Why do ladies insist they look better in tighter clothing?

Perhaps they feel comfortable and attractive in what they’re wearing, and aren’t dressing to please you.

I don’t happen to think it’s aesthetically pleasing either when a large person shows a lot of skin or clothes that I think are too snug, but it’s also so not about me.

I get that Likeradar, but it can’t possibly be comfortable wearing clothes that are cutting off your circulation. It’s not about pleasing me, it’s about being comfortable with who they actually are instead of trying to conform into the “skinny” mindset of today.

They dress in tight clothes because its either comfortable for them or something…
I dress in tight jeans and shirts or tops because it shapes my body perfectly…. I mean you don’t wanna dress in something baggy when you have a nice body!

They may be too hung up on the size on the label to “admit” to being a bigger size. Our crazy little friend named Denial. Or, it may be all they own or can afford. They may not know that you can get reasonably priced decent stuff at Salvation Army or Goodwill or thrift stores.

One thing that I have noticed is a trend in women’s clothing to have more lycra. I bought a t-shirt in a hurry last summer. Didn’t try it on, just grabbed my size and the color I wanted. Once I got home and had time to try it on, YIKES! That thing grabbed me right around the middle and it wasn’t pretty. Another t-shirt in the same size would have gently floated over my middle with no trouble at all.

Here we go again. Same old shit.

@ThrallKiller Obviously, they’re cool with it.

Why care?

Just because you don’t think they look OK doesn’t mean you dictate how people dress. Society isn’t a uniformed highschool.

No no no sexier, I didn’t mean that aspect of it. I’m not saying you can’t wear clothing that hugs your body, I’m just saying if you’re wearing clothing that isn’t made for your body style and it’s way too small, it wouldn’t feel comfortable and it wouldn’t be attractive.

Look guys, I’m not trying to slam women and their bodies. I’m suggesting that women appreciate their bodies more, and dress in clothes that fit right.

Rosie O’Donnell can not wear the same leather pants that Tyra Banks wears. Rosie O’Donnell is still an attractive human being, but she dresses in clothing that fits HER body style, not someone else’s.

The other night, this woman sat in front of my wife and i at bingo. she was the talk of the night. she actually needed to chairs to sit in, one for each hip. she was about a size 40, but was wearing a pair of blue jeans that fit her daughter. her rear was exposed and we all saw her crackers. the jeans came to her knees and, well, you get the picture.

How can a person embarrass themselves this way? security finally asked her to wrap her jacket around her waist in order to coverup her buttocks.

Interesting night.

@ThrallKiller Other things that look uncomfortable: tube tops, skinny jeans, high heels, saggy pants around the knees… yet the question we hear most is why do fat people chose to dress so uncomfortably.

Obviously, it is about pleasing you, or you wouldn’t have included this lovely sentence in your question. “I don’t want to be treated to the sight of rolls hanging over your pants because you’re wearing jeans that are three sizes too small!”

I think you all are taking this the wrong way. I’m not being rude about anything or trying to dictate anything. I’m just wanting ladies to be proud of whatever size they are instead of trying to be someone they’re not!

Silverfly- what do you mean?

There is nothing comfortable, nor sexy about looking like a walking sausage.

@ThrallKiller Silver means that this question has probably already been asked 100 times.

I understand what you mean Thrall, but the simple fact is that people can do what they want. No one is forcing you to literally stare at a large woman in tight clothes for an extended period of time. You walk by them, see them, and that’s it. Have you ever been to NYC? There are people of every type of style there to the point where no one cares anymore.

Likeradar, you’re reading too much into it. I am not the only man, or woman for that matter, who is bothered by ladies who may be wearing jeans and tshirt but are exposing enough skin they might as well be wearing a swimsuit to the dinner table.

It’s one thing to dress in clothing that hugs your body or molds to your body. It is quite another to wear clothing that exposes half your body because it’s too small. A busty woman with a tight top that exposes a little cleavage is one thing. A busty woman with a tiny tiny top and too tiny jeans that exposes half her breasts and her buttcheeks is going too far.

