What type of personality is this? Is there a scientific name for it?

Lack of perspective? Hypocrisy? Get them a big mirror.

I think if I understand this, it’s called Manipulation by guilt and shame. Person B is the manipulator.

Can you give an example of the person B’s action?
Oooh, maybe person A is laying a guilt trip on Person B for their action.

I think I need more info, what was the hurtful action done by B?

At face value it would be easy to label B as a Narcissist that is intentionally creating these situations to be the healer providing compassion and relief to the grief he/she caused.

True, however It could also possibly be a defense mechanism they formed so as to not feel their own guilt or admit wrong doing. I can’t think of what defense mechanism that would be.
Projection ?
Blaming the victim is common though.

@Cruiser Person B never attempts to heal person A, but rather only rebuke them.

Person A needs to drop person B from their alphabet. lol

@Coloma GA!

@Coloma ;) True, true

anti social. meaning, they don’t have a clear perspective or foresight as to how their actions affect others and also, they have no understanding of how to react to normal human outbursts.

it’s similar to seeing someone choking and not knowing what to do about it besides stare. it’s simply a lack of understanding.

Guilt and stubbornness to own up when the asshole turns out to be Person B.

I call them Self Absorbed.

@MrsDufresne @OneMoreMinute

Lol.well..I have gotten much better at solving word problems over the years, like a stinging insect, swat first figure out if it was a bee or a wasp later! haha

Domination by manipulation. It’s a type of emotional abuse.

@MrsDufresne I was thrown off by this…

“Person B can be compassionate and loving toward people that are hurting emotionally”

My boss is expert at this and I feel is a form of narcissism and predation.

@Cruiser See, I read it one way, and a whole different way the second time, like I need more info.
just make up something MrsD!
:-)

@everyone Thanks to all who answered. (Although, I should have waited until the morning to ask. I tend to be more concise when I’m caffeinated. ;}

I think it’s called passive aggression, and it is pernicious.

Does Person B get angry not because B has hurt A and not because A acts hurt but because B anticipates being blamed for it and rejects the blame? or because B actually feels guilty for it and is made angry by the guilty feeling? And so A becomes the handy target for B’s anger, which is really at Bself?

I recognize this pattern. I’ve been person A and had B go off at me like a volcano if I dared to reveal that I felt hurt by something B did. I never could figure out the mechanism.

@dpworkin

Passive aggression is where someone either doesn’t respond to what you ask of them or tell them, or actually agrees with you, but then does as they damned well please.

It’s also a way of manipulating people to get angry for you because you find it more adaptive to anger others than to directly express your own anger.

I know some people like this. I usually regard it as a defense mechanism… a type of self-protection. Rather than feel guilt, they feel anger. An exception would be an abusive person. That type of person may just be the kind of individual who gets even angrier if you cry when they hit you.

Forgot to say this earlier…

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@Jeruba It is a combination of those. Person B gets angry at Person A because they perceive any expression of person A’s pain as blame. And also, Person B gets angry and denies all wrong-doing, because they refuse to process (perceived) guilt.

In other words, Person A never intentionally wants B to feel blame or guilt, but B automatically perceives A’s pain as manipulation with those blame/guilt feelings.

(phew, this is confusing lol)

@MrsDufresne Thanks for more explanation. I thought I saw arrows going in BOTH directions there.
The scientific name for that is….MARRAIGE (also pronounced Mirage)