Why would a guy want to be with a girl like that?

Either he’s a moron or the sex is really really good.

Good question. Sounds to me like he has no self esteem and feels the need to be treated like shit.

So why are you waiting around on him?

The question I see here is; why would you want to be with a guy like that?

There is no reason for you to try and rationalise this. If he is going to cheat on you, especially with his ex, then he is not worth your time, effort or consideration. Time for you to move on.

These situations are more deep rooted besides the obvious answers here. One explanation could be that people with horrible self esteem subconsciously keep themselves in bad situations because they feel they don’t deserve better. Or like njnyjobs stated, he only has a strong interest in getting off, he probably knows that this other woman will do whatever he wants or knows how to pleasure him the exact way. Some people can just click in certain ways even though its not in a good way. I was attracted to a really gross woman but she had a slammin’ body and I almost made the same mistake lol.

- “doesn’t want to be with her, just needs to get over her” I’d say your assessment is correct, and that is in fact bullshit.

- That’s love in the slightest terms. Love is irrational; it’s not supposed to make sense, there isn’t an X and Y way of explaining it. In other words, when someone is in love with someone – to people observing it may not make any sense in the world, but to the actual people it all makes perfect sense.

- Just because things didn’t work out in your favor, it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you – evidently, this wasn’t/isn’t your fault. He’s said you’ve given him all he wanted. The problem seems to be that he had baggage, he didn’t close a chapter before starting a new one. Irresponsibility on his part and unfortunately, you get cheated.

The best way to cope with this is to realize that you’ve been treated unfairly. You deserve better – find someone that will treat you better. A tip – if you sense any amount of baggage early on, get out.

Now my question is @Heartbroken, “why would a girl want to be with a guy who cheated on him, treated him like shit, blah blah blah”?

It boils down to “just on account of because.” Because he does. And unless you’re addicted to drama and have low self-esteem, this is the point where you walk away in the other direction. He’s not the only dude on earth who’ll ever find you attractive. You must believe that and move on now.

Edited by me: Eh – I won’t bother.

Hahaha, u guys are harsh, but yes your right, im singel, hot, and youngh $#%$ this Shit, if he wants to be with someone like that, i say goodluck, because your going to need it!!!

@Heartbroken I think it’s a bot.

@Heartbroken They aren’t being harsh, their being real and true. I agree with everything that’s been said. And I’m the perfect person to trust with this.

How old are you?

Im 22, whats “bot”

Well, possibly because he is the same type of person she is. He cheated on you. He told you this absolute BS about “not want to be with her, he just needs to get over her”. He may be no better than she is.

But in point of fact feelings sometimes have nothing to do with what kind of person someone is. You can’t control your feelings.

You need to move on from this guy right away.

Why blame her? Your ex is just as much to blame as she is.

@Heartbroken THANK YOU FOR SEEING!!!

Now act…

Now if you are now finally single, and hot… :D

He’s a jackass, but wasting your time thinking about him makes you an idiot.

(It’s nothing personal, so please don’t be offended)

Perhaps he wants to string you both along. He has the best of both worlds. Don’t hang around for too long, find someone who cares for only you.

@wilma Exactly.

He wants everybody, now who do you want?

There is also the familiarity factor. People prefer the safety of the known vs the unknown, even if what is known is painful.
He’s a pod. Move on to someone else, before being cheated on and hurt becomes the “known” for you.

Are you everything you say you are? Were you loving and loyal and as awesome as you think you are? We’re only hearing your side – who knows what kind of a girlfriend you are. He doesn’t sound so great, either, fine but let it go and learn from your relationship. Only he can tell you why if he wanted to be honest with you.

About you being everything he wanted, and about him just needing to get over her – he’s lying, either to himself or to you, but he is lying.

Why would he choose her over you? There’s gotta be a reason: something she has that you don’t (in his eyes, at least). My guess? Sex appeal.

My advice: try to forget this mess and move on.

The relationship that comes right after a break-up rarely works out. He was in love with her, got dumped, and started dating you without getting over her. Then she wanted him back, and because he’s still in love with her, that’s where his heart is.