Why God/Nature puts Unreachable Women in our paths, even though there's no way to have a relationship with them?
I“m male , early 30’s.
I have no girlfriend. I love women. I’m so attracted to tons of women that I see whenever i go somewhere or ride the bus. That’s one of the reasons i don’t even want to go out( and i don’t). I just get sad because i see hot girls many times.
As a quiet guy, most of the hot girls don’t like quiet guys. That’s one thing.
The other thing is, many of these girls i see are from other ethnicity way out of my league.. for example, i see hot girls from all over.. tourists, foreigners, locals, out of staters that are visiting etc. etc. Or they maybe out of my league in terms of educational level or economic level.
I’m a latino american but not one that fits in with the typical americans…Education level wise and economic level wise etc.. it’s like we live in different worlds, so white people and asians etc….it feels like they would never like me. And as for foreign girls, well they are not even from here they just visiting so they leave in a few days/weeks/months.
These Women are unreachable even though they pass right in front of me. It feels like Nature/God is teasing us.. it’s cruel.
Why does it do it? And what are we men supposed to do?
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Hot girls? Be very careful what you ask for.
However… if that’s what you want, and you’re not hot yourself, then pursue riches. The sultry dame you want is more attracted to sugar daddy than home boy.
Well, I can tell you’re on the right path by blaming your issues and insecurities on God.
I think we all go out at some point and see unreachable people, they may be married, or too young, or too old, however there are reachable people too. You just have to hang out in your favourite spots doing your favourite things. That is where you will find them. Meaning a hobby of some sort.
I stay away from hot girls just as much as I stay away from hot cars. Lot’s of maintenance for both. Give me a rusted out old beater that runs like hell… She’ll get you there just as good, and appreciate the care you provide much more.
Until her tranny falls out!
Hot, unobtainable women aren’t a god-given right.
How do I put this gently? Stop whining. You’re unattractive? Make yourself more attractive! You’re socio-economic standing doesn’t fit with who you’re interested in? Work hard towards that goal! Get that education! Make that money!
If you believe in God, you know what they say: God helps those who help themselves. If you don’t, then… Get your ass out there and do something about it.
WELL here is a thought…...give up on the “hot” ones and start chasing girls that are in your own league…. also, try falling in love with a girl for WHO they are not what they look like.
Questions like this just show that women are still so objectified.
Reformat your eye for beauty. Forget porn and magazine glam girls that don’t exist in real life. Clear your mind of that fake crap. Fill your head with images of classic body shapes. They have much more realistic figures than the deceptive airbrushed cosmos porn princess of deception. Culture is lying to you. Those girls don’t exist.
Get real friend.
Yeah. I like what some of these people are saying.
You may find someone who at first glance isn’t attractive to you. But look twice. Every person is beautiful in their own way.
“Forget porn and magazine glam girls that don’t exist in real life”
What are you talking about. Beautiful attractive sexy women exist everywhere.
I just saw tons today when i went in the bus and downtown. and then 2 sat in front of mein the bus. So i don’t know what you’re saying.
I’m not thinking about porn glam girls, these are real.
Then it’s my bad. Sorry. Men are often misled.
Best I can tell you is to step up your game. If you want a girl, any girl (hot or not) you better get your game on. You need a style friend. And part of that style is your way of being. Take care of yourself in all respects, health, fitness, cleanliness… Make yourself blue chip!
All the while, get your intro’s down. Approach the girl of your dreams and say hello. With every rejection, confidence grows. WOMEN LOVE CONFIDENT MEN!!! Confidence without arrogance. WOMEN LOVE A SMILE!!! Not the pervert smile… Not the lusting smile… But the genuine smile from the heart. WOMEN LOVE COMPLIMENTS!!!
Start talking to the girls you desire. One will find you appealing. Embrace the rejection and improve yourself.
Stop looking for the right person and start becoming the right person yourself. Everything will work itself out naturally from there.
The unattainable woman is a myth. There is no such thing as an unattainable woman… only inept men with no game.
God doesn’t exist and all woman can be “attainable” if you can offer what they are looking for in a man. It isn’t the woman – it is you.
@Dr_C Disagree. “Game” is misinformed.
Quite frankly, any woman that needs to be “macked” to ain’t worth the time, in my opinion.
@Grisaille I totally agree with you. But this discussion was not about the quality of character of the women to be pursued… It was about the physical attributes of these women. So I stand by the “game” comment.
1. All those “things” you mention are not things. They are ideas, and don’t exist. If you stop thinking them, you will stop getting in your own way so much. As long as you believe in them, though, they are real to you.
