is going to go bad. You might as well be the supportive friend.

A year is plenty of time, before an engagement/marriage. you apparently have not been in touch with your friend for a while. support him in his engagement. you may be next.

A year is a good amount of time.

Besides, the duration and length of the time a couple have been in a relationship should not judged if they should decide to get married or not. It’s based on how close they were within the time they’ve been dating.

The truth of the matter is that you don’t know the ins and outs of their relationship that’s leading them to the altar. You haven’t been with them 24–7, and even if you were, your interpretation of their relationship is bound to be different than theirs, together or individually. Offer your support. Congratulate him and let it go. If he asks for your opinion, then you can share your misgivings, but let it go directly afterward.

It’s a case by case thing, he has to know himself pretty well to make such a life comittment. I know people who engage shortly after dating and their marriages went well and other people who tried to be as careful in their planning, waiting and reasoning where the marriages didn’t last.

I do agree with you, a year is not enough time to know if they are compatible, especially if they’ve been apart for alot of that time. However, as his friend you have to support him in his decision. Just remember it is quite legitimate to question peoples motives etc while still being supportive…. just do in the style @Pandora suggested.