It’s not that I think women should dress to “please me”, it’s that women should dress in clothes that actually fit their body style!

Oh, sorry if I’m asking a repeat question. I’m brand new here. But thanks so much for the warm welcome…

By “ladies” do you mean “women”? What the fuck do you care what they feel comfortable in? They probably don’t want to see you in a Speedo, either.

@ThrallKiller It’s hard to welcome someone to a community that makes an entrance that is not very welcoming lol….

Clothing is not cheap and women’s weight can fluctuate a lot especially when you are middle aged or older. What fit well last week may not be the case the next. Either way spandex should not be made in over size 10. Just MHO of course!

@ThrallKiller No, I’m not reading too much into it. You stated a question that emphasized your feelings about looking at fat people in small clothes. You were called out on it and tried to convince us it was a question about their comfort.

I bet tons of men out there find it attractive.
I’m not saying it’s a choice I would make if I were a larger woman, and I’m not saying I would be attracted to it if I were a man. Your question posed it as aesthetically displeasing to you. And that’s fine. But live and let live.

@ThrallKiller I don’t want to be treated to the sight of rolls hanging over your pants because you’re wearing jeans that are three sizes too small!

Sounds a lot like your problem and not theirs, man…

Yes, I like the word “ladies”. Not as in “my old lady” but as in “ladies and gentlemen” or “I kiss the hand of my lady” or “what a beautiful young lady”.....

I would never wear a speedo.

Look, all I’m saying is women are beautiful as they are. I’d like them to feel more comfortable with their different sizes and shapes.

Why do men think the only purpose a lady serves is to be an arousing object in his eyes? What if the fat chick is an awesome lawyer that just put a pedo away for 10 years. I think I’d walk up and hug her no matter how wide I had to spread my arms.

People don’t exist to please you. Women have other purposes than being an object of your desire. They also have free will and their own fashion sense. Why do kids poke holes all over their face? THe answer is, because they want to and it isn’t my business.

Why is this directed at women only? We’ve been looking at plumbers butts forever. Not that I mind. I do stop and look.

Likeradar- the whole point was this: ” If you’re a size 20, be proud to wear that size 20”. Ladies should be proud of what they are and not try to be someone else.

I would much rather watch a woman who weighs 300lbs and is only 5’4” wear tight clothing than a group of boys walking around with their pants hanging off of their hips, holding them up…..Poor taste is everywhere. I actually enjoy seeing fat people in tight clothes.

@ThrallKiller You’re really blind to how obvious your question is that it’s about you, aren’t you? Eh, enough people, myself included, have tried to bring it to your attention, Have fun with your blinders.

I was going to troll you for being an ignoramus, but then I laughed.

Stop being so angry.

Who are you to dictate what ladies should or should not do? Oh ok. You’re the fashion police. Well I gotta tell you there is a drag queen on 6th and Boulevard that is wearing glitter and fake boobs. Go arrest her.

Out of curiousity are you yourself a man or woman?
Either way I completely agree, but tight clothing does not look good on anyone of ANY SIZE. Even the size 8 somethings walking around in their machine shrunk sweaters, look like tramps. Fairly loose or correctly fitting shirts and dresses can make someone look oh so feminine, it isnt about getting all your lady lumps out the whole time, MEN KNOW THEY ARE THERE

Big women in really tight, body-forming, really short dresses: Epicly Hawt.

This question might help you out.

http://www.fluther.com/disc/77018/why-do-fat-people-wear-clothes-that-are-too-tight/

@TheOnlyException I’m glad you don’t get to make the fashion choices for the women in my life.

Escapedone- Wow, you take a question and blow it all out of proportion. I wasn’t calling anyone fat or or making derogatory remarks about weight… did you not see where I said I love women of all sizes? I was simply saying clothes that are too tight are unattractive and unhealthy. That’s all. No ulterior motive. No saying “hey that chick is fat is looks gross”. You made this out to be something it was not intended to be.

@TheOnlyException I’m a man. And my wife is what Escapedone might call “fat”. I would call her large and in charge, LOL. And she wears clothes made for her body style instead of trying to shop in the junior’s department. And she’s absolutely gorgeous.