2. It shows you your own capacity to appreciate others.
3. What we can do is get out of those thought patterns, and start relating to women as people without all those thoughts in the way. Let go of all the significance and drama and just relax and talk to every woman you meet if only to say hi, until it is no big deal. Then something will happen without you needing to do any of the sort of trying or thinking you have been doing.
@all: In therapy school I learned that you must not try to do the client’s thinking for him.
A) It wears you out and makes you want to smack the client upside the head (not good for either of you).
B) It relieves the client of any opportunity to grow.
Just sayin.
Our beliefs become our truths and reality. Henry Ford explained it best when he said, “Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right.” So start with THINKING YOU CAN and then go from there. Break a leg!
It’s very simple..“HOT GIRLS” as you label them; are not beguiled to unattractive men. It’s a cold hard fact of life that I myself finally learned after years of disappointments. As far as blaming it on God…maybe, after all…he did create me and how I look.
There are no unreachable women…only guys with inferiority complexes afraid to reach them.
The more beautiful/attractive they are, the easier they are to score.
You just have a bad attitude.
Some questions make you embarrassed for your gender. Anyone else notice that?
Try going for the semi-hot girls instead of the bombshells until you get your confidence in a good place.
There is no god, and “nature” is only concerned with propagation of the species – meaning that the “hot” chicks are going to naturally be attracted to people who will supply better genes to their offspring.
I have to kind of laugh at the 2984672908704 guys who post “I’m a grownup with a job and I don’t have a girlfriend! I’ll take anyone as long as they fit into this tiny box of expectations, and they do all of the work to begin the relationship.”
Once again, you post a question about above-average looking women and the “fact” that so much is wrong with you and that you’re destined to fail.
No wonder you’re not having any luck.
Have you ever noticed how so many ugly blokes manage to go out with very attractive women?
Nature or God or Santa or whatever is responsible for our existence gave us men 2 critically important things that can often override having a face like a builders arse, confidence & personality….. get some, then you’ll ‘get some’
@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Your comparison of women to cars and the joke about ‘tranny falling out’ are both disrespectful – I have NO idea (actually, sadly, I do) why anyone would give that a GA – I realize you may have been hurt in the past and I understand that you don’t know how else to think about men and women other than species from different planets but STOP putting your issues on younger people- gender relations aren’t black and white as you always describe, some of us aren’t into these rules and others should be aware that it’s all about love not sex not money not dicks not whatever the hell – it’s so vapid, it makes me want to bang my head on the table. Give others a chance to experience deep meaningful love.
@JeffVader If you had a bumpy tongue, it wouldn’t matter how ugly a dude you were. You would score multiple hotties.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir Stupid answers often receive GA’s because they are given by friends of the stupid answerer with no concern as to the answer itself.
P.S. Put a piece of rubber or something soft on that table before you begin banging your head…
@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Which comment and sadly I did waste 32 seconds of my life to watch this video – which assumes there’s no love in old age – it just gets sadder, your story.
Please don’t let your misunderstandings of my comments be cause for wasting one more second of your life Simone.
@RealEyesRealizeRealLies I appreciate that – how both condescending and seemingly sweet of you to say…clearly passive aggressiveness is something you use to get women,right?
Twer it not for the “right?”, I could easily let your interpretation of my comments stand as last word. I have no need or desire to defend who I am as a person to you. But alas, you seem quite bent on psychoanalyzing me with mysterious insights that you somehow possess of my past. Thus, you have my full attention.
I fear you will not let this go unless I admit to some wrong doing in my past or in my current comments beyond what I’ve already apologized to @joscketSeper for. Please explain what is condescending in my last post. I do not wish to be condescending to you. Please explain exactly how I have put my “issues on younger people” to the degree it has offended you. I do not wish to offend you.
Why are my comments considered as “issues” that require your interpretive corrections? Am I not allowed to express my views without being subjectively accused of suffering from some dark behavioral disorder? I’m really at a loss here.
@RealEyesRealizeRealLies You owe me no apology and I am not psychoanalyzing you – forgive me if it comes off that way. My response on this q has been an overall response to many of your comments (no I will not go look for them now) that express your opinions about men and women and how they relate to each other as some sort of truth…when all I want is for to start it with ‘in my opinion…’
That’s never been a part of who I am, to clarify my comments as in my opinion, considering that as a given. In my opinion, if I’m not linking to an article or paper somewhere, then my comments must indeed be from me and my own personal perspective.
However, I will try it on for size. I will try. Maybe my words won’t seem so abrasive if indeed I pre-qualified them as “in my opinion” or “from my experience”. Always looking for ways to improve my social skills. Perhaps you have presented me with an opportunity to do so. I will try.
In kindness… your words have been heard.
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