Ladies, do you use your man as an excuse for things?

I’m not a girl but I’m highly sure some girls do.

I have used him as an excuse to not go to social events that don’t interest me. It’s rare, but I’ve done it. As for the ads, I would be plenty annoyed if he did that! It reads to me like those men either want a scapegoat or they think they’re being funny. I wouldn’t want to be the scapegoat and IMVHO, it’s not all that funny.

I have never used my man as an excuse for something. I tried to think of a situation in which I would, but I’ve got nothing.

@tedibear39 maybe they’re trying to convey that there’s nothing wrong with the item they’re selling—they just need to get rid of it.

@tedibear39

I know from personal experience that wives do indeed insist upon these things. You are correct. It is not funny. But there is no reason to be annoyed with a husband for placing an advertisement that tells the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

Yes sometimes I’m sure the man will use this excuse to be humorous. But there may also be much truth underlying his attempted humor.

And what’s the difference between you using hubby as an excuse to get out of something, and hubby claiming you as reason for getting rid of something? Would he be rightfully annoyed at your using him as scapegoat?

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies – To me it sounds as though they’re being nagged to do something that they don’t want to do by their cranky wife. “Oh, I’m so put upon, my wife says I must do this. And as I don’t have any say in my own home, I must sell this thing.” What’s wrong with, “For sale, one treadmill.”? If he is that nagged and belittled in his own home, maybe they need to work that out instead of telling all of craigslist that he married a nag. (Notice, “they” not “he.”)

No, my husband wouldn’t be annoyed. He hates social situations and I’d rather not put him through those that aren’t important. Once or twice long ago I told him that I did this and I got the shoulder shrug and a “whatever,” from him. I hope that if that changed he would tell me. That’s our specific situation; however, I see the point of what you’re saying that he would have a reason to be annoyed if he cared that someone’s opinion of him might be lessened by my using him. So for us, the difference is that he doesn’t mind being seen as anti-social whereas I would be very upset as being perceived as a nag who gives her husband no say in what stays or goes in their home. (For the record, I don’t nag. I married to a very stubborn man and it would only turn against me! LoL!)

I have a married friend that constantly volunteers her husband for all sorts of help, work, etc.to anyone that needs something done.

Drives me crazy…I always tell her that she should ASK him first if he WANTS to do whatever…..geez…talk about ‘using’. lol

Yea. If I don’t want to go somewhere or do something, I’ll say that he doesn’t want to go lol =)