@dpworkin AHAHA im sure most men would agree with you! well im partial to a short skirt here and there.. couldnt hurt.. especially if i’ve forgotten my bus pass and dont wanna pay ;)
:)

hahah

You are telling people how to diress but specifically complaining about rolls on fat chicks, not mentioning other crimes of fashion including facial tats or teenagers showing their underwear. The question begs, should the whole world have the same fashion taste as you? Shall we start banning mullets? How about making a city ordinance against old men in plaid golf pants.

Who cares?

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Why do you single out women? Men wear too-tight clothing all the time too. For example, here and here.

@escapedone7 I was complaining about rolls on any size woman. Yes, larger women have more, but even size 6 ladies have a roll here and there, and there’s no reason for a size 6 woman to be crammed into size 2 clothes either.

And no, I don’t like facial tats or men who sag their pants below their ass either.

@marinelife because women do it much more frequently than men. It’s become sort of a “fashion” thing, kind of like what escapedone mentioned about boys with their pants bagging around their knees.

@ThrallKiller Ah, see, you just admitted it’s about what you like.

@ThrallKiller Maybe you could get a small community to appoint you Hall Monitor for Fat Rolls, and then you could hand out demerits!

@Likeradar it’s about what bothers or offends a lot of people, not just me. Obviously it bothers a lot of people or so many people wouldn’t have apparantly posted a similar question on here already.

@ThrallKiller Lots of people also post questions about the world ending in 2012. Doesn’t make it right.

@dpworkin I love the fact that you, too, speak fluent sarcasm. Live long and prosper on that high horse of yours.

@ThrallKiller seeing what you’ve said about your wife, i can see you dont mean any harm with this question:) i agree that people of any shape or size should wear clothes that flatter them, and people of any shape or size should have some SHAME.
i dont wanna see a size 8 or size 16 or size 39 booty hanging out of some ho shorts ANY DAY OF THE WEEK

:)

Ah this takes me back a bit!! :-)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VMnjF1O4eH0

This thread (question) just makes me sad. Again, who the fuck cares? If you don’t like it, then move along little doggie. Move the fuck along.

@Likeradar Doesn’t make it wrong either by the standards of many on this post apparently. All the posts of “who cares” and “live and let live” and such… So by the same standards of me being told to just “not look” at the people that bother me, don’t look at this post anymore if it bothers you.

I asked an honest question for my first question here, and what I mainly got was a bunch of trolls telling me to fuck off. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy, really.

@Scooby Ahhhh love that song. Anyhoo, ladies with big “ghetto booties” can be very sexy. Just not when they sit down in a chair and half their butt pops out of pants that are too small. Top of a thong hanging out the top of the jeans is fine. Seeing far enough down on the thong where it actually is swallowed by the buttcrack is not cool.

“Why do ladies insist they look better in tighter clothing?”

It should be why do “some…”

And, I see it too. :-)

I have a really good friend that used to be a size 8. Now, she’s a size 22. She’s still a beautiful woman, but is so hung up on sizes, because of the pressure from her mother, she will not buy anything above a size 18. Even then, she removes the tags. Her husband loves her, her children love her. They think she is beautiful. However, her mother always reminds her of when she was a cheerleader in high school. Since she and I are both in our late 30’s, it’s been a little while since we’ve been in high school. She’s changed.

She wears clothes that are too small because she’s afraid to accept herself for the size that she truly is; because there is always someone criticizing her for being larger than she was.

I’ve know her at both sizes, she’s just beautiful. It’s her choice, though I doubt she’s comfortable, but it’s her choice. It really shouldn’t matter what others think.

Perhaps they have a very hard time finding proper fitting clothes. I am on the other end of the spectrum at size 00, and it is faster and cheaper to have a tailor custom make some things than to spend days or weeks searching retail racks for something that fits and doesn’t look like a 2 year old should be wearing it.

But I agree there are some people that really do think they look good in tight clothes. They are in denial. I don’t even like to wear tight clothes anymore. People say I look good, but I just feel like that all ended when I left college.

