Guys, why would you start talking to your exgirlfriend again?

He wants you back or he wants something from you back or he wants parts of you back… tread carefully…there is always motivation

He probably wants you back. I doubt it’s just friendship. You’d better clear things out before moving forward. Then again, you might be making a complete fool of yourself if the guy is over you and is simply being courteous with no hidden agenda.

Maybe he is just “over it” and expect you to much the same. I talk to most of my exes, always have done. Still get birthday cards from some, decades down the track.

friendship? that would be my motivation at least.

He’s horny.

My closest friends are ex’s. Maybe he’s just realized that a failed relationship isn’t worth losing a friendship over. Then again I’m suspicious by nature, I second @lynneblundell “tread carefully”. Go at your discretion and pace, his motives will likely become apparent sooner rather than later.

I contacted my ex-gf a few months after our breakup because I missed the friend I had in her, but it didn’t come to anything because she was still angry. She contacted me maybe a year later, but I didn’t respond because she had done some other things to poison the well in the meantime.

I would say he might just want things to cordial at least. No need for things to be awkward forever if you guys see each other in class.

Well that is lovely he is talking to you. Just be friends if you don’t want to start a relationship again.

Maybe he’s dealt with the break-up and wants to remain friends? If you feel there’s anything else motivating this and you’re not ready for that, then it’s up to you to keep the boundaries clear

This needs to be about what is best for you. Are you hoping to restore your relationship with him? Do you want to just remain friends? Think about what YOU want and proceed with that in mind and stay firm on whatever that is. There is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex (if you can) but if you are hoping to get back together, don’t jump, just return the extended olive branch and see where that goes. Don’t allow yourself to go anywhere in the future until you are clear on where he is trying to go.

@Exhausted – thanks for your advice. To be honest, I do want to get back with him, but am not sure if he feels the same way and (as being the paranoid exgirlfriend) am afraid that he is interested in someone else (which I have no idea or evidence over).

To everyone else, thanks for the advice, I’ll just keep it cool and see where it takes us.

I would definitely be careful about reading anything into it other than friendship. I’ve seen a lot of women lose their minds, this way. Men seem to move on and clear things up faster, in my opinion.

There are a million other scenarios too – another frequent one I see is that one person ends the relationship because they think they can do better. When they’re not getting the attention they were previously getting or it doesn’t quite go their way, they start connecting with an old partner. They know this person still cares about them and it gives them a temporary, quick ego boost.

Play it cool. Keep yourself busy and proceed with caution.

I think that he wants to see if you will let him back into your life .. If you mean what you say .