Why do people stick up for bullies?

I don’t. I usually step in and say/do something. I’ve always been that way.

I’d never let anyone push me around/treat me like crap. Ever.

Some people stick up for them because they’re afraid of them and could be kicked out of the ‘in’ crowd if they don’t. Which means they only really care about their reputation and not other people.

I never have, in fact I’ve stuck up for several people being “bullied”, it’s not always fun or popular, that’s for sure.

I imagine scared to go against, not just them, but the “in” crowd as @Vunessuh said, not feeling it’s their problem, not wanting to get involved, thinking it’s someone else’s problem or that others will help… the list goes on.

just remember, if someone asks for help, just because others didn’t help you isn’t a reason not to help someone else.

Because in common with the bully they’re gutless cowards.Either that or pathetic little sheep unwilling or unable to do their own thing.

@jjmah You sound like a strong girl.

@Vunessuh I think you have said that perfectly correct, thank you for that.

@Dibley Popular and bullies don’t seem to go together. I can’t seem to understand the question can you give a bit more detail?

@Just_Justine I wasn’t meaning they went together. Sorry, I am rushing a little. I meant it like, people always look to the most popular and want to follow them, despite whether they agree, and then with the bullies, some people don’t like to get involved because they are scared of them.

@Dibley when i was in the fifth grade, there was this guy and he was the only person in my grade bigger than me. Everyday at recess, he would go up and just push someone down and stand there and laugh! knew my day would come

So, every Saturday morning, I would watch wrestling to get a tip on how to handle this big guy. Sure enough, found the move to do it.

—my day came! He walked up to me and took both hands and pushed on my chest, I grabbed his arms, pulled them down to my feet, and fell on my back, and threw the “big stiff” over my head. He hit the ground with a huge UGGGGGGGGGGGG! Everyone died laughing…

after that day, he never bullied anyone ever again…and actually, we became best friends!

What do you mean bully? Its so foreign to me for adults to talk about bullies and “snobs”.

@BoBo1946 That is a great story, and a moral story at that.

Off topic. When I was a teacher’s assistant (before I became a teacher), I got to work with my old 2nd grade teacher. Her and I talked about a bully from my elementary school days. This boy was huge (rather big for his age) and mean as hell. He picked on the weakest kids. My co-worker/former teacher told me that she eventually found out that this boy got the shit kicked out of him when he was home. His Dad was a drunk and beat him every night. The boy had low self-esteem and used to pick on others to make himself feel better. This kid grew up, got into trouble with the law and is now in prison. Sad.

@jjmah Thanks for sharing that, it’s not off topic. It’s a real life story and yes , very very sad. I guess that is a lesson that we never truly know other peoples back ground. Not that that is an excuse for what he did, just that he had a reason behind it. Thank you for sharing that.

I stick up for the little guy and am not afraid of bullies.:)

@Dibley weak people follow, strong people lead.

Bullies operate using fear. They are rarely respected.

I call bullies out as a matter of course. I’m not in7th grade and I’m not afraid of getting hit. hasn’t happened yet anyway. I’d stand there and take a punch, then I’d put a bully in jail.

There are always those who attach themselves to the person out in front, no matter what they’re out in front of; popularity, athletic prowess, vote-getting, intimidation, you name it.

Bullying disgusts me and I never allow it go on ever. I told a few of my friends to lay off back in school if they were being a jackass to anyone. Not cool at all in my book.

I agree with Vunessuh. The reasons are probably as shallow as wanting to keep face, maintain a reputation or, pathetically enough, bask in that of another.
I’m proud to say I’ve never stood for this kinda shit, and was happy to pay the prices for it in the end. Stupid school, stupid fucking work force. Trying to defend someone, or yourself, is a lot harder than licking ass.

I should just become a butcher…nobody would fuck with me then.

because they’re afraid that if they don’t back them up they’ll be bullied ;) just kidding.

Simple: the bully has a social or physical advantage over the others, so they’re too afraid to stand up to him/her. They know that challening the bully will come at a significant cost to their reputation, and most are not willing to pay that price, especially if the bully is not specifically targetting them.

They’re sceeered.

I never let a bully have a pass.
When I was a young girl I got bullied a few times.
As I grew up I did my best to stop it whenever possible.
I did find that as a girl and then a woman, that I could effectively put an end to a guy bullying another guy. Especially when there was an audience.
No jackass guy wants some lil’ gal stepping in between him and his target. What’s he going to do? hit her?
The person being bullied never seemed to mind a little bit of extra attention from a woman and maybe her friends too. ;)
I suppose I could just be stupid, and have gotten my ass kicked too

It’s called “enabling”, Dibley, and it comes in all kinds of forms. The reason older children (high school) and adults do it is that, if they encorage other people to slack off and not do the right thing, they are less likely to get called on THIER shit when the time comes. They band together and aid each other toward NOT having to do what they know is right, because it’s so much easier than standing up for what is right.

Unfortunately, after years of practicing this behavior, and just as many years of their parents slacking off and not insisting they do the right thing either, these people rarely go on to become adults who are able to stand on thier own two feet. This causes hefty self image issues. They are highly dependent upon always needing someone else there to encourage them, and cheer them on. Without that, they feel weak and powerless.

@BoBo1946 I wish I was there to have seen that. Great story.

@pearls MsP, remember that day like it was yesterday!

ignorant people support ignorant people simple as that.

@BoBo1946 Oh, I thought it was yesterday….lol

In regards to bullying, I think alot of people come to the conclusion ‘rather him than me’.