What would you do, if you were scared of your own emotions?

I have been there. I have loved and been almost completely destroyed, This person hurt me so much that i am afriad of getting close to people. I love to be loved but im nearveous to tell someone how i feel because of the potential negative consequences

@Mikelbf2000 So how do you show your love?

to someone i care about? I just be nice and kind to them and talk to them. I just be myself. Some women if they dont feel comfortable around me they will start be cold and mean towards me, That hurts me. One particular case ended in a very heartbreaking situation.

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GQ – I think they would somehow let you know that they do appreciate you being there – in their own way. I think you’d see it in their eyes even if they couldn’t speak it.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Thanks, I think I agree with you on that.

Love kind of sucks, because you have to be willing to give someone else control of your heart, and the other person can return the love, which is good, or they can treat your heart like a soccer ball and kick the shit out of it.

@Adirondackwannabe That is a little deep!

They usually just don’t until after many years when the pain has subsided. But if they wanted to show any signs, you would know. You have to ask them questions and talk to them, but that doesn’t mean you can force them to fall in love with you, they are hiding their emotions for a reason and it takes time for them to use them again.

@Dibley Sorry, still a little in the dark zone.

@Blackberry Thanks, very sensible answer.

You gotta be careful not to open up to the wrong people. Some people are heartless and will use you and then destroy you when they have no more use for you.

@Mikelbf2000 That is true, but I am not asking this for me, I mean, coming from me.

@Dibley I know. I do the same thing sometimes. I ask question for others insight. Feel free to give any insight on any of my questions :)

I don’t know. Do nice things for them. Physical affection. Stuff like that.

I imagine they would alternate between being very affectionate when in private, but then be very cold in public…. as if they were ashamed of you, even if that had nothing to do with it. I think that the conflicting emotions within them would create a very confusing situation for the two people involved.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir got that right.

Eyes are the window to the soul.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir & @ChazMaz You’re both right, u can see love in peoples eyes, however the problem comes when, due to their fears, some of their actions appear to say something different.

“some of their actions appear to say something different.”

Ya don’t have to be “scared of your own emotions” for that to happen.

Actually people do that all the time. :-)

Everyone has a different way of “accepting” love per se. Read up on the 5 Languages of Love. For example, for me—I feel loved if someone shows they did something for me… i.e. actions. Some people feel loved when they are simply told they are loved, which is verbal. Most importantly, communicate to your partner what you have been through in the past and tell them what you have told us.

Think I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it because I’ve been hurt…but it would be a shame if I couldn’t express love for somebody who was deserving of it just because of a past relationship with somebody that didn’t work out.

I believe time can heal any hurt you have experienced. When the right person comes along and you sense they are worthy of trust, your instincts will allow them in. It sounds like a weak response but I truly TRULY believe in this.

Dibley, is someone you know studying to be a botanist? They can’t see the forest for the trees, dear. Tell this person that it’s perfectly okay to be afraid, because it is! But that’s not the end of the book. There is another chapter. You can be fearful, and still move forward at the same time. They can take tiny steps if they want, but the rule is that you must keep moving forward.

Learn to live without depending on others. Being afraid of being hurt is a common issue. Just learn to stand on your own two feet, without anyone else to prop you up.