@ThrallKiller

Hey I know what you’re saying & I agree, there are some sights to behold out there, check out the WalMart thread http://www.peopleofwalmart.com/

I guess we all make the occasional gaffe, Lol…. ;-) now & then!

BTW welcome to Fluther!

I think they look better in an oversized mens shirt, you no the morning after.:)

@ThrallKiller it’s about what bothers or offends a lot of people, not just me.

Nobody has the right not to be offended. Sorry.

@Thammuz I didn’t say anything about rights….. if you’d actually read through all my posts on the thread, you would see what I meant with this question.

I am sorry @ThrallKiller. I have decided to change my mind and agree with you. I am writing a letter to Hooters chain restaurants and demanding they change their waitress uniforms immediately, because I think tight clothing is shameful. I am also writing the president asking to ban all bathing suits on beaches. People must swim in full length church choir gowns from henceforth. We shall not see a boob or a buttock again! God forbid.

I’ve worn a tight shirt a few times. I didn’t get any complaints. But when I do so it is kind of hard to get guys to look at my face when I’m talking to them, so I see your point.

Welcome to fluther. Toughen up! We are some feisty jellyfish.

Again with taking it too far… I’m not saying a little exosed flesh is bad. I love pretty ladies in bathing suits!! I would just be appalled to see Oprah wearing a bathing suit that was made for slender teenager. Slender ladies should wear slender clothes, larger curved ladies need to wear larger clothes. It’s all about appreciating the figure God gave you and showcasing it appropriately.

@ThrallKiller I see what you’re saying, i saw it since the beginning.

The problem is that you’re basically asking why people don’t agree with you on a matter of tastes. They don’t because they don’t.

De gustibus non desputandum est.

Well, I agree with you completely. I am a bigger girl at present, trying to lose part of me, and I hate it when fat women let the rolls out. Fat men usually just wear a bigger T-shirt. I don’t hate the women, I hate their clothing choices.

because as long as manufacturers make the tight, sleek-fitting clothes that fit the “spreading” woman, she buys it because it is available in her size. out of ignorance, the buyer buys becaose “hey, it fits like that.”

as long as she buys it when it fits “that way,” the woman will not push away from the table, turn over a plate or admit, “hey i need to lose some weight. ”

If they feel comfortable with it and like it, who cares. It’s not gonna kill you.

Incidentally I hate wearing tight clothing, because I’m skinny like a rail and about as sexy as a pile of utensils, so I like hippie skirts and various flowy stuff, but I don’t do it for anybody’s sake but my own. Feeling anything, good or bad is primarily for oneself I would think, no matter what the fuck anybody else has to say about it.

Because I do. If my waist isn’t defined, I don’t look appealing. Tight clothing (or fitted clothing) makes curves known.

Either their in denial about their size, or they’re trying to attract attention from the male sex because of their exposed skin.

You know…you can’t help but wonder what they would think of themselves if they saw a video or a photograph. Then they’d see what other people see, not what they think they look like…...my X started putting on a bunch of weight. He had this self image of being “buff” like a linebacker. Well, then he saw a face on video of him walking at the zoo and he was shocked. He said, “OMG. I’m fat!”

Dear @ThrallKiller Thank you so much for your invitation to buy me an entire new wardrobe. I’m sure I can find many clothes that fit properly. I can almost surely keep the expenses well with in your budget, probably around $300 for six new pairs of pants, and $400 – $450 for the matching tops, with another $150 for the underwear, and a couple of dressy pant suits to round it out at $100 each,and some matching shoes. I’ll be waiting your check in the amount of $1,200. E-mail me for my address.

@YARNLADY Um…I’m still wearing clothes that I wore 15 years ago….and everything I own came from the 2nd hand store. Also, I think he’s referring to the girls who buy brand new clothes that are too small. Not clothes that they’ve grown out of.

Also, @ThrallKiller, not ALL ladies prefer tight clothes. I’m in no way overweight but I have no desire to show off my body. I dress nicely and neatly, but nothing tight. I can NOT stand tight clothes.

I can’t believe this dumb ass question was asked twice in a matter of weeks. Stupid.

If you loved women of all sizes I doubt you would ask this question.

@Val123 Me too, but I have put on a lot of weight in the last three years or so, and I need an entire new wardrobe, but without new, I tend to wear what I already own.

I know what you mean. I love guys of all sizes and yet when their pants are wrapped around their hips and the butt is sagging like a dirty diaper, I just don’t get it! Can’t they see the pants are too big for their bodies? (Just so everyone knows. That was sarcasm.)

@mrrich724 I beg your pardon. I’m brand new here and didn’t realize I was repeating someone else.

@YARNLADY If you’re spending that much money on clothes, you have a massive problem. Who spends $300 on 6 pairs of jeans? But 6 pairs at $20 each and that’s $120. And $150 for underwear? Are you physically ripping them from the Victoria’s Secret supermodels and therefore having to pay for damages? Good grief.

@ThrallKiller ha, ha, I absolutely do not spend that kind of money on clothes, which is exactly why my clothes are now too small for me. I do not wear jeans, and if you think they cost $20 a pair, you don’t live in California. A nice pair of size 1x slacks at the cheapest store in town costs upwards of $50 (including tax). Underwear for plus size women is very expensive, and I’m not talking the flimsy decorator wear you see in Victoria Secret, I’m talking the substantial 44 D bra, and a full set of plus size panties.

@YARNLADY and @thrallkiller I buy the cheapest jeans I can find that look good on me and are basic but stylish, and they’re $60-ish. And I don’t live in CA. $300 on 6 pairs of jeans isn’t bad at all. :)—

@ThrallKiller I asked an honest question for my first question here, and what I mainly got was a bunch of trolls telling me to fuck off. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy, really.

Welcome to Fluther, where your first question [link removed by Fluther via internal edit] can feel like getting jumped in to a gang

@ThrallKiller I beg your pardon. I’m brand new here and didn’t realize I was repeating someone else.

You didn’t know that before you post your first question you’re expected to have read through the last 500 to make sure it’s not a recent repeat? The nerve!

@TheOnlyException im partial to a short skirt here and there.. couldnt hurt.. especially if i’ve forgotten my bus pass and dont wanna pay ;)

Hell yeah!

@benfuturememorydrewim Noooooo, I want my check – or I swear the pictures of my fat, ugly, bulges will be my avatar for all to see.

Uhhh if anyone actually goes to the link I posted, turn your volume OFF. The audio is ridiculously loud (I almost broke my headphones from tearing them off my head in .0023 seconds).

Seriously it feels like I damaged my hearing, I gotta get a mod to remove that link.

@anfuturememoryim Thank you for the head’s up. I never turn on the sound on my computer unless I am sure I want to hear the sound.

[mod says] @FutureMemory‘s link removed. Damage to ear drums successfully prevented. :)

@tim-FutureMemory-endrew LOL thanks. Ima go read everything ever posted on here to be certain I never repeat someone.

@YARNLADY Ever consider Thrift Stores? Mom used to shop there, and she was always snazzy and nice looking. The prices are basement bottom cheap, even in Seattle where she lived. Really. There is virtually nothing you can’t find at a Thrift Store. NICE clothes, too. My new job doesn’t require the same level as professional dress that my EJ job did. I had to scramble to come up with more casual Kackies (sp) and cords. For $30 I got four pairs of pants that look brand new, and three shirts that also look new along with a “new” pair of shoes. (Granted, the shoes look a bit worn, but who cares. That’s how they’re going to look after a week even if you buy them brand new.) BTW..when I put together my Edward Jones warddrobe, I found some of the most beautiful blazer/jackets and some really high dollar pants. I think, over time, I spent about $50.00. I am always told “Oh! I love that….whatever.”

@Val123 Thank for the great advice. Since I rarely ever go anywhere, I hate spending money on clothes for myself, but when I do need something specific, I use Charity Thrift stores, or consignment stores.

I was just trying to get the OP to put his money where his mouth is.

@YARNLADY I think the OP is referring to the girls who specifically buy and wear clothing that is too small/tight at the time they buy it, somehow thinking they look good. I know people like that….